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So my bestfriend recently started going out with this guy and the topic of virgins came up and he asked her if she was one.... and she told him no she wasn't, he's actually mad at her for that. She came to me for advice... but i don't really know what to say except that he's being immature. I'm not sure what i would of done in her situation... to lie or to tell the truth...
Would you guys tell your S/O if you were a virgin or not if they asked? and if they didn't ask, would you ever tell them that you weren't a virgin?
and for the guys... if your girlfriend told you she wasn't a virgin, how would you react? would you be disappointed? upset? or not care? etc
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well its really all about age isnt it, if a younger guy heard his girlfriends wasnt a virgin, they would be upset, but most guys after highschool dont give a rats ass.
or thats how it is here.
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i find it immature of him too
as to your question, yess i would tell them whether they asked or not. i'd be easier to tell them if they asked tho.. but if they're going to be my significant other I think they should know my sex life history & it'd be alot worse if he found out i wasnt a virgin from somebody else but me
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what's wrong with being a virgin?
I mean, maybe they just want to
save it for someone more meaningful
to their life... if your bf or w/e ask you
might as well tell the truth, what's the point of lying...
i mean if they love you, they shouldn't care...
beside, they fell in love with you as a person
not what you could do in bed....
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i gotta admit that i would be a little bit disappointed (not disappointed AT her) if my gf told me she wasnt a virgin. i think its got to do with the jealous side of me, knowing that other guys have had a piece (sorry if too descriptive) of the girl who might end up being my wife one day. i would of course accept it, so no i wouldnt be mad.
how old is the guy in your story?
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Don't ask don't tell. If asked, be honest. Amen.
Most guys wouldn't cared if you're not a virgin. Also, it's real hard to find girls now aday that's above 20 and a virgin.
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I told my S/O that I wasn't
the mature ones, wouldn't act selfish like that.
if the person trully loved you, he wouldn't care about such issue.
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well all three of us are 20, for those who were wondering.
thanks alot for the advices and such. my friend's still trying to get her boyfriend to understand... he's being a little stubborn with the issue too, he's a virgin, so maybe that's why he's having a hard time? i really don't kno how guys think. lol
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yah .. i'm sorry for her
my s/o was a virgin when he met me.
he didnt care, in fact, he said, he's glad i wasn't a virgin, because he could skip the messy part (e.g: the pain, the bloody bed) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
Yah, I hope her bf changes his mind. I wish her good luck. ^___^
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If he asked i'd tell him the truth otherwise he doesn't need to know about it, but keep in mind if he asked me, i'd ask him the same question back and expect an honest answer back.
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Does he want to know the truth right now and be mad?
Or does he prefer to hear a lie and to be hurt afterwards?
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I would tell him. If I wasn't one, of course =p
And about the guy, well he's the one that asked, so he should accept the answer he received.
I personally think it shouldn't change how someone views their SO.
muchlove!
-jisoo
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Don't ask don't tell. If asked, be honest. Amen.
Most guys wouldn't cared if you're not a virgin. Also, it's real hard to find girls now aday that's above 20 and a virgin.
Hahaha. I love the Don't ask, don't tell. If asked, be honest. Amen line from that post. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
And I also agree, it is hard to find girls above 20 and a virgin these days.
As for me, I would like to know about my s/o, so in turn I would let them know as well. Honesty is the best policy...
Your friend's s/o is just being a tool in regards of taking in the fact that his gf isn't a virgin. Maybe he'll come around once he realises that at least she had the guts to be honest with him.
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mmhmm i wud. there's no use lying about ur past, it jus makes u look like ur hiding something
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from my experience, usually guys ask you that before anything becomes serious, no?
my friend says he asks girls the virgin question following how many bf's have you had etc, because they just want to know what they're looking at*
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Shouldn't honesty be a significant part of a relationship? Of course telling the truth is the better bet, especially, when it comes to sexual matters. If he can't handle the fact that he isn't her first, then she shouldn't bother to handle the thought that he's immature and possibly insecure. He probably suffers from virgin syndrome. lol
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uh, wtf.
he's gonna have to accept the fact anyway. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif) would he have prefered her lying to him?
i mean, i'm sure you guys aren't prepubescent kids who've never been in a relationship before
and never felt the need to do sexual activities.
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i don't understand why he's mad at her.
it's not like she lost her virginity before to make him mad.
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Don't ask don't tell. If asked, be honest. Amen.
Most guys wouldn't cared if you're not a virgin. Also, it's real hard to find girls now aday that's above 20 and a virgin.
true that..
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the real question is how many she's done it with.
but if my boyfriend wasn't a virgin, i'd be a bit iffy but i wouldn't exactly get angry at him.
