Question:
it's really weird...well last year, my cousin and my friend refered me to this job...and i got the job. and people who refer others are rewarded with 100$ after 15 work shifts. They both helped me with different stuff but my friend went to see the person first and got the 100$. so I told him to split it with me 50-50 so i can give 50$ to my cousin since she helped me too.
Then suddently my cousin just starts hating me because of this...that she helped me so much more than my friend...I said OK, i'll give you 100$ out of my own pocket and she's like i dont effing care about the money and with some bitchy attitude, you know?
she's the only female cousin i have out of 16...and i'm also the only one in my family that still talks to her...
her mom is my aunt, but her dad is just a stupid junkie...she had a fight with her mom a few months ago (a real fight, punches, etc) and left to live with her dad (40 yrs old loser, smokes pot and lives with his parents)
and she's almost 16...hanging with the wrong crowd, drinks, smokes and whatnot
i never badword her to any family relative even though i know she smokes pot,cigarettes,drinks...then when she saw my grandma she starts telling her that im selfish,etc - im like WTF
i always tried to help her as a little sister but now this has been bugging me since this morning...and i cant believe how awkward it's going to be when i see her at work tonight (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif)
should i confront her or just ignore her?
Answer:
ignore her lol what do u expect to be? her savior? the information u dish out the more i think she's hopeless
however that's just not nice, i suggest u get the 50 dollars from ur friend and give it to her regardless of what she says and tell her to stop being immature (not in those exact words) and if shes bitches about the i helped u more then just be like i know u helped me more but what do u expect? u helped me 67% of the way so u want 17 more dollars from my friend?
u obviously have problems with her and i kinda think u think ur superior to her about the drugs and stuff and think ur doing her a favor by being the only one in the family to still talk to her. this type of attitude shows.
saying she's just a cousin wouldn't do cuz u probably feel like an older brother or something so just accept her as who she is and the best thing is to set a good example, it may not work in the short run but if u maintain good relations then eventually she'll figure out ur lifestyle might be preferable to hers but it may take a while or may not work at all. but there's nothing worse than saying straight out u should stop doing drugs and drinking it's bad for you cuz then ppl get defensive and it all blows up
at work apologize for the misunderstanding and say that ur family and u shouldn't let something simple like a hundred dollars get in the way of ur relationship and ask her if she's willing to move on past this with you and unless she's in a completely pissed off mood and u dont' talk condecendingly (is that a word?) then she'll accept the apology then u both can get on with your lives
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ignore her. if there's a reason why everyone else dont talk to her then it must be gud
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thanks...i'm just going to ignore her for now...
and i dont see why i should apologize....i dont think what i did was wrong towards her
Answer:
confront her and tell her what she did wrong. if you ignore her, don't bring up old issues with her again when the two of you have another argument. cuz then you'll be asking for trouble, and you'll be just as responsible for the drama since you refused to try to bring closure to the current situation.
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I'm a bit apprehensive about just ignoring her because she is family. She does have unusual circumstances...but you have to watch out for yourself and the best thing you can do is just live your life without any of that crap.
