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thanks guys~
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You have every right to be upset ,but try to take it into your mom's perspective. Your aunt is family, and your moms been raising her kids since they were born, so she probably treats them and takes care of them as if they were her own. So it'd be hard for her to just throw them out knowing that your aunt isn't going to raise them herself and probably dump them off to someone else or just let them live at home by themselves. If the burden of taking care of them is too hard for you then, I suggest having a talk with your parents to figure out someway that you can have your own space so you can focus on your studies and so you're able to take care of things that you need to take care of.
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love those kids.
even if you have to take care of them.
apparently you are a better mother/thinker than their real ma.
i take care of my nephew like he's mines.
it's hard, i understand, but that's how love grows.
you can be mad.
but be strong!!!
you are the bigger person in this story. rise.
good luck!
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obviously takign care of them your hatred of thier mother will rubb off on them o_o and when they grow up and realize hwo bad of a mom thier mom was i dont think they will even give her a second glance o_o
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you have every right to be mad. and no offense but do those kids of hers even call her mom? i'd find it wrong for them to do so.. i mean, they were never even raised by her. other than growing in her tummy for 9 months and just popping out, thats about it. shes dumping all her troubles/worries on your mother but then she stopped paying ur mom and goes and do the things that ur mom can't do no more. of course its only natural ur mom feels that its not right if she just dumps them back on her.. does ur mom/family pay for her kid's expenses ?? .__.
& it comes to show that when ur old enough to have ur own kids.. u'll be a great mother! thats a pro right there. so smile =]
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obviously takign care of them your hatred of thier mother will rubb off on them o_o and when they grow up and realize hwo bad of a mom thier mom was i dont think they will even give her a second glance o_o
Yep. It's not the kids fault, so love them like your own brothers and sisters (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) .. considering the time you spend with them haha.. as for your aunt... completely unresponsible.
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gotta understand that most Asian families are like that.
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hm.. that really sucks..for the children to be disowned like that.. its going to affect they psychologically big time when they are older.. it seems your aunt is just with her boyfriend for fun..not a strict commitment where she is obliged to take care of her children.. i am sure the boyfriend does not want to take part in rearing the children as well.. best of luck..
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Don't blame your mom for not wanting to take them back, it would ruin their lives. I know you feel frustrated, but their mother is no mother at all...you need to help your mom take care of those kids because no one else would. I know it doesn't seem like it, but those kids if they're not loved or taken care of, will develop huge psychological problems and emotional ones. you have to help your little cousins have a normal life, just like your mom wants even if its not fair. its really sad hearing how they've been abandoned like that...just please, take care of them. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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I think that it's best that the kids are staying with you and not your aunt. Obviously, she doesn't know how to take care of her own kids, so she just leaves to what she thinks is best. But I do think it's selfish of your aunt not to at least learn and try to take care of her own kids. You should just stick to it, it's family right ? You want what's best for your family.
And yes, You do have the right to be mad, I would too if I was in your position.
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everything that everyone else said
AND SHE SHOULD BE PAYING YOUR MOM HELLA MONEY.
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first off, I'd pinkberry at her, telling her to either give you some money, or those kids are out on the john teshing street. [not really, just a bluff~ (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif) ]
and then, I'd take care of them.
they should be able to grow up normally, because if you made your aunt take care of them, she'll probably just neglect them... wouldn't you rather just take care of them?
it's not like I'm telling you to just take care of them, that's that.
I'm saying, talk to your aunt, compromise, and let those kids grow up in a good enviroment.
BTW, you must have a big house.
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Hm..Psychologically, in a household, babies and teenagers shouldn't get mixed up or live together in the same house or complications will arise such as this[you getting pissed off]. Adults should know that having a teenager needs her/his own privacy and focus on their studies. And babies can easily pick up bad habits off teenagers such as language and behavior. I'm sorta in the same situation but you eventually learn off your responsibilities in how to take care of others.
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Junsei yeah they still call her mom
;jenna I don't blame my mother, I blame my aunt. That is why I'm so angry about. & I do help my mom haha. but yeah i get you.
Thanks guys, I feel significantly better then earlier. I'll look at this in a different view and continue to take care of them. Thanks for your opinions and whatnot everyone. Appreciate it! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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