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ughh i have a big problem here and i have no idea what to do.
i swear i've tried everything...
ok so.. HS prom is coming up and 3 people have asked me so far..1 person was easy to reject hah.
but 2 of them were my friends....and im not sure how to tell them i dont want to go with them.
ok so my ex-bf asked me first
and one of my friends whos like 6 inches shorter than me asked me next...mmm lets just call him SHORT FRIEND for now so it doesnt get confusing here...
i told my short friend that i was gonna go with my ex-bf since he asked me first...(at first i didn't want to go with my ex-bf but i used him as an excuse not to go with my other friend... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif) )
but then my ex-bf backed out and said his uncle+aunt dont want to pay for it and since hes going back to Taiwan soon...
so my short friend is going to find out that my ex doesnt want to go anymore (they are friends too...)
and then he will ask me again to go to the prom .....
what do i say to him?
i REALLY don't want to go with him (1. hes short, 2. we look weird together, 3. hes kinda ugly but a fun guy...) but i dont want to ruin our friendship or hurt anyone........ (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
EDIT:
its really hard to give him a flat out NO because he WASN'T just like will you go to the prom with me?
he sounded really scared and after asking me he said he was really really nervous and been waiting a long time for the right time to ask me.,...
and i already gave him that first excuse -O-; but now it wont work....
cuz i already said oh i wuld hav gone with u if my ex didnt ask me first..... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif)
and now how can i just say no to him -____-
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Is there anyone you want to go with? If there is - ask him and if he says yes you got an excuse not to go with your friend?
If you can't find anyone else to go with but still don't wanna go with shortie, tell him you decided to go by yourself after your ex backed out?
Sry if I'm not any help. :\\\
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uhhhh before he gets the chance to ask you....go find another guy and ask him! quickly! make haste!
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when will people learn to tell the damn truth. it's not hard. god just tell him you don't really wanna go with him, crap. what's there to hide? he's your friend isn't he?
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just say no I dont want to go with you
making this whole thing sound like some BIG DRAMA
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tell your short friend that you want to be just friends with him. if you don't like him, you need to tell him. be honest3
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well he just wants to go with me as a friend
but i dont want people to think we are going out cause we went to prom together...... it happened with my other friend last time
i dont want a date. i just want to hang out with my girlfriends..
and its really hard for me to say no because after he asked me told me how nervous he was and how he waited really long for the right time to ask me........ im just really scared of hurting him
i dunno.. i guess im just looking for another excuse to prevent hurting anyone as much as possible. iw ant to do as much as a can to prevent that _;
thanks for your advice...but im looking for another way around besides telling him the truth.
can anybody think of anything else?
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if that's the case, just say u just wanna go with ur girlfriends and dont really want a prom date. if he's really hurt and really wants to go with u, maybe offer to dance with him like once or twice during prom?
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Well, you dont want to go to the prom alone do you?! If you want to just go alone, tell him Sorry but i think i'm going to just go alone. I mean, you want your HS PROM to be memorable im sure. So if i were you and i had noone else to go with i would choose him, i mean it's not going to take your friend relationship to another level or anything.
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you should just go with him. you'll probably have more fun with him than if you went with someone who was good looking but a boring person. plus, he's ur friend. it's not like ur dating him or committing ur life to him. you might end up having a ton of fun with him.
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and one of my friends whos like 6 inches shorter than me asked me next...mmm lets just call him SHORT FRIEND for now so it doesnt get confusing here...
HAHAHHHA you're so nice
well who DO youwanna go to the prom with? if hes likely to ask then just say sorry to your short firend if he eventually asks.
otherwise, why not go with your short firend? its better than no one
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telling him your really hoping your crush would ask you?
just promise him one dance to make him feel better (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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telling him your really hoping your crush would ask you?
just promise him one dance to make him feel better (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
i agreee!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
if the short guy genuinely likes you, i think he would understand.
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just tell him the truth...that you want to go with friends. there's nothing wrong with that. i know many people who said that to guys they didn't wanna go with to prom.
unless you go back on your word and go with someone (IMG:style_emoticons/default/vicx.gif) then it'll get complicated
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Be straight forward . IMO don't lead him on if you're just going to give lame excuses . Tell him now so he can find another date .
You're both friends right? He said anyways he just wanted to go as a friend so it's not like you're breaking his heart. It's not like he's deeply infatuated with you.
Any guy will be nervous(well if he's not smooth which it seems like to me) asking out a girl to a prom , even if she's just a friend and especially if she's pretty .
but i dont want people to think we are going out cause we went to prom together...... it happened with my other friend last time
Really .. IMO just seems like you're embarassed to be seen with him... It's not hard to correct people if they want to assume things.
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you know what? i was in the same kind of situation 2 years back. the guy i liked whom liked me back as well [but we weren't going out] asked me to be his prom date and i was still thinking if i should go out with him or not because of some personal reasons happening. then there was this friend [a super close friend] who is also shorter than me who asked me out. he was also so nervous and all but i didn't give him an answer right away, becuse the guy i liked asked me. but then the guy i liked backed out because of something and i understood that so there...
in the end, i didn't go out with my short friend, but i talked to him, like i can hang out with my girlfriends, and he can join me anytime he wants to. and i promised him a dance. maybe you can do the same thing.
you might regret it towards the end. because you can never say you won't like him in the future. give it a shot.
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i dont want a date. i just want to hang out with my girlfriends..
i dunno.. i guess im just looking for another excuse to prevent hurting anyone as much as possible. iw ant to do as much as a can to prevent that _;
Uhh...you don't want a date. you just want to hang out with your gfs...then just tell him that. and plus...if you lie to him and then he finds out..he's going to be hurt. probably more hurt than if you said no to him. he's your friend. you don't lie to your friends...just tell him the truth. it'll be the best way..
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^ just go alone then.
If he goes to prom as well and asks you to dance, at least it won't be such a big deal... Otherwise, if u decide to go with him then just ditch him half the time to hang out with the girls, he'll feel like u'r avoiding him, etc etc.
Anyways, good luck =/
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You can tell him that you are going with your friends, it`s like a big group date. That`s all you have to tell him and ask if he might want to come along so he won`t feel all left out, but IT`S A GROUP DATE, you see.
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1. hes short, 2. we look weird together, 3. hes kinda ugly but a fun guy...
I don't know, but
that sounded kinda shallow
