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There's this girl I see at lunch all the time, and I think she's really cute and I'd like to get to know her better. I know there's probably a ton of topics on this already, but how do I approach her? I've thought about going straight up to her and just asking for her name, introducing myself, and telling her I think she's pretty, but that'd be kind of awkward and creepy. It might be something I would do in a club or bar, but I feel like somehow it'd be weird in a high school setting. I actually did that once, and it didn't work out so well...there was this awkward silence after I introduced myself because I couldn't think of a follow up conversation. So...what to do? Should I just go balls out and be blunt, or is there a smoother approach?
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i think u should try to make it 'natural'. try getting near her when she's alone then just introduce yourself... and since u dont seem like someone who could talk for ages, leave quickly after that. like, i've gotta go now.
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When you go straight out, girls get intiminated and become silent. You need to make her comfortable around you.
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lol mm do you know what grade shes in? because if shes in your grade maybe you have friends that know her and can introduce you to her...lol if not...then...i was thinking..write her a note o_o...and tell her that you think that shes pretty...lol but then came the idea that she would probably pass the note down to her friends..and think that your creepy...lol..eh yah..so then came the idea that maybe you can randomly go up to her and say...eh heh...whats you name? and then she will think thats your wierd and ask why and then you say mm i don't know...isnt this how you meet new people? =Dand then...so on so fourth..man..that was gay.lol i give up.
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if you immediately tell her that she's pretty, she'll think that you've been stalking her.
i'd just say go up to her, introduce yourself, ask for her name, talk about a few general things like classes and then a quick bye. you could try using something like i haven't seen you around before to kick things off. your main aim should be to be on her mind so she knows who you are which will slowly open things up.
there are two personas that you wouldn't want to undertake. 1. 'i'm here to pick you up and 2. i'm the school captain who wants to know everyone.
oh and... don't go asking for her contacts or anything until the third or fourth time when she'd be more comfortable.
i must say you certainly have the balls, but it's more about how you use them rather than just having them. good luck! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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how i met this girl that i hang out with now is...
a)i got really really drunk... but thats beside the point (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
(IMG:style_emoticons/default/cool.gif) just sat next to her, i was like hey.. how u doin.. (i got this thing where i like.. shake my head a bit lol.. yeah thats lame dont shake ur head (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif) )
c) just ask her questions.. general ones not too personal ^^ like.. what courses shes taking, and if ur in univ, which rez she lives in.. frosh week was awesome XD although i only still contact like 1/10~1/50 of the ppl i met lol..
d) and then now since she like remembers ur face, next time, be like hey~ its u... she might not remember ur name perhaps, but she'll know ur face at least (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif) for me she called me 'drunk guy' -.- she still remembered me tho (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) i guess it was b/c 100% of my body was red from drinking.. omg asian blush T.T
i wish i had the confidence u have^^
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it would help if you two had something in common...liek a had a class together?
tell her you saw her before in your class (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif) ...that will break the ice lol
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be like those wussy guys and have your friend talk to her for you LOL (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)
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uhhhh... Ask her what time it is? (dont have a watch on) and comment on how nice her hair looks, but you think it would look better down.
Then.... for the convo, ask her what she's doing at X location, introduce yourself (she should introduce hers). Then do whatever you want from there.
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first, do you have any idea what kind of girl she is? or at least a general idea? it could make it easier to find the best method of approach.
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umm, the more u know about her, the better. b/c if she's let's say in ur grade, then u can say something like :oh wow thats strange... ure in the same year wth me but i dont know u. hence, the approach (let's get to know each other).
if she's like a year or two younger... then say something like oh yeah... i took that class last year. Mr. so and so was a jerk to me... bla bla...
and then when u don't know what else to say, dont try to force the convo... i think as soon as there's an awkward silence, say this rightaway oh i gotta go. we should hang out some time don't forget to smile =]
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wut about a letter??? It would make her notice you and be more comfort before you approach and say Hi ^^
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my fd and i was talking about it yesterday
here are the guidelines (guidelines! not specifics!)
1. make her notice you
2. find a method to approach her
3. when talking to her first time, talk about the places where she notices you (Eg: if you play soccer you can say. hey i see you on the field sometimes i play soccer, you like soccer too mah?)
4. keep in touch (email, phone blah blah blah)
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tat ''quick bye'' trick seems to work =\....in fact im gonna try it =P
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grow some cajones, amigo.
walk up to her and say something in the moment. If she's carrying something, say something like, can i help you with that?
or if she's eating lunch, tell her how you think the food at the cafeteria stinks. But it doesn't matter what kinda tips you get, unless you grow ballones, you won't be able to approach her. Go Nike, Just do it.
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grow some cajones, amigo.
walk up to her and say something in the moment. If she's carrying something, say something like, can i help you with that?
or if she's eating lunch, tell her how you think the food at the cafeteria stinks. But it doesn't matter what kinda tips you get, unless you grow ballones, you won't be able to approach her. Go Nike, Just do it.
That seems to work the best.
I would be a little afraid if I got a letter or something from a guy that just wanted to talk to me.
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You should ask any of your friends that know her and then they can introduce you. If you just suddenly walked up to her and thinks she's pretty I think that would be really awkward and weird. xD
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Come on now, facebook/myspace is making this soo oh so much easier. Just send her a message saying things like hi aren't you in my class or I've seen you @ blah blah how are you I dunno, this is how i met some of my friends so at least you can become friends with her and slowly move up to being a love interest?
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Tell her you're doing a survey for an assignment in data management, and she was coincidentally part of your random sample.
We all know surveys usually include name, age, and some other stuff.
