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Im too worried about my situation (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
I'm argueing with my mom every day now. Once a day is actually less for us. I can't freakin control my anger. I don know why, but lately, Im becoming angry/mad about the simplest things.
Because of my negative attitude, my mom gets mad and yells at me, then i yell back and we start to argue (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) I don want it to happen. Im feeling guilty and bad about it.
I wanna love my mom more than everything, but when it comes to anger, i can't control it at all.
How do you get rid of your stupid moodswings? How do you control yourself?
When Im mad, Im saying horrible things to my mom, without even worrying that she would get hurt.
Im pretty sure that if I can't stop this now, its gonna get worse and worse.
I don want it to happen. I don wanna make my mom feel bad.
I know I say mean things to her, make her mad, argue with her, but she doesn't know that Im this worried.
I wish i could say sorry, but i said it too much before that she might not even take it from me now.
When I make her this mad, she says You'd be the only person who talks to her own mom this way
I dont want her to feel this way.
I feel guilty (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
pls help.
how do i get rid off this? how do i prove my mom that i love her? how do i stop myself from argueing with her/say mean things?
pls help.
dont tell me to go to psychiologist or something, cuz no, just no.
no point.
pls help me
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Well if you don't wanna seek psychiatric help, then try to think of other constructive ways to vent out your anger. If you know you'll feel guilty later on towards your mother, you should hold back your anger from her, and use it for something else, say maybe working out or beating up on something. I personally have an anger management problem myself. I hear a lot of the same things from my mother that your mom says to you too, cept that I don't feel all that guilty even after I get mad (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
Anyway, I find when I'm REALLY about to reach the breaking point, I go and pound on the sandbag in my garage for about an hour. I feel sports like boxing or anything where you feel actual, hard contact are good relievers of stress.
If you find that sports aren't your thing, try thinking about your situation. I mean if you KNOW that you're doing something wrong, why continue to do it anyway?? Exert more self control over yourself. Hold yourself back the next time you feel like you're about to say something negative and hurtful towards your mother. Try long and hard to think about what you're doing before you act.
And even if you do get into an argument with your mother, apologize to her afterwards. Make her know that what you said wasn't really what you meant. I know how mothers, especially Asian mothers tend to make you feel really guilty by saying things like oh if you didn't mean it, you wouldn't have said it to begin with or something along those lines. But they also like the fact, that you take time to comfort them. Give her a hug. Explain to her nicely after the argument, why you were frustrated and angry to begin with. Arguments aren't something to avoid all together. Everyone gets into arguments everyday. I'm sure there's someone out there that gets into fights with his mother or father or whatever even more than you. The key is to move on afterwards by making sure you understand each other's point of view. And the only way to understand each other, is to keep talking
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I'm in the EXACT SAME position as you. I'm going to leave for college next year. I don't want to leave on such terms.
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Well if you don't wanna seek psychiatric help, then try to think of other constructive ways to vent out your anger. If you know you'll feel guilty later on towards your mother, you should hold back your anger from her, and use it for something else, say maybe working out or beating up on something. I personally have an anger management problem myself. I hear a lot of the same things from my mother that your mom says to you too, cept that I don't feel all that guilty even after I get mad (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
Anyway, I find when I'm REALLY about to reach the breaking point, I go and pound on the sandbag in my garage for about an hour. I feel sports like boxing or anything where you feel actual, hard contact are good relievers of stress.
If you find that sports aren't your thing, try thinking about your situation. I mean if you KNOW that you're doing something wrong, why continue to do it anyway?? Exert more self control over yourself. Hold yourself back the next time you feel like you're about to say something negative and hurtful towards your mother. Try long and hard to think about what you're doing before you act.
And even if you do get into an argument with your mother, apologize to her afterwards. Make her know that what you said wasn't really what you meant. I know how mothers, especially Asian mothers tend to make you feel really guilty by saying things like oh if you didn't mean it, you wouldn't have said it to begin with or something along those lines. But they also like the fact, that you take time to comfort them. Give her a hug. Explain to her nicely after the argument, why you were frustrated and angry to begin with. Arguments aren't something to avoid all together. Everyone gets into arguments everyday. I'm sure there's someone out there that gets into fights with his mother or father or whatever even more than you. The key is to move on afterwards by making sure you understand each other's point of view. And the only way to understand each other, is to keep talking
thanks a lot.
i'll be sure to buy that punchin sandbag.
I'm in the EXACT SAME position as you. I'm going to leave for college next year. I don't want to leave on such terms.
sooo true.
when i miss my mom ( when im away or something) i start to think about the things that i did and start to cry (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
it feels unforgivable.
she does all those things just for me, but me? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
i can't believe that im even crying.
I DO REGRET ALL THE ARGUMENTS... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
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I agrue with my parents everyday..its pretty normal to me.
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don't be too worried about it
it's a common thing for a someone to fight with their parents no matter how often it happens in EVERY house unless you're abnormal or a really really really really really really good kid
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OMG! I argue with my mom a lot too...and it's getting to the point where i wanna move out but i can't because my parents won't even let me do that! my only option is to run away but i'm afraid that when my mom finds me she'll do something drastic like send me back to peru, south america and i don't wanna go back there...my friends do tell me that they can't do that and since i'm 20 years old so i should just be able to go and leave and live my own life.... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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Sigh.
Why must God put menopause in the female menstrual system?
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everyday =X haha!
--Yumi
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almost everyday
i get mad a thousand times over something so trivial
yep yep...anger management classes for me (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
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Everyday~ (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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everyday with my mom. never with my dad
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everyday with my mom..geesh..i think it's me but some things just piss me off like crazii.. I can't help it!
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tell yourself that someday when you grow up, you have to move out and live on your own...then you don't see your mom/dad often anymore..you're gonna miss them. so, treasure your time with them.
then in the future, your mom and dad will leave this world....so better off control your anger and speak to them nicer before you regret it...becuase someday, theyre not gonna be by your side
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Just hold all that anger in and then when you go up to your room just scream into your pillow and punch the bed or stuffed animals. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
That's what I do.
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i think everyday... the instant i wake up.. we are already arguing..
but its ok.. we're ok afterwards..
at times though... we get really angry at each other.. and it could last on some weeks.. months even..
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yup. totally normal to argue everyday.
if you dont want to, take your anger elsewhere instead of releasing it on her. write it down. talk to ur friends.
give urself some chill time?
if your mom gets mad at you. just take it calmly. dont react cuz it'll just make the situation worse.
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tell yourself that someday when you grow up, you have to move out and live on your own...then you don't see your mom/dad often anymore..you're gonna miss them. so, treasure your time with them.
then in the future, your mom and dad will leave this world....so better off control your anger and speak to them nicer before you regret it...becuase someday, theyre not gonna be by your side
yeah, i used to argue with my mum a lot over the simplest things.. then i headed to college and i miss her like crazy half the time. even the arguments when i come back make me feel like it's home (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
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i argue with my parents every day as well T___T
sometimes it gets really bad and im always the one to blame when i didn't start it.. that pisses me off
so sometimes I have to just shut my mouth..
one thing.. parents really hate when their children talk back so TRY to not talk back and hold all the anger in.. i know it's reallly hard =( and then let out all the anger somewhere else rather than at your parents
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maybe it's cause I have strict Black parents, but I don't argue with them. not only is that dangerous, but it's also pointless cause whatever they say, goes.
