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i donnt kno if im being paranoid. or what. but last couple of weeks i guess i was feeling insecure cause i checked my bfs msn history with other girls. and i found some flirting..some webcamming and things like that. but i didnt put much thought to it, cause I told myself that he wouldnt cheat on me, and I trust him..
but for the last couple of days my boyfriends screen names have been such as sigh, looks can be deceiving
today he had on his screenname i guess love aint for me. but i didnt see it cause i was at work, and it wasnt there when i came home. but my best friend told me so. she asked me if we just had a fight. and i thot that was the weirdest thing, cause just after work he called me, and he seemed fine, he wasnt ignoring me or giving me attitude like he usually does when hes pissedd at me
and everytime i ask him whats wrong he tells me nothing, its not about you so im left here wondering who it is about..
is it wrong for me to feel sorta pushed away..maybe cheated on?
what do i do now??
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why dont u ask him straight up on what his msn name meant instead of just 'whats wrong'?
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itz not about u,...
cause itz about him....!!
i think he may be having feelingz for some other gurls...
and he having second thoughts on love with u
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Loving the Papoose quote. Awesome, and I couldn't agree with it more! Talk to him about it.
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why dont u ask him straight up on what his msn name meant instead of just 'whats wrong'?
well i did ask him what his msn meant..he said it was nothign important..and i said if its not important why is it there. and he just kept on brushing me off like that
itz not about u,...
cause itz about him....!!
i think he may be having feelingz for some other gurls...
and he having second thoughts on love with u
thats what i was thinking. and thats so hard to deal with. i wasnt sure if i was being too sensitive about this. im planning to ask him if he still loves me..cause if it doesnt, better to break up now then to break up when he actually cheats on me right?
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i don't think it's a good idea to keep asking him about it when all he's going to tell you is that nothing is wrong. give it a few days and then have a talk with him if it bothers you this much.
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why dont u ask him straight up on what his msn name meant instead of just 'whats wrong'?
Yes, you've got to be direct. Ask him what's up with that.
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Maybe your bf was just randomly putting up quotes?
Maybe you can wait for a few days later, maybe he's having pms...
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It's possible that he may just be in a bad mood. See what happens in the next few days. If he keeps it up then confront him about it and tell him how you feel.
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Maybe your bf was just randomly putting up quotes?
Maybe you can wait for a few days later, maybe he's having pms...
Him flirting with other girls on msn sounds a bit...though. Are you sure he was actually flirting? Or taking the piss flirting?
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Men don't work well with general questions. Ask him specifics.
e.g: Instead of How was your day? (general) ask him How was work today? Anything fun happen? (more specific)
Then they have a real answer for you other than It was alright.
So in your case, instead of Anything wrong? ask him So, about your screen name...what's up with that?
If he says it's not about you, then ask him specifically what it's about.
You're dating. You keep nothing from each other.
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how long have you guys been together??
what kind of stuff did he exactly say to these girls???
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uh flirting online with girls is still FLIRTING WITH OTHER GIRLS. tell him that you're not gonna put up with that sh*t and he feels like he has a right to do it then you have a right to leave. And if you feel like he's pushing you away, ask him directly what's going on and if there's anything you can do. If he still acts distant then seriously, it is his own damn problem. Make him feel pushed away and if nothing gets better, it's time to push him away permanently. Trust me on this, I've been through stuff like this and I made the mistake of sticking around when the guy absolutely did not deserve me. Guess who was more hurt in the end? me.
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Sweetie, I was going to tell you to go right to his face (well, not right to his face.. but just go to him directly) and ask him straight out. But you already did, and that's good. I've been through something like this.. and sh!t, I tell you.. I regret GIVING IN to his stupid excuses! If he brushes off and leave you hanging,.. he isn't worth your time. There are many fishes in the sea.
Those quotes, I think, are for him to send a message to other girls. The message might be something similar to this: I think I might like someone else.. and love just ain't working for me.. or just to give hints to another girl that if she likes him, too.. then.. whatever. I don't mean to be mean.. but that's just what I think. And I think you think the same.
If you asked him and he doesn't give a sh!t on what you think.. don't waste your time or put stress on yourself by worrying. He isn't worth it.
But of course, I'm drawing reasonable conclusions based on what information you provided. DO NOT GIVE IN TO STUPID EXCUSES! If it still bothers you and he doesn't care.. chances are.. it'll still bother you later.. and you'll just end up resenting him.
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thats what i was thinking. and thats so hard to deal with. i wasnt sure if i was being too sensitive about this. im planning to ask him if he still loves me..cause if it doesnt, better to break up now then to break up when he actually cheats on me right?
^ dont ask him in a serious straight out manner
he will feel pressured and such..
instead.. in a joking manner...
ask him playfully.. like nothing is wrong..
u stilll love me dont u..??
or something like that
and just see how he says it...
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just leave'em alone hes another creature girls won't understand.Just let it off u r mind and ignore . it's helping him and you.
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well i did ask him what his msn meant..he said it was nothign important..and i said if its not important why is it there. and he just kept on brushing me off like that
thats what i was thinking. and thats so hard to deal with. i wasnt sure if i was being too sensitive about this. im planning to ask him if he still loves me..cause if it doesnt, better to break up now then to break up when he actually cheats on me right?
youre damn right!! go for it ! better do it sooner before it gets you ! so proud of girl fighting! thers a lot of good guys out there !!
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i had a similar situation. i guess i was just being paranoid though. it happens a lot.. but usually it's not what you think. but yeah, talk to him and ask him to explain~
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I think if he brushes you away so easily you should simply make the first move and tell him to get over his problems or get over you. However, I'm always a fond believer of a brutal truth and tough love in the hopes that maybe he'll reconsider what he's doing. If he doesn't I guess he's not worth it.
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i guess love aint for me - i suggest that you ask him specifically about this, what he meant on that...'cause it's unfair to you if he feels that way.
