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Hi girls/boys.
Just curious to know... If your boyfriend always says Seriously, I dun believe in love, Seriously.. I have no feeling at all... When you are talking about feelings, i have no idea what you are talking about.. cos i have none
I was hurt when he said that... and if he said he has no feeling, dun believe in love, so why the hell would he go out wif me?
He said they are just meaningless words, that he likes me, truly... But he always repeats them... which scares me.. Why would you say things repeatedly if you dun mean them? Is it a guy thing that I should compromise?
Thanks for your input.. I am really confused.
-ikesan
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sounds like the guy is insecure and unable to express his feelings. :\ I would take offense to....
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sounds like the guy is insecure and unable to express his feelings. :\ I would take offense to....
I agree. He's just feeling insecure. He probably doesn't want to get hurt if he falls in LOVE.
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are you guys young?
i say it too. I always say i don't believe that we are old enough to have experienced love, or that we are 'loving' each other right now. But it is the closest thing to what i feel about you. I love you. my boyfriend and I had a discussion about this. We sort of feel that we had more feelings towards each other than i like you so we decided to say i love you. But we talked over it, maybe you can talk it over with your boyfriend??
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Is there any difference between I have feelings for you and I like you ? Iisnt it the same thing?
I knew it... I knew that it is just one sided relationship... I like him a lot, but I guess he is not that into me... He said he is not very good at expressing himself, but how am i supposed to trust him, know that he really does like me? Not just going out wif me out of pity, etc....
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^Never ever assume.
I doubted a guy's feeling many times before, and I ended up being hurt because of what I did to myself, which was assume the guy never liked me and was playing around with me. If you really like this guy, talk to him about this. Since he's having a hard time expressing himself, give him some time. Trust him. There's nothing more ugly than a misunderstanding and realizing it after you two break up.
Sometimes, it can get a little rough, but try not to lose that security you had with him. Your insecurity will eventually drive you to the point of no return.
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I think you just need to be patient with him.
He says he's not good at expressing himself, so just wait until he's more comfortable with you, he'll be more open with his feelings then.
How long have you been with him?
This is as much as I can say since I don't have a really good grasp of your relationship with him.
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most def dont break up with him thinking that he he doesnt like you. quite the contrary. he just might be so insecure with HIMSELF that he cant admit to that. he has a hard time expressing himself so that could be misjudged for not liking you. trust me, if he did not like you he wouldnt be with you!
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Maybe hes never been in love and too young??
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I think you just need to be patient with him.
He says he's not good at expressing himself, so just wait until he's more comfortable with you, he'll be more open with his feelings then.
How long have you been with him?
This is as much as I can say since I don't have a really good grasp of your relationship with him.
I have been with him for 2 years now. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mellow.gif)
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woah serious? 2 years....hmm well then, I don't know that's pretty long haha
You've already talk to him about this right?! Maybe if you guys went on a break, he'll realize during that time how much you mean to him.
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has he been in any relationships before?
maybe he's just finding it hard to open up again even though he loves you, but he's just afraid of being hurt. he probably does have feelings towards you and your relationship it's just that he doesn't want to show it, because he afraid he will become fragile and that'll just hurt him more easily.
trust him... and let time take it's role and see if your love is strong enough to let him trust in your relationship.
but on the other hand if you think that this relationship will keep going on as a one sided relationship i say take a break and see if he realize anything.
never make someone your priority if you remain their option.
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woah serious? 2 years....hmm well then, I don't know that's pretty long haha
You've already talk to him about this right?! Maybe if you guys went on a break, he'll realize during that time how much you mean to him.
yes.. we have talked about it.. We just talked bout it actually... He said he loves me still, and they are just rubbish talking... But hopefully i dun lose my temper again when i heard those comments again. I just dun understand why would you say things like that as a joke...
It's funny how some people cant express their feelings very well. Is it a guy thing?? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)
so yeh.. problem solved.. Thanks for all of your advises people... Really appreciate it...
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maybe he's insecure. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif)
it takes time for 'true love' to blossom lol;
just be patient. he's probably not ready to express his feelings,
but working his way up.
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sounds like the guy is insecure and unable to express his feelings. :\ I would take offense to....
I agree. He's just feeling insecure. He probably doesn't want to get hurt if he falls in LOVE.
yeeh.
i think he's insecureee. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ohmy.gif)
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please.. no feelings?
i used to be like that too.. i used to say 'i'm callous' which was somewhat true but you know.. i am human.. so is he.. and if you don't have any feelings at all.. you're just denying it.. after a while you start thinking with your head instead of your heart so you think that you don't have any feelings but your heart is telling you something else
i understand what you mean.. i hurt a lot of people with my selfishness.. to tell you the truth.. i was like that because i didn't want to get hurt.. i didn't want to break down my barrier.. i don't know how long it would take him to realize it. but if you can't bare it.. try talking to him about it (but then he wouldn't listen because he's not listening to his heart) so it would be sort of pointless. if you leave him.. he might feel it.. regret.. if he really does like you like he said he does.
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Insecure, freightened, whatever excuse it is, it still hurts and highly unreasonable. I asked the same question as you, why would he go out with you if he had no feelings for you?
I've heard it, and it drives me crazy. Makes me mad 'cause I can't understand why.
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I can understand how your boyfriend feels. I used to be the same way.
I went to a counsellor but all I got was Maybe that's just the way you are.
I couldn't get attatched to anyone...you get the feeling of liking someone but you don't see what could be beyond liking that person.
Even now I don't really understand why I felt that way, but I can say that it wears off, especially when your relationship really starts to grow.
So yeah, just be patient with him...
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wow 2 years?
i can never be able to be with a guy with that point of view
maybe he's just one of those guys who's not open about his feelings or maybe he's been emotionally scared from the past and doesnt believe in love?
OR maybe thats just how he is.
