Question:
all of you out there, you know how sometimes a couple looks fine and lovey dovey, what if one of them cant stand it anymore.
this is the case, me and my s/o been going out for more than a year and i dont think i feel anything towards her anymore but i cant or dont know how to break it up becuase theres just somethings i cant seem to let go of. mainly its all the hard work and time we both put in for each other, but everytime the words i love you escape from her lips i just cant bring myself to say i love you back with a full heart. she gives me everythign i want and need. my space. my time. my friends. but sometimes she can be a little to clingy or to much of a expectation for me to handle.
she expects me to be with her everyday or on msn chatting it up almost every moment when we r both in gr 12 and trying to work hard for a university. however she is starting to understand more and more that i need my time.
so thats the case. help me out. should i break up with her? how shoudl i do it? i'm scared i will regret in the end.
Answer:
My suggestion dude, just pull her to the side and talk. Like, hold her but don't go any further and settle your situation. But if you're gonna break up, do it straight up, don't drag it cuz it doesn't work that way.
Answer:
A relationship only works if feelings are mutual, meaning if you love/like her and vice versa.
If you can see yourself without, then I'd suggest you let her go... It'll be best for you and her.
Answer:
I've said this before and I'll say it again.
Why do people stay in bad relationships? The investment of time, energy, and even money can lead some people to hang onto an unhappy relationship, believing the payoff is coming soon. They don't want to have wasted their efforts. They don't want to have failed. Another reason some stay in an unsatisfactory relationship is because they don't have an alternative. The ol' plenty-of-fish-in-the-sea maxim rings hollow for them, so they stay stuck. There are a variety of reasons a person might stay in an unhappy dating relationship, but by far, the most common is this: Even a bad relationship can bring a feeling of security. No matter how false it actually is, the feeling of being involved brings assurance. People in these kinds of relationships usually won't admit it, but like a familiar pair of worn out shoes, their relationship provides a sense of comfort they can't seem to give up... no matter how bad the relationship really is. The human compulsion for security is stronger than a magnet. It can play serious tricks on our senses. Since we often don't like the anxiety that comes from making waves, we don't rock the boat. We sit quietly in our relationship, going nowhere, drifting aimlessly when we should be making some tough decisions.
If you do break up with her, do it fast and clean. Don't string her along with false hope. If she cries, fight the urge to comfort her. If she calls, don't pick up. If she plasters your face online with nasty words photoshopped to your head or blogs about your callous cruelty, let it be. She's just exorcising your demons and purging herself of you. Burn the bridges. Don't bother with the let's be friends. It's like a consolation prize for not winning the grand prize. Sucks!
If you stay with her, stay for the right reasons and not that of pity and selfish what-if regrets. Reevaluate your relationship with her, weigh your options, and see where your heart and head can find a place to lie together. It's your call. Good luck.
Answer:
all of you out there, you know how sometimes a couple looks fine and lovey dovey, what if one of them cant stand it anymore.
this is the case, me and my s/o been going out for more than a year and i dont think i feel anything towards her anymore but i cant or dont know how to break it up becuase theres just somethings i cant seem to let go of. mainly its all the hard work and time we both put in for each other, but everytime the words i love you escape from her lips i just cant bring myself to say i love you back with a full heart. she gives me everythign i want and need. my space. my time. my friends. but sometimes she can be a little to clingy or to much of a expectation for me to handle.
she expects me to be with her everyday or on msn chatting it up almost every moment when we r both in gr 12 and trying to work hard for a university. however she is starting to understand more and more that i need my time.
so thats the case. help me out. should i break up with her? how shoudl i do it? i'm scared i will regret in the end.
You really need to let her hear your thoughts, and maybe sit down and really ask yourself what you want, do you see her by your side in 5 years, 10 years, a lifetime. If not maybe it best to end things she deserves someone who is wholeheartedly in it, and you deserve to be with someone you can love wholeheartedly. Whatever you do do it with honesty, truth, respect, and consideration. Good luck!!!
Answer:
go and have a talk with her.
i agree with the other posts as well though.
she loves you && she has given you the time/space you need, yet you're still questioning why you're with her.
if she cannot make you happy, why prolong something that will happen eventually.
so my thoughts here are,
she loves you && cares for her, she listens to you when you need space or time && so forth.
the question is, would you do the same for her?
Answer:
Never prolong a situation, especially when you don't want it to.
Someone mentioned that you should talk to her. Tell her how you feel and work from there.
To be honest, she sounds like a great girl to have... you should think over it. You don't want to do something that you'd regret later in life.
Answer:
I've said this before and I'll say it again.
Why do people stay in bad relationships? The investment of time, energy, and even money can lead some people to hang onto an unhappy relationship, believing the payoff is coming soon. They don't want to have wasted their efforts. They don't want to have failed. Another reason some stay in an unsatisfactory relationship is because they don't have an alternative. The ol' plenty-of-fish-in-the-sea maxim rings hollow for them, so they stay stuck. There are a variety of reasons a person might stay in an unhappy dating relationship, but by far, the most common is this: Even a bad relationship can bring a feeling of security. No matter how false it actually is, the feeling of being involved brings assurance. People in these kinds of relationships usually won't admit it, but like a familiar pair of worn out shoes, their relationship provides a sense of comfort they can't seem to give up... no matter how bad the relationship really is. The human compulsion for security is stronger than a magnet. It can play serious tricks on our senses. Since we often don't like the anxiety that comes from making waves, we don't rock the boat. We sit quietly in our relationship, going nowhere, drifting aimlessly when we should be making some tough decisions.
If you do break up with her, do it fast and clean. Don't string her along with false hope. If she cries, fight the urge to comfort her. If she calls, don't pick up. If she plasters your face online with nasty words photoshopped to your head or blogs about your callous cruelty, let it be. She's just exorcising your demons and purging herself of you. Burn the bridges. Don't bother with the let's be friends. It's like a consolation prize for not winning the grand prize. Sucks!
If you stay with her, stay for the right reasons and not that of pity and selfish what-if regrets. Reevaluate your relationship with her, weigh your options, and see where your heart and head can find a place to lie together. It's your call. Good luck.
:: clap clap :: Very well said.
Answer:
feelings will change when u age, even when u think ur hs sweet heart is the one.
Answer:
i'm scared i will regret in the end.
read that line again and tell me how selfish you sound. dont hang on to her b/c you only want to protect yourself. she obviously fully loves you without a doubt but you do not return the same feelings. the longer u hold on and pretend to love her the more painful it is for her. youre having doubts, relationships are not built on doubts.
Answer:
This somewhat reminds me of my friend's situation. He was dating this girl who would do everything for him, but at the same time had a lot of expectations and was somewhat very clingy.
I think you should talk to her and maybe just take a break from one another. Think about what this relationship truly brings for you and what do you want in a relationship. Sometimes, it's better to do it sooner than later, because it would eventually hurt her even more.
Answer:
talk with her at first
and if she doesn't understand, you're gonna have to either suck it up
or force the words out of you
because really, what other responses are you going to get from us
other than just say it or talk to her
there's only one way to break up with her
and it's to break up with her
