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wow... this is pretty not cool. Let me tell the story. Most ppl that hear it say that it's like Romeo and Juillet so yea. Ok.
My parents told me that I could not go out with this girl who I really liked and have been going out for like 4 years. 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, and a lil bit of my junior year at high school. Last year, sophomore year, I sorta used this other girl to make her jealous so she would go out w/ me. It sorta worked cuz she got realli jealous but it didn't work out overall... I'm a junior now and prom is coming up in about 3 weeks. I asked her while we were going out and she said yes then. I asked her like 2-3 weeks ago and she was like... I really want to but I don't think it's going to work because of parents. I know that my parents are going to say no so i proposed a plan which was ridiculous and I know it's not going to work. I realli realli like this girl. I think I love her. I know the definition of love cannot be defined in words yet if i could, it's like, whenever she is there, I feel like the luckiest guy in the world. yet when she is not, I feel like I'm missing an arm. Then about 2 weeks ago, I decided to be her friend. So I started talking to her again. Now, I haven't been talking to her for like 2 months after we broke up, but when I did, I felt a pain in my heart cuz I know she likes me and I know I do yet nothing will ever come out of it. But at this girl's bday party, when we played truth or dare and stuff like that. I got realli realli jealous and mad. Mad at myself because it was my parents who had the problems and mostly, if not all, my fault that we can't be together and I can't do anything about it. We talked today on the phone for like an hour. I wanted to solve all our problems and be friends. But I know I can't cuz I realli like her and being friends with her is going to hurt me and her and I don't want that to happen. So she invited me to her sweet 16 and I declined cuz I knew I was going to feel jealous and she should move on too. Now we are not cool again. I just want her to be happy and not be dependent on me. I don't want to be dependent on her too. I want to move on but I can't... u noe? Tomorrow or the day after tomorrow, I'm going to ask a girl to prom and I feel guilty cuz I'm doing that but I truly believe that that's for our own good. I want her to move on and find a better guy than me cuz I noe that I'm a jerk towards her and i'm an ass...
But back to the point, parents within a relationship are the most.... ..... ........ argggggggggg.... w/e
Share your stories about parents in ur relationship so I can feel a lil better (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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aww, you should listen to your heart.. still ask her, you shouldn't tell her to move on when you cant... it will scar you for the rest of your life (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) , i still say, go ask her to the prom.. so you can let her know how you really feel.. if you really love her, don't let her go...
well..my parent aren't happy with my relationship, they seen my bf and they are alright with him, but they still thinks im too young to date..
Parent will be parent, they are just scared their own children will suicide if their heart get broken into million pieces ^^
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I know how you feel. My parents are really strict and won't let me stay out AT ALL. It'll be like 5 in the afternoon and because of short winter days(before march) it gets dark at that time. So my parents get overly protective and tell me to come home. I didn't argue at first because I'm too tired of arguing with them over things they aren't willing to accept. Of course, this only applies when I can actually see my boyfriend. I could'nt go out on weekdays, and so on weekends I had to be home early. It hurt my relationship and my then boyfriend, who never stays home, didn't like that and ended up breaking up with me.
I don't blame my parents though. It helped me see how much of a jerk my ex was. Maybe you can convince your parents that this girl isn't bad at all. How strict are your parents? Does your mom not want you to see this girl at all? What's her reasoning? Why does she let you go out with other girls then? Hmm Just understand some parents care about their children a lot, maybe a little too much, so they're over-protective. Did you explain your situation to this girl?
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damnnnnnn 4 yrs? since 5th grade? wow. lolz buh dun let ur parents get to u.
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I'm a little older now, but I never let my parents into my relationships, even when I was younger. I just hardly ever brought the guys home. I would tell my father the problems I was having and vent to him a little bit, but other than that... I never really cared what they thought, it's my life.
I got my first boyfriend in the 9th grade, and we were together for a little under a year. We went out together all the time, movies, amusement parks, that kind of stuff. I jsut never told my parents anything about him. They'd met him, but never spent any time with him to not like him. My mom didn't get mad about us going out until the day I moved away. He came to see me off at the airport. When we got on the plane, I told my mother for the first time how old he was (he was 4 years older than me, I was 14, he was 18.) That's when she spazzes and said if she had known she never would have let me see him.
She saw him again a couple of years ago and asked him when he was going to get back together with me, lol! It was pretty embarassing.
Now my boyfriend comes over to my house all the time, but he's such a good boy, and parent would love him, he's so polite and well mannered, even when the parents aren't around. He treats me great, and I tell them that, so they like him (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
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yea.. thanx but iono my parents still have the pwr over me right now so it's kinda stupid...
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..if you really loved her. your parents wouldn't matter.
i hate it when people say parents are the reason they can't be together.
if you two really love each other as much as you say then you could work something out
and you would try everything to be together. i wouldn't let something like my parents decide who i'm in a relationship with.
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^ I don't know about your parents, but there are those extremely psycho over-protective strict ones that will give you a beating if they find out you even go anywhere with guys alone. =/ Some people would rather not go through it.
I don't know if this makes you feel any better, but my parents won't let me date until 18. I hid something from them once, but it's over and done with now so I guess it doesn't matter anymore. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
I also have an older brother, 11 years my senior who protects me crazily... he won't let me date until I'm 21. But stuff that. Honestly. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
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that’s a reeeally heartbreaking story…and u must luv her heaps to wanna be able to do that for her. would u ever go behind ur rents bak and hve a relationship? I have a few friends who r doing that…dunno if its good or bad.. I think iwouldnt just cos i dunno it dun seem rite
and yeh most rents are kinda ___________________ with relationships..if u look at it the other way I guess they wanna protect us or something? *shrugs
hope it all works out =/
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wow you're like in the same situation as me right now.....except im the girl T_T
if u truly love her...dont let her go....please its probably killing her right now that you're like avoiding her right now TT
i know what that feels like!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) and remember that love will always find a way!
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i broke-up with my boyfriend because of my mom. i thought it was the end of the world.
but now i'm fine.
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oh and this is my story lol
me and my ex bf loved each other a lot but my parents were really against it so we stopped going out....but our love for each other was still so strong that it was really hard to really 'let go'
then i went to korea for winter break and when i came back he was really touchy with this one girl and i got really jealous. i knew that he was doing that to make me jealous, and i know his personality is really touchy with everyone but it hurt me sooo much that i said 'hope you're happy with you're new gf, glad u found someone better then me' and he was like 'how could you say that...' and got really really depressed and sad....now its really awkward between us and he's a totally different person and i regret sooo much for ever losing him....you cant truly let go of someone when you're FORCED to break up (parents) i miss him like crazy but he's avoiding me and wants to move on with his life just like you right now T_T he knows that being friends with me is going to hurt both of us, but being without him just makes me feel so weak and is hurting me even more (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
*sigh*
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Aww that's really sad...if you like her, I think you should still fight for her...but iono, it sounds really hard. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
well my parents didn't like my boyfriend when we first started going out... they even made it really hard for me to see him or talk to him when I didn't see him at school. at first they just showed their disapproval but didn't stop us going out... then they finally told me to break up with him. I did, but then I kinda didn't at the same time. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif) I told him about everything and we kinda said we'd be friends...but nothing really changed. it was like, friends by name, but we completely acted like boyfriend and girlfriend because it was really hard letting go. soon I talked to my mom and we had a long talk and she finally agreed that I wasn't a kid anymore. there is nothing wrong with my bf...he doens't smoke, isn't a gangster, has good grades.. I think its just that parents don't want you to grow up too fast and so they feel like they need to have an opinion on who you love. maybe you're a little young to have the same talk I did with my mom, but maybe you can still explain to her how you feel. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif) good luck.
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why are your parents against you guys dating other than the fact that you guys are still young. believe me, you guys are still young, you'll find new loves and move on.
actually i've never dated a guy that my parents didn't like. it's not like i'm a goody goody anything but whenever i date someone, somewhere in the back of my mind i always ask myself will he and my family get along. for me it'll always be family over a guy...that is until i marry him then of course he's family too. i just can't be happy in a relationship where my family is not supporting me....and no i'm not dependent on my family either.
newho, my bro went thru that and now they are not together. it was tough but now my bro has moved on and actually found a better girl.
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i think you should try to work it out with your parents.
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goshh, I know what you mean.
but still ask her, you both know you like each other, it's just the parents that's being the pain, but ask her and see.
My parents are like that, they would not let me date until I was in high school or in my last two years of high school, BUT haha, I went out with someone anyway, there's no point in letting love wait so long for you or it'll disappear.
but, my parents are really really really strict. I have to marry an asian guy, who has a job, career, own apartment, car, respectful to parent, has a religion (Christian-catholic) etc etc, the list goes on and on. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) it's really sad...how they try to control my life haha.
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I totally understand how you feel.
When I went out with my first boyfriend in high school (middle of junior year), I had genuine feelings for him as he did for me, yet my parents kept pushing on the fact that I should focus more on my studies than going out with him. Then, they used him as my excuse for not doing well in school and wanted me to break up with him (I was doing a lot better AFTER meeting him... I don't know what they were talking about). Especially since he was going to go to college in the fall, I had my doubts, but I stayed with him. Their words against him made me want to break up with him a couple months into our relationship because I didn't want him to be bad-mouthed by my parents, even though I still liked him. We ended up breaking up that summer. And my mother had the nerve to ask me Did you two break up because of what I said?... -.-
I don't think this happens much, but we got back together last fall (we go to the same university) after a little over 2 years of being apart and we've been together since and I couldn't be happier. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
