Question:
My friend confessed that he liked me around the summer, but I always thought he wasn't anything more than a good friend, so I rejected him. From that time onward, it wasn't really noticable until I look back now that I was getting more attention from him as time passed.
Maybe I'm just overthinking it, but all of a sudden I felt the attention he was giving were fading away. I started to panich and wasn't sure what was going on, I ended up making myself think I actually grew to like him. I even tricked myself into thinking I wanted to be more then just friends with him, so I confessed and told him there might be some kind of feelings there.
We agreed to work things out and see if we can become a couple, but now I finally realized that I don't like him that way. I can't pull myself to tell him the words 'I love you'. That is because I don't really love him, I just wanted the attention he was giving me back. In other words you can call me an attention wh0re. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
It's sad that I never realize I had this problem until I watched that episode of Full House where the girl that Bi likes suddenly wants to be with him... maybe we're not the same but I see her as an attention seeker like myself. I feel horible, but I don't want to hurt my friend any more then I have already. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) At the moment I can't help it that I feel the world revolves around me and no one else. I'm self-center and love only myself, it's sad but true. There is only room for myself in my heart and no one else.
Please help me, I want to change. I don't want to hurt people in the future.
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just be honest with him, he'll understand. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif)
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awww.
i think you should just take it easy, why jump the gun and even bring up quote unquote love at this point?
it shouldn't be so complicated, you know? if you WANT his attention, like, selectively and all, then who knows you may have some potential here with this guy.
it's overdoing it to make statements like I'm self-centered and love only myself. I don't think of you as any less or obnoxious of a person just because you're willing to try it out with a guy without totally being sure of your feelings towards him.
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is that why you created this thread?
you need to tell him quickly.
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I don't know why, but it doesn't matter how I say it, the stuff that comes out of my mouth sounds like such a big excuse. I don't want him to think that's I was just playing around with him all this time. I just realized I was an attention seeker not long ago, it's scary that I know I have a problem...
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speaking from a guy's perspective I've been in that situation before (and darn the girl who did it to me) but either way he's gonna end up hurt it's better that you do it now (when feelings are new) than later (when feelings are serious)...
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i was in a similar situation, i thought i liked a guy because he liked me and was giving me a lot of attention. and as the person above me said, it's better to get it over with now before he falls in love with you than to make him wait until it hurts more.
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Wow you are so full of yourself (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif) well there is nothing you can down other than to work on your humanity. You will hurt him even worse if you don't tell him that you are one confused chick who feeds on attention. The truth shall set you free.
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I totally understand what you're going through.
Not long ago, I found out this guy likes me and he wanted to ask me to go to homecoming
but he didn't ask me and so his friends told me about it. One day something happened and
he ended up asking me out, I didn't like him at all....but I said yes anyway......as time passed, I just told myself,
I LIKE HIM! because i'm going out with him I LIKE HIM!...but never once did I say I loved him because I didn't.
He would say he loves me, I'd answer, THANK YOU~
We lasted around a month and broke up...he was really sad as well as disappointed in me, i felt horrible.......
Tell him before he gets deeply hurt.
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thats....really bad! aish. ah....i think you just dug yourself into a deep hole, tell him how you feel, before it gets too late!
