Question:
Hey for the koreans out there ... (no offense to others, but yeah its a question for korean people..)
To someone 1 year older, do you call them unnie, oppah, etc..? do you really respect them?
I have this korean fob friend who's a year older than me, and i don't call her unnie.
like we just are like friends ...
yet with this other fob korean girl, and i called her by her name at first...
cuz i thought she wasn't fob, and she really was pissed, like she was about to slap me O__O
and she expects me to respect her and suck up to her...(IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif)
iono, i don't really consider a year older as an older sister or older brother or whatever;; (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif)
i know whole bunch of korean fobs, who expect me to suck up to them and whatever..
cuz they are a friggin year older...
like some take it a little far ...
like i know a fob korean girl whos a year older, and she thinks i'm her little sister or something -__
like she thinks since i'm a year older, i can baby you. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif)
its really annoying;; cuz i aint a little kid.
and they think they can make me do stuff, like do this do that, cuz they are older......
they treat me like i'm a little kid or something cuz they are a YEAR OLDER...
i consider someone in the year diff not a big deal, but thats just me...
when it gets to be 2 years and above, then you pretty much have to respect them & call them unnie , etc....
but yeah...
so what do you guys think? how do you approach someone whos especially a FOB, and they are a year older...do you treat them as a friend or an older person?
lol sorry if this is a stupid topic but yeah im curious on what you guys think..
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i usually treat them as my friends ..
but i still call them 'unnie' or 'oppa',
including to those who are more than a year older
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I have a fobby friend who's 2 years older than me
and I don't call them unnie often
but they don't mind..
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When I talk to a Korean in English, I usually call them by name.
And when I talk to them in Korean, I usually call them nuna or hyung ...
However, there are some people that I call nuna/hyung either way ...
I don't really see that as respect though ... I just see it as a custom.
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i call them unnie/oppa even if they are one year older...
i dont necessarily suck up to them, nor respect.
i have an unnie who is 3 years older than me, i still call her unnie but she is like a friend.
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There are people who deserve the oppa, and nuna, calling. If they don't act like one, then don't say it. Well at least thats what I believe in.
Whether or not its the Korean tradition, if they don't act like one, they certainly don't deserve the respect or nuna/oppa for that matter.
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HA. Hell no. I mean, unless they did something so amazingly kind or 'hyung or nuna material' then yeah, i would *consider* calling him/her by a title. Other than that,, hell no. Why should I degrade myself everytime I call that person just becuase he or she was born a year later?
I also hate how my parents are pigeon-holing me into calling random children of my parents' friends nuna or hyung when I never saw him or her ever. Wth.
Yeah yeah, it's korean customs and traditions and whatnot but guess what, customs and traditions have limitations too.
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i call them by their names.
i mean they're in america now. they can't expect the same respect that they get in korea.
and my fob friends are alright with me calling them by their first names.
and calling them unnie or oppa is uncomfortable to me.
if it's a random fob person wanting me to suck up to them and do stuff for the etc i will definetly not do anything for that person. just because i'm younger ain't mean i have to do all that stuff.
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HA. Hell no. I mean, unless they did something so amazingly kind or 'hyung or nuna material' then yeah, i would *consider* calling him/her by a title. Other than that,, hell no. Why should I degrade myself everytime I call that person just becuase he or she was born a year later?
I also hate how my parents are pigeon-holing me into calling random children of my parents' friends nuna or hyung when I never saw him or her ever. Wth.
Yeah yeah, it's korean customs and traditions and whatnot but guess what, customs and traditions have limitations too.
How does calling someone hyung/nuna degrade yourself? It doesn't mean it's someone who should be highly respected by you. Someone doesn't have to earn the title. If you don't, than that's like calling some woman by her first name instead of saying ajuma.
Or in English here's an example: You call your teacher by his first name instead of Mr. _______.
Maybe you might be forced/expected to talk in a formal way towards them even though the age difference is like 2 years apart, other than that it's just being polite. Unless the person doesn't mind you have to do it.
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I know someone only 2 years older than me... I call her Nuna *and* I speak to her formally. (But I don't really talk to her anymore)
A lot of Korean-Americans have the wrong idea about the customs. It's just the way it is... Calling someone nuna, hyuhng, uhnni, oppa, etc isn't degrading yourself. It also doesn't necessarily mean that you have respect for them either.
Don't turn it into a respect thing... it's just the norm.
If they're gonna get pissed because you called them by their first name, then they need to realize that Korean-Americans might not know much about the customs.
Even I still feel a bit awkward speaking formally to someone only a year or two older than me sometimes...
That's how I see it...
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i try to avoid that akward situation by just calling them by their name and talking in english.
i mean come on, 1 year older, i seriously dont believe you have to.
and i hate it when they get anal about the 1 year thing.
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it doesn't matter if they deserve it or not. its just like how you would call an adult by mr or mrs instead of by their first name
also there's a difference in being respectful and respecting. calling them by oppa is being respectful and polite. it has nothing to do whether or not you respect them.
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john tesh no. I wouldnt do that to someone who's one year older than me.
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I always do that. Hyung, Noona, whatev.
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Yeah, it's a thing in Korea. Respect is really emphasized and it might cause some trouble (yes, like that). Even if you're the same age, if they're birthday is a couple months faster you still might have to call them oppa or unni. You call them your friends if your birthdays are within 3 months of each other or something. That's always the case. That's why when I talk to my Korean friends, I make sure to call them oppa or unni. They think it's disrepectful if they're older than you and you act like you don't respect them, so....YEAH.
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What the hell no, especially if i'm only one year younger. Lol, I went to Korea last year and since I wasnt used to calling someone my own age, but older, hyung, I almost got the shyt beaten out of me. Its hella nuts.....
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A lot of Korean-Americans have the wrong idea about the customs. It's just the way it is... Calling someone nuna, hyuhng, uhnni, oppa, etc isn't degrading yourself. It also doesn't necessarily mean that you have respect for them either.
Don't turn it into a respect thing... it's just the norm.
it doesn't matter if they deserve it or not. its just like how you would call an adult by mr or mrs instead of by their first name
well put, you two ^^
not to sound incredibly old, but the younger [korean-american] generations seem to have issues with cultural etiquette... calling someone unnie/nuna/hyung/oppa is a cultural norm, so why make a big stink about it? i was brought up to refer to those older than me as unnie/oppa, no matter how much older they are, and whether or not i 'respected' them~
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it depends.. some people are just comfortable so i call them by english names
but if i talk to them in korean or they're quite a bit older, i address them 'unnie' or 'oppa'
muchlove!
-jisoo
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I say nuna to my cousin who is one year older than me, but that's because I want to demonstrate my affection and obedience to her. I don't say hyeong or nuna to any of my Korean friends who are only one year older than me. Someone who is only a year older than you is not capable of providing a big-brother or -sister role in your life (unless that person really is your older brother or sister). If you're not willing to recognize a person as an authority figure in your life, then you shouldn't apply an elder title to that person.
