Question:
Well, for starters, I just feel really- for lack of a better word- bleh. Like that's exactly how I feel. The reason I'm posting in this section is because I think it may be stemming from this area in my life. I'm single and I enjoy it- but recently, I've been reminiscing about the past and recounting some things over and over again. It's not just one relationship, but basically all of them: the most recent, my first gf, and everything inbetween. I've been single for a while and I've been in a phase where I haven't been interested in starting anything mostly because I'm not ready to take on a relationship. But then again, why am I reminiscing? I'm not crushing on anyone, and I'm not missing anyone- its just a whole lot of bleh in my life right now. I mean, I went to go see Blades of Glory, which is a hilarious movie by the way, but I feel like I'd have had much more fun if I wasn't so grey. You know? Like the things that should be really really fun aren't that fun anymore. Like everything I do feels so unfulfilling. I've been trying to find out what's wrong with me and I still can't figure out what is wrong with me. Has anyone ever experienced this before? If so, any advice?
Answer:
I can relate, but not completely.
Well, I'll tell you what's going through my life right now...and tell you what I think about your situation.
I got out of a really serious relationship the end of last year. However, I'm doing better than ever. I've gotten involved in many activities and clubs. I participated in many social events. My personality and character gradually changed as well. I was more of a shy, reserved, and quiet guy. Nowadays, I've been a little outgoing. I wasn't the life of the party so to say, but I could handle my own in a social situation. I put girls and dating completely out of my mind and focused only my education and future. I became more ambitious than ever. My family was surprised of my character when I got back home during Spring Break because I was usually the slacker-type of guy at school. In addition, I changed my fashion and style of clothing to more sophisticated look. I threw away all the kiddie clothes I've had and bought loads of Banana Republic, Express, GAP, Zara, and Zipia clothing.
So in summation, every aspect of my life is going absolutely great.
Before all this, I felt what you were feeling. I felt grey-ish. I felt there was a huge, empty void in my life.
I believe it's because you haven't found that drive yet. The drive that motivates you to do what you do in life. In other words, you haven't found your passion and love for life. For some, it's purpose or some abstract concept; People realizing their purpose gives them that drive. For others, it may a person or something else that gives them the fire for life.
My advice to you:
Treat everyday like it's your last. A bit cliche, yet it works.
Get involved in new things. Learn a language, travel around, learn to play an instrument, join a club, tutor inner-city kids.
Make time to find yourself in these things.
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Okay, you don't think about dating someone again for now.
You just need something like learn new things or join a club.
You sound like a very lonely guy.
You just need something to make you feel active and full of fun.
I mean I know a friend of mine actually experienced that.
She didn't know what was her feeling. She was just like ??? confused.
Then my pastor told her that it could be Feeling of un-active
So yeah you're just un-active with certain fun things.
Go find something that could be fun like hobbies ;]
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its normal to feel down sometimes, everyone has their off times
but i learnt that if they start to interfere with what your normla day-to-days activities are, then you know that you need a change
push yourself to go out with friends etc...do the things that you usually found fun
you can't just expect to wake up the next day and be like you used to be...just try and push negative feelings aside and you'll eventually feel better
iono if this helped, but gl^^
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I've felt like that somewhat off and on lately. I have a lot of friends who are all in relationships, and it bums me out at certain moments. I do my best not to let it get to me, or to show it to my friends. So I've just been trying to tune a lot of negativity out, and just work on improving myself, etc.
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Seriously, I thought I was reading something that I posted. Hey, Trigger man, I feel blah all the time myself. For me, it's a feeling of non-existence and remote unimportance. It's a feeling where I just feel like each day is passing me by and relationships that occur to everyone else doesn't exist in my world (my life). It's a feeling of plain emptiness, no interest and solitary oblivion. For me, life just passed me by so quickly that I wasn't even ready to leave my youth when things were much better and more fun. Everyone around me thinks I talk, act and behave like a grandpa and I'm only 24. I think the best you can do is discover what you really want and be completely honest with yourself in regards to what might be missing in your life that you might have not considered yet. I don't know any other escape, but to just cope for the sake of living this life like an ordinary person as society tries to label it. Then again, that's only made me into a repressed cynic with social inabilities. Do you have friends that you can hang out with? At least that can help you to forget that you're feeling dull, temporarily at least.
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I think I know how you feel.
Erm....And like MAD KOREAN, I thought I was reading something I might have wrote myself.
I was thinking about posting something like this but never got the courage to.
Anyhow..Yes, I do feel blah sometimes. No, not sometimes, most of the time. I feel like..I don't know.
Haha, things just pass by and life goes on. And to be completely honest, I don't even know what's the point of living anymore.
I don't know how to ''live a better life''. I just feel like there's no point to anything and I don't feel..engaged, I guess is the word, to anything.
Even though I laugh and play around and you know..do stuff, I still don't feel like I'm happy nor laughing inside.
Yeah, I play volleyball and I run track. I have friends and everything ''normal'' people have but I definitely do not feel normal.
I guess people like you and I just have to find a ''spark'' in our life. Find something that would motivate you to do things. Learn new things. Travel, maybe?
Do stuff that would keep you off track?
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i know what you mean. . .like thinking about the past and being all depressed. . .yet happy? haha thats how i am right now .
idk i think the best thing to do is just try to get the best out of life and all. try to find some new things to do that will make you stop thinking about those things
Answer:
Whenever I felt like that....
I'd go out and do something fun
and remind myself how great it is to be single.
Even though you know how you should feel...
it doesnt hurt to remind yourself sometimes why you think the way you do
Being single is awesome. But we all get into those times where we wish we had someone to be with
but just think of all the energy, time, and emotion it takes....
sooooo tiriing......
