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my boyfriend .... we've been together for the fourth month.
he doesnt really love me anymore well he didnt love me at all. it was just liking me in the beginning. one night he was drunk and took away my virginity. this is one of the reason why we're still together. he feels guilty. secondly i give him my world . i love him . i care about him. i'm worried about him all the time and i worry about what he's doing when i'm not there. since i have work and everything. i have to support my living you know . i rent my room to live so i dont have much time with him . maybe see him like 2-3 times a week for like 2-3 hours. and this is the second reason why we're still together... he doesnt want to break my heart... he's been played by girls before and i'm like the first one to actually be true to him and take the relationship seriously. how much he loves me from 1-10? he would say 3-4 . but this 3-4 feelings come from me being a great girlfriend and taking away my virginity.
and for the past 2 months he RARELY picks up my calls. i text him stuff like 'where are you' 'what are you doing now?' who're you with?
two days ago i was over at his house and his neice told me everything . i got mad and he promised me that he will never see her again . BUT HE DID TODAY. he cant help it. it's like and addiction a type of drug . he needs to see her . he misses her like crazy.... it drives me crazy that he's always calling her .
i've met this girl like 2 months ago. she's prettier than me . and she's a good girl. she just doesnt fit into our world . we go out clubbing ... we smoke ... we drink. but this girl... she's a good girl. why does he choose her over me? she gets good grades ... she made my boyfriend smoke a lot less. he used to smoke several packs a week but now he only smokes once every couple of days. for her he's getting his ged and going to college. he introduced her to all his family and i havent even seen his grandma. his parents and grandparents all approve of her, they all love her ... but they havent met me . i'm so hurt . its as if i dont matter. and for her -he's getting a part time job ... liscense and going to buy a car. why couldnt he be doing this for me?
i hate her . she found out that i found out ..... and thats why she's giving him up back to me .. cause she feels guilty and thinks that he loves me more and doesnt love her at all . but it's not that way. he loves her more than anyone can ever tell. she doesnt understand.she goes crying burning herself with inscense and cutting her wrist .
part of me wants to hang onto him .. part of me wants to let go now . what should i do? i mean he feels so guilty , he's not gonna dump me ... he's waiting for me to dump him. he only likes me a little but its nothing compared to loving her. rate his feelings for her from 1-10 ? he told her it's a full 10
oh yea something else to make her look better .. she's got him a ps3 for their 2nd month anniversary and she gets him AF clothes and other brand name stuff that he likes.. she pays for herself when they go out. she love him so much that she would do more for him. even if i love him there's certain extent. she would wake up 3-4 am in the morning and buy him breakfast and pick him up from work(he once got off of work at that time) something i might not have done.
what should i do ... i still love him... i cried so hard the night i found out
ps: i'm using my friend's account .. cause i really needed to rant
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update:
i talked to him about it i cried to him about it. and it's making him feel worse. he saw me for half an hour and i had to beg for him to come out so i could see him, since he's always BUSY now. i told him how it's making me feel and i cried so much. i couldnt say anything else. he just sat there and watched me cry.with the guilty look on his face. he says i'm shattering his heart .. i dont get it ... if he doesnt love me .. how do i shatter his heart? all he need is her right? or do i still have a chance at him?
for that one week he was the perfect guy again and now he's not answering my calls again. i have to look for him through other people.
the other day he was really sick and i wanted to surprise him at his house and give him some medicine but he wasnt home. he was at his grandma's house and i told him i wanted to come even though i dont know the way. he just got really pissed at me and hung up really quickly cause he had to get on the bus ..... as if you cant talk on the phone while getting on the bus.... i think most of the time he's with her even if he promised he'll never see her again .
i think i should give it a little more time just to make sure he wont turn back cause i dont want to regret.
as for that girl.. she's on my myspace friends list and i dont see her anyways. she's a good girl ....SHE DID NOT KNOW ABOUT ME WHEN SHE ACCEPTED HIM. SHE DIDNT KNOW UNTIL AFTERWARDS. and SHE WAS THE GIRL HE'S BEEN GOING AFTER FOR ALMOST HALF A YEAR BEFORE I BECAME HIS GIRLFRIEND. AND SHE DIDNT GET WITH HIM BEFORE CAUSE HE WAS SUCH A FAILURE and HE DID SOME ILLEGAL THINGS SHE DIDNT LIKE THAT. i hate to admit it but its true that she can get a much better guy , but she finally see through everything he did for her and now he really loves her.but the thing was ....AT HIS HARDEST TIMES I WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR HIM- SHE WASNT, SHE DIDNT EVEN PICK UP WHEN HE CALLED HER BACK THEN.... well thats because he kinda scared her away.. the second time he spoke to her he asked her out so she got scared of him for awhile. WHEN HE NEEDED SOMEONE THE MOST I WAS ALWAYS THERE. EVEN WHEN HE WAS A FAILURE I WAS ALWAYS BY HIS SIDE. he cant see that?
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Wow...A lot of drama...Erm...to me, it's kinda worthless loving someone that doesnt love you as much, ya know? And if he is waiting for you to dump him, maybe just let him go...Holding on to someone like that won't do either of you two good, it'll only deteriorate the relationship further.
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dont hang onto something..let it go and if it comes back to you then it was urs to begin with.
if he loves someone else and u love him wouldnt u want him happy rather than being selfish and keepin
him there knowing he'll see it still? to stop the pain just let him go and try to pick up ur heart. theres
nothing else you can do but that, but good luck. and stay strong
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i Think
sometimes when you love someone you have to let them go for their own good...
like you can still be friends with him and by yourself you can learn to move on...
im not being mean but yea...
talk to her is the frist thing i would doo
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let him go. you deserve someone who loves you as much as you love him.
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let him go. you deserve someone who loves you as much as you love him.
yep.
life is too short to wake up in the morning with
regrets . so love the people who treat you right ,
forget about the ones who don't and believe that
everything happens for a reason. if you get a
chance, take it. if it changes yer life, let it. nobdy
said that it` d be easy, they jst promised it wuld
be worth it
haha basically the bold typing is what im tryn to say.
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Like what the others say Let Him Go.....He doesnt deserve u and u deserve someone who would get up at 4 in the morning to buy u lunch.....What urs will always be urs and u already in ur heart know that he not urs.......Why go through all that suffering
I wish u the best of luck and i hope that u will find someone who will appreciate u for the type of person that u are!!!!
Also never lose ur self confidence instead of saying that she prettier than u.......Always think im just as pretty as her why lower ur self esteem for a guy.....Always think ur just as pretty as whoever ur comparing urself too
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Let go is the best thing for you right now. Since he doesn`t love you. You`re just giving your love to him and in return he can`t give it back to you. Since you found this out, it`s better to let go of him. It`s like one-sided love. You have to be strong. Yeah you love him, but he doesn`t love you like you love him. Yup I agree with everyone else. Let go and move on and if it comes back, it was meant to be. Don`t let this keep you down, let it make you stronger. I hope the best for you. Take cares and goodluck 33
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Please let go.. it won't be good for you. And he feels too sorry to break up with you first but for you, you really deserve someone who can be there for you all the time.
You want to be able to bring food to him that early in the morning too but what about the possibility of someone doing that for you? To wake up early every day and bring you food at work. It would be totally worth it to let go and find someone who will love you as much (or even more) as you love them.
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he doesnt love you. thats the only answer you need to answer your own question and solve your problem. it may seem like a lot of drama to you and that its complicated but really i see the problem is pretty simple and the answer is very apparent
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Let him go, you can not help when feelings change, even if he does come back to you, but the glass is already broken, it won't be the same, you know it and he knows it too. So take some time for yourself, cry and rant as much as you need becasuse your feelings are always valid, but don't ever let it consume you. You're hurting right now so it's hard to hear what others are saying, but just give a little time, it will all be alright, I promise. I went through a breakup just recently. it was hard, but you'll get through it =)
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well, i don't think you should hang onto something that isn't worth it.
why drag things on, when in the end it'll make it a lot more painful.
if he does not love you the way you love him to that extent, where he has to find love with another girl.
there's a problem and no matter how painful it may seem now; it would be more painful if you were to prolong this.
- eternal.happiness
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seems like u've already made the choice for urself... u keep on saying how good she is and how bad you are.. if u really wanted to hang on to him u wouldnt have said all that.. i think u should just let it go..you dont sound like u like him that much.. the way u said ur love for him is limited... so.. therefore, you should let the 2 people who are madly in love be together and move on... better early than late..
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That other girl sounded great until that part about burning herself... that kind of girl needs only to exist in K-Dramas...
Seriously, no one person, especially a boy, can make up your world. Virginity is important for sure, but not good enough of a reason to keep being in such a meaningless relationship.
Go find someone else or actually, being single rocks too (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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You're hanging onto something that isn't there anymore! It sounds like the only reason he's still with you is cause of guilt. If that's the case, you guys should just end it.
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i think u know what u should do already!
but ur just afraid.. cause u love him so much
but. itz something u HAVE TO do!!
he doesnt love u.. and is only with u for guilt..
u need to break up with him and move on!
i know itz hard.. but u just have to..
there is NO other way
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Wow, that is a lot of drama.
Never dwell on the things thats not going to end very well.
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if you really do love him, you need to let him go.
this girl has changed him for the better...
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No offense, but it sounds like the only reason why he's hanging onto you is because of pity. If you truely love him, let him go. Even if it hurts you like hell. Otherwise, if you keep pressuring yourself onto him, he'll just hate you in the end. But don't worry, as time goes by, you'll find someone who suits you better. It's not the end of the world.
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You need to end it with one HARD dramatic slap on your bf's face and kicks him in the crotch and then LET HIM GO.
