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Okay well long story short, I got dumped. Well it was okay, he told me nicely and I accepted it nicely and there wasn't any crying (although there was ranting to friends and pigging out on food). Anyways its been a couple of months and I still have this certain lifestyle due to the breakup which is exercising, doing a lot of things, joining a lot of activities, volunteering, etc.etc.. So like the things you do after you break up to get your mind off of him. I'm happy like this but I dont just do it for enjoyment, I still do it to get my mind off of him (especially recently when he started dating my frd) and sometimes to show him that I have a great life without him and sometimes to try to make him regret that he dumped me since now I'm more happier and successful without him.
I told my friend and she told me that I must still like him (even though I don't THINK so) because I care so much about what he thinks about me and how much effort I put in it to show him I'm happy and successful without him.
So I don't know if I'm over him or not (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mellow.gif) I'm messed in the head. I know some girls that do this but its been like 2-3 months now and usually they stop caring by then and go on with life right?
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It take awhile to forget about someone..2 to 3 months isn't that long. i usually do the same but not because i still like him i just want him to REGRET losing me hehe (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
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You may probably be over him, but you'll always think back to him until you meet someone new.
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You're probably just bitter with the end of the relationship.
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no one can actually tell you how you feell, however, it does sound like you're a little bit bitter and still have somewhat feelings for him.. because if you didnt then, it wouldnt matter what he thinks and what he lost.. and all those previous comments are true. you wont truely forget about him until you meet someone else or be truely satisfied with what you're doing with your free time. and now that i think about it, it might be that you're trying to avoid the situation to make yourself busy to not think about it.
it's okay.. time will heal everything and anything (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) good luck.
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if you really liked him, you would be happy for him right?
although its kinda messd up she's going out w your ex (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) ;
find a better guy and show him, your new man is better then him. (:
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I would say it's just your ego that needs a bit of a boost because he dumped you.
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you haven't cried yet! well if you really cared about him or semi-loved him or something, then you should just cry and get it over with. think of it like cleansing. have only one good cry and let that be the end of it. also, you might be in a way jealous of your friend because he chose her after you. i can't explain it but idk o.o maybe? or hey you've grown to hate him D:!
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You're not over him. It's normal to be doing what you're doing, usually I'd use work as something to do to take my mind off of things.
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I was with my last boyfriend for about 13 months. We broke up a several months ago. Couple weeks after the breakup I kept thinkin to myself 'was I right?' 'should I have done this?' (Do you still think those things?)
Even though I did, there was one thing I knew for sure and that was that we drifted apart and I didn't feel the way I did before. 13 months might not seem long but it felt like 13 years. It took me 2 months to figure myself out and rearrange my feelings and now I've come to the conclusion that I dnt feel for him romantically anymore.
Even so, I want him to be happy. I didn't do things to get my mind off of him because simply I stopped thinking of him. It seems as if your heart still goes out to him. When you breakup you expect your boyfriend to go far away from you but he stayed closed. Especially since he's dating your friend now which could make your feelings still linger around. If you really don't want to be with him anymore, it'll probably take awhile more before you can accept the changes.
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You could slightly have feelings.. it's hard to tell but it's really likely that you want him to regret. And maybe because he is your ex you pay much more attention to him than you would if it had just been another boy. And it doesn't help that he's going out with your friend.
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it takez time to get over someone..
and yeh. i think u still have little feelingz for him..
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I would say it's just your ego that needs a bit of a boost because he dumped you.
yeah... that's probably it
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If you still care about what he thinks of you, then you're not over him yet. I've been through that stage before __. There are certain times you feel like you're completely fine and over with it, but sometimes you think back and then realise that you aren't.
2-3 months is only a small amount of time. You'll become stronger. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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at least you should be happy that you're doing well moving on, you're not heartbroken, broken down to million of pieces because of the breakup
Of course you might still care and have somewhat a bit of feelings for him. But just let time pass, you'll not care anymore
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i've been doing the same, jus keeping busy so that i cud get my mind off of him and it worked
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(im using a friend's account)
definitely you're not over him, for you doin such things to catch his attention. though you might feel weights of your shoulder for whatever happened (i don't know) you were used to that routine of bein with him and sharin time with him, and you feel different now that its gone. doing things to get him off your mind is good, but in a way you're escapin the reality of you still have feelins for him and such. my ex and i have a really twisted break up and i still donno what's the real story, but im still not over him and i just focus on school and hang out with friends to get him off my mind. we're in good terms but i always wanna call him and things like that but i just hold myself cuz that's not good for me, with him datin your friend just makes it worse the fact you know her and you guys aren't enemies. you wanna make him regret cuz you feel jealousy that you're not the girl that's bein with him and he's happy (as i assume). its been almost 2 months since my ex and i broke up and i feel better, i don't wanna call him or whatever anymore, i mean i still do but not in the same way. i still like him but i would call him as a friend and just ask wsup how are things going etc, and i talk with him online but at the same time i dont wanna chat or call him cuz he brings back memories. for a lil while whenever i call him my heart would pound like crazy and if we don't have a decent or regular convo (like silence durin phone calls) i would get upset cuz i think he doesn't wanna talk to me, but i know hes not like that, hes just not really a phone person unless its with his gf, he doesn't even talk on the phone with his bois, its just where are you ok later those sharp convos. recently online we're talkin and obviously im the one that has to start a convo but i can tell he tried by askin questions and such, so im happy that hes trying but im sad cuz he went back to his old self, drinkin everyday... dropped outta school and things like that, while i was with him he knew i cared and we give each other what we want so he cut down his drinkin in half and start attendin classes with me (we have some classes together) after all this outta line stuff im writin to you the only thing i can say is... just give it time and you will get over it. [: good luck!
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maybe u just want him to know u still exist even if ur not his gf anymore. doesnt really mean u still really like him. idk. i think it's normal.
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its been about 3 yrs since i broke up with my boyfriend.
he was my first kiss, and the sweetest guy ever.
he cheated on me, and i broke up with him.
since summer was coming up that time, i had lots of chances to forget about him.
the less you talk to him, the worse it becomes,
talk to him more, and you'll forget that he was ever with u in the first placee.
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You may probably be over him, but you'll always think back to him until you meet someone new.
I agree. I always thought of my ex until I had a new crush or something.
THEN I officially move on.
