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MiSSinG_HeR -- good luck! i hope you know what you're looking for and its what you want....
i know what i want. only time will tell...but i'm sure i've lost some points from her already...but just makes me work harder to win them back...that's all.
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Calm down. It's not healthy to be this obsessive, especially about somebody you've never even met.
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this is exactly the position i'm in! TT_TT in my situation, he lives in MN and i live in OR, we talk on the phone, myspace, msn and emails and such. anywho...we haven't met or anything either but we miss each other, i miss him a lot right now T_T and...well, my friends are looking out for me but they put doubts in my head like how do you know he's not playing you and things like that but...i trust him. he has no reason to lie to me...right? and...i...i just get what you're feeling. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) ;;
anywho...i know long distance can work because i've seen it work. my dance teacher/sort-of-an-aunt is currently in a long distance relationship...has been for awhile...and she's engaged. so...long distance does work. i guess it just depends if you trust each other, and actually want to make the long distance relationship work. they go and visit each other occassionally and yeah. good luck with yours ^^
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HAVE YOU READ THIS YET??
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this is exactly the position i'm in! TT_TT in my situation, he lives in MN and i live in OR, we talk on the phone, myspace, msn and emails and such. anywho...we haven't met or anything either but we miss each other, i miss him a lot right now T_T and...well, my friends are looking out for me but they put doubts in my head like how do you know he's not playing you and things like that but...i trust him. he has no reason to lie to me...right? and...i...i just get what you're feeling. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) ;;
anywho...i know long distance can work because i've seen it work. my dance teacher/sort-of-an-aunt is currently in a long distance relationship...has been for awhile...and she's engaged. so...long distance does work. i guess it just depends if you trust each other, and actually want to make the long distance relationship work. they go and visit each other occassionally and yeah. good luck with yours ^^
well we ain't dating so she's entitled to who she wants to meet or date...i will try to be happy for her if she does find someone...she's a great girl so deserves the best. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
thanks for sharing...i hope that things work out for you and your guy (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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it's crazy how one day things can be ok and next day, wow...guess it's all my damn fault. this is the way life goes i guess.
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blantly speaking...
no it doesnt work...
let me rephrase 99% of the time it doesnt work..
in your case i doubt it...
1. youve met her online
2. you dont know what she feels
3. she couldve been lying
4. its only been a month
and the list goes on....
but i see that youre trying to make it really work...
dont put too much into this relationship
im kinda in the same thing
except im the girl..
and i know his feelings he just hasent SAID them yet.
and i dont like him like that
im just a friendly person i guess and i helped him when
he was at the lowest of lows..
so dont risk a great friendship by trying to do longdistance
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blantly speaking...
no it doesnt work...
let me rephrase 99% of the time it doesnt work..
in your case i doubt it...
1. youve met her online
2. you dont know what she feels
3. she couldve been lying
4. its only been a month
and the list goes on....
but i see that youre trying to make it really work...
dont put too much into this relationship
im kinda in the same thing
except im the girl..
and i know his feelings he just hasent SAID them yet.
and i dont like him like that
im just a friendly person i guess and i helped him when
he was at the lowest of lows..
so dont risk a great friendship by trying to do longdistance
well yea i'm putting effort into it working...but i'm sure she has to, i just don't know about it. do i wish she would tell me things...yes but i believe i been forcing her too much already...so i will try not to say anything regarding us. i honestly don't know if i can remain friends with her if things don't work out...i'm way to deep already...yes i know it's so fast of me but love is unexplainable...though i don't love her, i feel that one day i can.
HAVE YOU READ THIS YET??
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i would never kill myself for a girl...it would be unfair for that girl and plus it's stupidity to kill yourself anyways. think about your family and your friends...it's called being a coward. though i do feel bad for the guy.
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youre not way too deep in this..
and if shes shying away from the subject us
its not going to work...
i know from experience that feelign but dude
its just a crush
its not love it wont be unless it goes both ways
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If you want to be with her and want it to work then go for it. I don't know if long distance relationships work or not. Good luck and always remember if it doesn't work out you'll still have a friend.
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i'll be honest with you. they rarely ever work out. my last long distance relationship was with a guy i dated for a couple months before he moved away. at first i really missed him and wanted to see him, but distance really .... hurts a relationship. we didnt last long after he moved because not being able to see each other every day made us grow apart. eventually we decided that we're better off being friends.
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i'll be honest with you. they rarely ever work out. my last long distance relationship was with a guy i dated for a couple months before he moved away. at first i really missed him and wanted to see him, but distance really .... hurts a relationship. we didnt last long after he moved because not being able to see each other every day made us grow apart. eventually we decided that we're better off being friends.
well my plan was to visit her in 5 weeks...if she still wants to meet. so we'll see. i really doubt that though...especially the way i been treating her lately...it's a no brainer.
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well thanks for all your replies, good and bad...i will sleep on it and see what tomorrow brings me. prepare for the worse...sure bring it on...not like i've never been heartbroken before...haha...
to you lovers out there...cherish every moment spent with one another...you never know when the memories might fade away.
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ok i'm done with this...ain't gonna hope no more...whatever will happen tomorrow will happen...not like i've never been disappointed or rejected...bring it on baby bring it on.
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and please people, i wasn't making her sound like a bad person. this is all my doing and she hasn't done anything wrong...she's great!!! she's been honest and sincere, just me thinking too much, and moving way too fast. it is all my damn fault. and i will suffer the consequence for it (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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long distance does work... depending on how you guys handle things and how much you can trust the other party (just like how all relationships work (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) )
if you do go visit her... make sure you take someone with you? like a trusted friend or something....
good luck with it..
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Sorry if this was already asked, but do you mind me asking how hold you are? You said this might be the girl you waited for all your life, and I was just curious.
Anyway, I had a long-D thing going on too. I live in Canada, he was in California.
Worked out for a year, but I ended up feeling more lonely than anything else, with or without him. It sucks going to a party or something and not having him with you because he lives somewhere else. This long-d of mine, by the way, happened in...like...9th grade or something, and was a LOT more serious than it should have been. I thought he was the one because that's what it felt like. Words you read or a voice on the phone can only tell you so much about a person. It all starts out feeling exactly the way you wanted, but it starts to become impersonal toward the end. Sometimes you need the hugs, and the hand-holding, you know? Maybe that's just me.
BUT that's not to say it doesn't EVER work out.
I know one couple that worked it through. They're married now, with two sons. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
But yeah, it's different for everyone.
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i say GO for it. u never know until u try.
im in a long distance relationship right now for almost half a year, and going strong. we met online (soompi actually ha) and he flew here to see me a month or so later. he lives in Illinois, i live in CA. seems impossible right? people will say a lot of things in my experience, even my closest friends. how do u know if he's not cheating on u? what if he finds someone else? what if you get lonely? a big factor is trust. it may be hard to establish at first because you live so far from each other, in my case, thousands of miles apart, but we make it work. we see each other every month. our lives are busy, yes, him juggling school and work, but we still manage to take time out to talk to each other every night for an hour. it just depends how seriously u take the relationship and how much u are willing to put into it.
i hope ur situation works out well. wishing u the best~
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anyone can have a bond over the computer... i wouldn't get your hopes up, work it out when you DO meet her. don't get ahead of yourself.
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Sorry if this was already asked, but do you mind me asking how hold you are? You said this might be the girl you waited for all your life, and I was just curious.
Anyway, I had a long-D thing going on too. I live in Canada, he was in California.
Worked out for a year, but I ended up feeling more lonely than anything else, with or without him. It sucks going to a party or something and not having him with you because he lives somewhere else. This long-d of mine, by the way, happened in...like...9th grade or something, and was a LOT more serious than it should have been. I thought he was the one because that's what it felt like. Words you read or a voice on the phone can only tell you so much about a person. It all starts out feeling exactly the way you wanted, but it starts to become impersonal toward the end. Sometimes you need the hugs, and the hand-holding, you know? Maybe that's just me.
BUT that's not to say it doesn't EVER work out.
I know one couple that worked it through. They're married now, with two sons. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
But yeah, it's different for everyone.
i'm 31 and she's a few years younger. thanks for sharing your thoughts. like everyone that posted, yea i'm just thinking toooooo way ahead...just gotta slow down and see what happens. i will lower my expectations, and hopefully she will still want to pursue it *crosses fingers* i've been a real bastard lately so i dunno???
anyone can have a bond over the computer... i wouldn't get your hopes up, work it out when you DO meet her. don't get ahead of yourself.
i'll just to keep my emotions in check and just treat her as a friend. that's all i can do i guess. i guess it's hard to kick away old habits as i've always approach relationships too fast...never learn from my past mistakes, and it might come back and bite me in the ass this time around.
