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eh. this might sound confusing .
kaay, um so i like this one guy at my school& we've never spoke a word to eachother.
i at least hope he thinks i exist. he doesn't even know my name&.. so the problem is...
i stopped liking him because i wanted to get to know him but it didn't work out cause both of us are shy...
i tried lots of things to have him notice me. staying afterschool playing big volleyball teams with him, watching his basketball games, & watching him in P.E..
the first thing, is that he's extremely shy.. he only talks to boys & he never had a girlfriend.
so, i found out that my best friend likes him also. and i told her i gave up on him& i don't like him anymore..
i thought that was okay, cause we both knew we liked him.. so it was either her or me to give up. and she kept saying oh im going to give up on him but i encouraged her not to..
but i think it's shallow & jealous of me to hope that he doesn't like her.. because i don't think i have actually gave up on him and i always try to comfort her saying nice things, like: oh just tell him, oh i bet he likes you, etc...
when deep down inside i know i want people saying that to me :[ i don't want to tell her that i like him againnn.. it might start something between us.
and i want to tell him but i might sound like a creep...
sighh... any advice?
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we are on the same boat,cept that i managed to talk to her. however,with each passing day i feel that the bond is getting weaker and she's starting to get close with one of my friend so i was like 'ehh..that sucks' giving up is one of my options but of course it's not easy. anyway,since both of you are extremely shy then one of you must make the first move,ever caught him looking at you? like he wants to talk to you and all that? if yes,then just say hi. i bet he wants it too =)
and about your friend,the more you encourage her the more prob you're getting into,imagine the boy actually likes you from the start and not your friend,ouch. so why dont you just let the poor boy to decide.
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Too bad for you.
Seriously you told her, she can have him. And that is that.
There is really nothing you can do.
I understand you are hoping and crossing your fingers he doesn't like her back.
There is nothing wrong with that.
Just don't make it obvious.
Sit on the side lines and just admire him, while supporting your friend.
Cause heck, it was you that told her you gave up on him
And she is your best friend.
[edit] You can always talk to her about it. But I know for a fact things between you and her won't be the same, especially if she is really into the guy.
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Since you two are close, you should never let a guy come between you both. No friendship is worth losing over some boy who doesn`t even notice you both. First thing, is if you like him, you should actually talk to him, and you shouldn`t be encouraging your friend and for you to tell her you gave up on him and you haven`t isn`t that not being true to yourself and her. It`s like you`re risking your happiness for you friend, but what do you get in return, you know? And how to talk to him..umm..you could actually introduce yourself, without sounding like a creep and just saying hi .. and he`ll actually notice you more. Yeah, it`s hard when your best friend likes the person you like, but you should haven`t told her you gave up on him, if you really liked him, you should actually talk to her about it, yeah it`s going to be hard, but that`s one thing, and that other thing you could do, is go find another guy, and move on, but it depends on how much you like him, if you didn`t like him that much you could actually try moving on, and give up, it depends on you and how you feel. Goodluck hun 3
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Just a question, why would you seem like a creep if you told him you liked him? There's nothing wrong with having feelings for somebody.
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you shouldnt have told your friend to go after him
but if i were you i would tell him.
you won't seem like a creep because its not wrong to like someone.
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thanks everyone
Just a question, why would you seem like a creep if you told him you liked him? There's nothing wrong with having feelings for somebody.
because i feel obsessed with him and if he finds out some person he doesn't even know, like him, imo if someone did that i would be pretty freaked out (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ph34r.gif)
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Something similar happened to me and my friend. I liked this guy but he was really shy. I'm not that shy (just sometimes when I feel kind of awkward), but I just couldn't get myself to talk to him. My friend thought it was cute and she wanted to hook us up. It was easier for her to talk with him than it was for me because she didn't have any feelings for him. But as time progressed, she started having feelings for him and finally, she 'fessed that she liked him, too. At first I was a bit hurt but I could tell that she tried hard not to like him. I told her that I gave up on him and that she could have him. She was like, no! I can't do that to you! You liked him first! but I told her I was fine. I just needed to get over him. But at the back of my mind, I was hoping he'd not like her back.
But I really did get over him because as soon as I finally talked with him, he turned out to be this shallow a--hole. And he wasn't that good looking. There was just something about him that made him irresistably cute and innocent. But of course he totally destroyed that image by making perverted comments that would only make the female population gag.
BUT-- my point is (hehe), I know how hard it is- er, was.
You say that you would watch him do all those activities. I actually PLAYED football with my ex-crush and his friends so that he'll notice me. Maybe you need to kind of put yourself out there? Get over your shyness. He might not even notice you because all you do is watch. There's not interaction between you two when one if doing the watching. He probably didn't even notice you. And maybe the only way he can notice you is if you make a move.
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i can relate...im in that EXACT same situation, ive only known this guy for a little while and never talked to him, but he still knows who i am..
all i say is try talking to him, like ask him if u have hw for a class or something...its an easy thing to ask..
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I used to like a guy that I didn't know. I later realized how stupid that was..
Anyway, so you don't know the guy? Why do you like him then?
Since you both are really shy, it's not likely that you'll ever get to meet him then... right?
From my experiences,I think you should just give it up and look at him from afar. I mean, don't hope for anything because you may be dissapointed later. Just let him be a person who you see and think is cute everyday. It's not going to be worth your time spent thinking about him. There is option 2, which is to gather courage to just go talk to him.~~ Which isn't a bad option.. but you need to be brave!
And about your friend. It might sound selfish, but if she offers to back out, then why should you back out too? I mean if she doesn't want to go for it then you go for it. You'll hurt a lot when you see her going out with him (btw, I'm speaking like in general only.. not specifying this case.) You're lying to yourself and to her. But also, if it seems like she likes him more than you then you should let her have him because it may lead to a bad friendship if you don't.
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I feel you dear. I'm in the exact situation and i feel so stupid. But really, give up. HE DOESN'T KNOW YOU! Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, to some people, you are invisible. And yeah, don't confess your feelings to him. I would literally run away and avoid you for the rest of my life.
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oh just tell him, oh i bet he likes you, etc...
isn't that what you said you want to hear? it seems that you haven't given up yet but you don't know what to do (whether to let your friend have him or not), so the best thing, is to see him as a potential friend first. make conversation, don't worry whether he'll think you like him or not. now, it is just the time to befriend him, nothing more than that for now, and then go from there.
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eh. this might sound confusing .
kaay, um so i like this one guy at my school& we've never spoke a word to eachother.
i at least hope he thinks i exist. he doesn't even know my name&.. so the problem is...
i stopped liking him because i wanted to get to know him but it didn't work out cause both of us are shy...
i tried lots of things to have him notice me. staying afterschool playing big volleyball teams with him, watching his basketball games, & watching him in P.E..
the first thing, is that he's extremely shy.. he only talks to boys & he never had a girlfriend.
so, i found out that my best friend likes him also. and i told her i gave up on him& i don't like him anymore..
i thought that was okay, cause we both knew we liked him.. so it was either her or me to give up. and she kept saying oh im going to give up on him but i encouraged her not to..
but i think it's shallow & jealous of me to hope that he doesn't like her.. because i don't think i have actually gave up on him and i always try to comfort her saying nice things, like: oh just tell him, oh i bet he likes you, etc...
when deep down inside i know i want people saying that to me :[ i don't want to tell her that i like him againnn.. it might start something between us.
and i want to tell him but i might sound like a creep...
sighh... any advice?
he swings the other way. lol don't bother.
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I used to like a guy that I didn't know. I later realized how stupid that was..
Anyway, so you don't know the guy? Why do you like him then?
Since you both are really shy, it's not likely that you'll ever get to meet him then... right?
From my experiences,I think you should just give it up and look at him from afar. I mean, don't hope for anything because you may be dissapointed later. Just let him be a person who you see and think is cute everyday. It's not going to be worth your time spent thinking about him. There is option 2, which is to gather courage to just go talk to him.~~ Which isn't a bad option.. but you need to be brave!
And about your friend. It might sound selfish, but if she offers to back out, then why should you back out too? I mean if she doesn't want to go for it then you go for it. You'll hurt a lot when you see her going out with him (btw, I'm speaking like in general only.. not specifying this case.) You're lying to yourself and to her. But also, if it seems like she likes him more than you then you should let her have him because it may lead to a bad friendship if you don't.
i do know him.. well i stand a row away from him in P.E..
but i'm not sure if he knows me. and i kind of spoke a word to him but i don't call it interacting. that time i didn't like him. and it was my first time actually seeing him, well, yeahh meeting him&stuff..
anyways, we were playing volleyball on the same side and the ball came to me when he tried to pick it up. so i passed it to the server and it actually hit his shoudler and i said sorry.. and he said it's okay.
i know he isn't an aahole. cuhs i've seen him talk to his friends and he's always smiling and everyone says he's nice. 3 other people like him, along with me and my best friend.
i really want to get to know him. but for some reason i like having people make the move first. =// aghhh i'm so shy & so is he i don't know if anything wil lactually happen. i hope something will happen before the schol year ends.
sometimes i do hope that he likes her. there's just sometihng about him when i watch him that makes me feel ... yea..
besides i know he likes someone but i'm too shy and afraid to ask the only girl who knows it, who. because she likes him too. (wow that rhymed ^^)
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hahaha is he really worth it?
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wow.
im in the same situation
everything you said is completely and utterly true.
well, except for my best friend liking the same guy.
i kinda like this guy too and ive never talked to him but i think he knows.
if i were you, i would tell your friend how you really feel.
you never know.
he could like you back, but is giving up since you have too.
whats the worst your friend will do?
if shes a good friend im sure she'll understand how you're feeling.
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TALK TO HIM
You have nothing to lose, just buy a few packs of courage and go up to him &introduce yourself. He might like you too for all I know. If you don`t try, you`ll never get it. FIGHTING!
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be frds with him frist..you girls need to at least talk to him first..otherwise you and you frd arent ganna get that guy if he doesnt even know you two are exist...
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well first thing you need to do
is tell your friend that you think you still like him
then try to tell that guy you like him
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wow... sounds like me when I was back in HS. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)
anywho, just go and talk to him. Easier said than done.
