Question:
Setting: Lets say you = Tan skinned, medium hair length, average/chubby side?
You're talking with your bf one day in the car...
And he randomly said...
Him: Hey, I have something to tell you, but don't get offended ok?
You: Ok...
Him: My friend asked if you're just a girlfriend to ' play ' with. ( meaning a non serious relationship, just casual )
( His friend saw a picture of me on my boyfriend's friendster )
Him: I said no and I asked why he think that way. ( we're both in a serious, long term relationship )
Him: He said that I had a change in my ' taste '
Him: My type is usually girls with long hair... light skin... and small/skinny.
Him: But I guess I'm not as shallow as I thought, since I'm together with you now.
Doesn't that sound so... mean?
I mean ok... he told me that he's just trying to point out that he's not as ' shallow as he thought he would be '...
but for some reason, it just doesn't sound ok... I try not to get offended, but it got me pissed.
Would you girls get pissed too?
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That DOES sound shady to me, but you know guys-they normally can't get the words out right.
I would be pissed at his friend instead though.
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yeah this would really piss me off.
it seems that you're having a lot of problems in your relationship.
since you posted about 2 topics before.
...
i mean sometimes guys prefer in general girls who look different from you, but the way he said it was just rude
.. like my b/f prefers blondes i know, but he's with me and he said i am prettier than any blonde out there ... but yeah we all have preferences ... but those comments sounded ... umm ..
why did he have to mention it to you?
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yeah this would really piss me off.
it seems that you're having a lot of problems in your relationship.
since you posted about 2 topics before.
...
i mean sometimes guys prefer in general girls who look different from you, but the way he said it was just rude
.. like my b/f prefers blondes i know, but he's with me and he said i am prettier than any blonde out there ... but yeah we all have preferences ... but those comments sounded ... umm ..
why did he have to mention it to you?
He said he was just trying to point out that ' he's not as shallow as he thought he is '.
Thats it.
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his friend is saying that because it's his opinion on what the ideal girl is. Let me ask you this question. If someone asked your parents to describe you, what would they say?
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He said he was just trying to point out that ' he's not as shallow as he thought he is '.
Thats it.
but it sounds like he was saying that before he wouldn't have liked you because you're tan [why is this bad? i mean there are tons of tanning booths] and fat .. that sounds rude to me. Like he's putting you down.
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i'm in the asme issue with eth perfect girl in his eyes thing o_O
but he doens't want me to be pale so i'm gona go tanning since i'm a ghost =-=
but its a bit mean to say that but he said he's happy to be with you =) thats a good sign right?
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his friend is saying that because it's his opinion on what the ideal girl is. Let me ask you this question. If someone asked your parents to describe you, what would they say?
Oh no no no...
The part where I got pissed is when my boyfriend said...
Him: My type is usually girls with long hair... light skin... and small/skinny.
Him: But I guess I'm not as shallow as I thought, since I'm together with you now.
What is he trying to imply???
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i'd be a bit upset/hurt but i don't think its anything major to worry about ... he was probably just being honest.. people say things that come out wrong all the time...
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it definitely sounds weird. why the heck would he even mention it unless he wants you to change or trying to validate to himself that he's not shallow (which obviously he seems to be). did his friend even really say that or did he make it up himself.
sorry to be attacking your bf. i just don't have a good impression of him after reading your description.
definitely piss me off because he could just keep this to himself.
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but it sounds like he was saying that before he wouldn't have liked you because you're tan [why is this bad? i mean there are tons of tanning booths] and fat .. that sounds rude to me. Like he's putting you down.
and fat .. that sounds rude to me. Like he's putting you down.
Yeah... that.
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and fat .. that sounds rude to me. Like he's putting you down.
Yeah... that.
o_O i think its up to his preference o_O my bf says i'm fine but he PERFERS me to be thinner... same liek before when i wa bigger
its hurtful at times but iono =o i dotn even knwowhat i'm tlaing abotu righ tnow i'm so tired
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Oh no no no...
The part where I got pissed is when my boyfriend said...
Him: My type is usually girls with long hair... light skin... and small/skinny.
Him: But I guess I'm not as shallow as I thought, since I'm together with you now.
What is he trying to imply???
What is he trying to imply? He loves you. He REALLY REALLY loves you. Damn, I just noticed the title said question for girls but lets pretend I'm a girl.
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What is he trying to imply? He loves you. He REALLY REALLY loves you.
That may be it, but don't you think it is sorta mean in a way?
Damn, I just noticed the title said question for girls but lets pretend I'm a girl.
Lmao.
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That may be it, but don't you think it is sorta mean in a way?
It gives you the WTF feeling doesn't it? lol, ya, I had that feeling too, but dont worry, I mean, in EVERY guys mind, they want the perfect girl right? Come on.. let it go. He made a mistake, sure, but! atleast you know he loves you very very much.
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What is he trying to imply? He loves you. He REALLY REALLY loves you. Damn, I just noticed the title said question for girls but lets pretend I'm a girl.
We get that he accepts and loves her. But why put her down like that? Why try to imply that she's not small or skinny or that she has tanned skin [though i don't get whats bad about this]
It gives you the WTF feeling doesn't it? lol, ya, I had that feeling too, but dont worry, I mean, in EVERY guys mind, they want the perfect girl right? Come on.. let it go. He made a mistake, sure, but! atleast you know he loves you very very much.
Hmm i say though if you love someone, they ARE the perfect person.
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I think guys have a different state of mind on how to express themselves. I'm guessing, he's trying to say that you're fine.. err, or I can be wrong. Hah.
I know where you're going, I would of had the same reaction as well. _
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We get that he accepts and loves her. But why put her down like that? Why try to imply that she's not small or skinny or that she has tanned skin [though i don't get whats bad about this]
Hmm i say though if you love someone, they ARE the perfect person.
You know what I mean... Lets say that you told your boyfriend that your taste is some korean actor or singer(pretend). Did you do anything wrong? No. Like you said, there is really nothing bad about it. Girls are more sensitive than guys. You HAVE to acknowledge that. Guys HAVE to acknowledge that girls are more sensitive than guys, or we're screwed. LITERALLY SCREWED! No guy has the intention of putting a girl down, especially his gf. Your boyfriend made that exact mistake. A good example on how he's SCREWED!! I love saying that...
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Oh no no no...
The part where I got pissed is when my boyfriend said...
Him: My type is usually girls with long hair... light skin... and small/skinny.
Him: But I guess I'm not as shallow as I thought, since I'm together with you now.
What is he trying to imply???
you have short hair. you have dark skin. you are big/fat....maybe not.
he just said it the wrong way, maybe a bit insensitively.
the way males and females communicate and react to something that's said is different.
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You know what I mean... Lets say that you told your boyfriend that your taste is some korean actor or singer(pretend). Did you do anything wrong? No. Like you said, there is really nothing bad about it. Girls are more sensitive than guys. You HAVE to acknowledge that. Guys HAVE to acknowledge that girls are more sensitive than guys, or we're screwed. LITERALLY SCREWED! No guy has the intention of putting a girl down, especially his gf. Your boyfriend made that exact mistake. A good example on how he's SCREWED!! I love saying that...
well in general i do prefer korean guys .. i mean my b/f in my opinion is better than any korean guy, but as a whole i usually like korean guys .. but i don't call him and randomly say ya i usually like korean guys, but .. i guess i am not so shallow since i am with you! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)
