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so... my boyfriend basically picks out all my flaws whenever he discovers them... and tells me to change..
and currently we're on a break right now...
Would you change if you S/O told you to? like activities you do, how you act?
In my opinion... shouldn't your boyfriend or girlfriend... love you for who you are and accept it?
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um no i would not change.
well not really my s/o but recently my crush told me to change for him if i wanted to go out with him.
like wtf?? yeah in the end i just said screw you.
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i accept him or him he acepts me for me
though i get bugged by soem of his things more than what he gets bugged b yme
the only thing thatreally would change is my wieght but mainly becuase i'm unsatisfied
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so... my boyfriend basically picks out all my flaws whenever he discovers them... and tells me to change..
and currently we're on a break right now...
Would you change if you S/O told you to? like activities you do, how you act?
In my opinion... shouldn't your boyfriend or girlfriend... love you for who you are and accept it?
That is just like me w/ my ex.
He made me feel worthless, he made me feel I was unable to do anything right, told me to change this and that.
You should find a guy who loves you unconditionally.
My S/O never complains about my flaws, (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif)
the only thing that he doesnt like is my voice when I'm complaining about some things, because I sound like a whining child. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ph34r.gif)
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That is just like me w/ my ex.
He made me feel worthless, he made me feel I was unable to do anything right, told me to change this and that.
You should find a guy who loves you unconditionally.
My S/O never complains about my flaws, (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif)
the only thing that he doesnt like is my voice when I'm complaining about some things, because I sound like a whining child. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ph34r.gif)
o_o i bet i whine more than you do o_o
O_O and i fake cry too
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^ Hahahah, but I'm in my mid-20s, it's not appropriate at all. lol XD
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No offense, but if they don't love you for who you are, then I don't think your other is so significant.
You should find a guy who loves you unconditionally.
^ Truth.
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^ Hahahah, but I'm in my mid-20s, it's not appropriate at all. lol XD
i have a feelign it wont go away until i'm 30 or something o-o
O_o
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I'll change clothes, from the clothes I'm wearing to my birthday suit for her. That's about it.
She can inspire me to change to better myself for my own good. Asking me to change to accommodate her needs/wants will result in me being extremely sarcastic and exhibit my profound smartassery. Then followed by me giving her my heated two cents, then some more making fun of her.
In short, I don't change for any body but myself. I'm a take it or leave it kinda guy.
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it all depends on what kind of change
minor things like something that may annoy him then yeah, i'll try
big changes like telling me to stop seeing my friends or something that will make me completely uncomfortable then no
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i dont change FOR them
i change because i hang with them too much
that what they like start rubbing off on me
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There must be some kind of compromises between 2 people when involving in a relationship. I'm sure he just wants you to improve...maybe he wants u to be a better person. For 1, don't take it too personally because, no one would ever tell u ur flaws...unless they really care. He cares...he's not tryin to make u feel bad..but he probably see somethin wrong, and probably feels that u can be better than that. Like does he tell u what ur doing wrong...and show u how u can change? or he just criticizes you? If he just makes u feel bad, and guilty...then forget about it. U shouldn't change because u feel bad. But think about what he said to you. Its hard to handle when someone picks about ur flaws...but at the same time..be strong...and be open minded. It depends on you...is he saying it to help u or make u feel bad. You decide...
I pick my bf's flaws all the time...and im open to him doing the same. As humans, we need to leave room for improvements.
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..,oh no!
but if it really needs improvement - i might consider, especially if i also heard it from others. so, it's no big deal as long as it does not pass up my own level.
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If they are LITTLE flaws, I'd change them.
If i really liked him, that I would change the luittle flaws.
But if its BIG, just liek overall, then...no. lol.
he can go find someone else (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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constructive criticism is good for everyone. we all need room for change.
it depends how your significant other wants you to change.
if he helps inspire you to be better or something positive then its a great thing.
but if hes just putting you down just to make him feel better or to change you to something you are not, or just making you feel worthless, then no.
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I'm sure I have tried to change people a tad too much .. That said I am willing to change and do change based on who I am around. I really want to be as perfect as possible in my s/o's eyes.
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so... my boyfriend basically picks out all my flaws whenever he discovers them... and tells me to change..
and currently we're on a break right now...
Would you change if you S/O told you to? like activities you do, how you act?
In my opinion... shouldn't your boyfriend or girlfriend... love you for who you are and accept it?
it's very hard to change one's habbits...
people can't change themselves for themselves, much less for other people.
ie: how many people can quit smoking/drinking for their health?
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I suppose if it's little things that are highly annoying, I would try to change (ie. complaining/whining a lot). But all in all, I'm not going to change who I am for someone else, the only person I'm changing for is me. If he can't accept me for who I am, I wouldn't want to be with him anyway.
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It would really have to depend on what it is. If he was just controlling me and making me become his ideal girlfriend, and it had no real purpose, no. No no no and he can just walk out the door and find someone else who will.
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Uh, I wouldn't change for him if he expected me to. But I would change for him on my own will. If he picked out all my flaws and told me to change them, I'd dump him on the spot. Who needs a guy like him?
