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me and my girl have been fighting lately over stupid things and i think im the cause of them because i would always get mad easily over the littlest things, i really dont want to but i dont know why i always end up doing it. i would always tell her after that i would change but it keeps happening. well i just wanted to know how you guys can control your anger in your relationship because i really need to change myself and become the better me. hope im not too corny but i really want some advice
thanks
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counting to ten helps me. i get mad if it really annoys me. i look away and count in my head, then it helps. i don't it can help you too!
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I used to get mad really easily when people touched me--even friends or accidental touching--and with my mother in general. I used to punch people, kick people, and punch/kick holes in the wall of our house. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) Yeah...I'm past that now. Actually, I've become more like my dad: fairly chill about everything.
When I do get mad, I look away from whoever/whatever I'm mad at and breathe deeply until the scary part's over and I stop seeing weird colors. Then I shrug it off and try to think about why it's not worth getting that worked up about and how it could be solved.
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I dont get mad easily.. i think. I'd been mad at my bf a few times because of his stupidness & mistakes about his ex. He, on the other hand, had never been mad at me, except for this one time when we fought. But that was a while ago.
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stop and think, is it worth risking your relationship just for something so tiny?
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hmm.. i dunnoe..
i have a lil temper problem tooo..
but i dont really get angry or anything..
just annoyed all the time..
so i just look away out the window and stuff...
and relax myself.... distract myself from what annoyed me
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wow i almost think you're my boyfriend.
he breakdances and always watned an id on soompi (mainly to make fun of peole so i didn't do it for him)
but anyways, me and my boyfriend ALWAYS get into fights. and the exact same thing happens to you and your girlfriend as me and my boyfriend.
I think it's just how we are. like, i get mad at him really easily then he gets mad at me then the next day we're fine until the next fight happens. right now i think it's to the point where we get into a stupid fight every day. over stupid questions and stuff.
but i thin kit's just a phase... maybe we'll grow out of it
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wow you even type like him too. hah.
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I don't get mad easily, but my bf does.. It annoys me but i keep it in, and whenever i do get mad im over it in like idk 5 minutes or so.. keke
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stop and think, is it worth risking your relationship just for something so tiny?
yupyup
just explain to her why you're mad at those things
and ask her to help you
and not make such a big deal out of you making a big deal
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yea i get mad easily
i got a lot better
but these days i get irritated really easy
im hoping its just stress of finals (that just ended! thank god)
and thats it.
well next time you're mad...
close your eyes take a couple of deep breaths
think this isnt worth fighting with my gf for
and try to calm yourself down and get over it?
u can also think of reasons y u like your gf in the first place or maybe some sweet things shes done for u =]
also if its the first couple of months a relationship, couples tend to fight more and less later on =]
so dont worry it'll get better
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I used to get mad easily until one day I realized it wasn't the other person making me mad, it was me.
The other person could care less if my blood boiled over and so why the heck should I make myself miserable all day long .
Life's too short to worry about the small stuff. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
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omg i get mad so easily...well..more like jealousy when it come to my bf, but i get mad after getting jealous =_=
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i don't get it my godsis say i get mad easliy (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue2.gif)
i don't think i do becus i am a hyper person lol (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wacko.gif)
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I do get mad easily. I just realized that today when my best friend confronted me about it. The truth hurts. But now I'm gonna change. Actually, it's more like, I'm INTIMIDATING when I get mad. But then again, I get mad easily. And the reason why I'm intimidating is because I'm so easy to push buttons at that I don't think and I just go off rambling and venting... and get mad... easily.
Blah. At least I don't bottle things inside, right? Right?
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Yea...I get mad really easily...it's one of my HUGE personality flaws...
I haven't figured out how to stop myself from getting mad yet, the problem with me is that I get mad over small things which I know I shouldn't be mad about but I can't stop myself...
It really sucks coz I noticed I get annoyed really easily at my family and friends even though it's not their fault but mine but I can't help it....
*sigh*
I think I'm just gonna start counting to 10 in my head....just a question though...what happens if the person who annoyed you keeps talking while you're counting....is it rude to not listen?
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I'm just like you : ( and my bf gets mad whenever I get mad
But I told him I was like that and he can't change it.
No one should be around me when I'm mad, that's what I told him.
But I get distracted easily, so it's fine.
You should relax a bit, think about anything that comes into your mind or look into the sky.
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Yes I also get mad easily, but it all bottles up and gets released when I am doing something stress relieving, like boxing or something. I just try my hardest to keep my normal personality and look calm, counting does help, but avoiding what is making you angry works also.
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I'm assuming it takes practice, cause it took me awhile to stop caring about stupid things.
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I don't think you can change. But you can do things to ease your anger, like when you're beginning to feel mad, just take out a stress ball and start squeezing like a madman. So, I suggest you to go buy a stress ball!! I don't know.
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I'm pretty short-tempered too and get mad easily over the smallest things but then I had anger management so now um... I guess I'm less angrier then before. I'm still pretty short-tempered though but I try to control that anger by thinking positive or thinking that if I explode now will it really be worth it. Best to forgive and forget really. Try thinking to yourself that everytime you get angry, is it really worth it to hurt each other to blow some steam. Whenever you feel angry just breath deeply then chill and thinking of positive things.
