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Well. Last time i skip church and went hang out with my friendd . My aunt caught me on the street with some boys and girls and stuff. She went home from chruch to tell my mom that i wear too much makeup and i hang out with too much boys.
Now everytime i say somethingg they fuss like hell. Even the house next door could hear it. They keep saying that i hang out with too much people and i turn bad.! They even criticize one of my friend making her scared to come to my house.! I mean they are the meanest parent ever! If i say i need to go to UNO to go into their library they start fussing like how i didnt tell them earlier! BUT WHAT THE HECK! the teacher just give me the assignment on FriDAY! and it due on mondaY! ON SATURDAY I ASk them to bring me to the book store they was like why and stufff! i was like i neeed book for my project! Then i tole them sunday morning i need the stuff! they was like why u didnt tell me yesterday! I did! but they didnt even wanna listen! ughh i feel like dieing! I mean i cant stand this any longer. Im thinking of running away. I dont know what to do. Any advice will be really helpful
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well thye may think that when you say youare going somewhere that you are actually sneaking out to go somewhere else. o_o
its a trust thing and i dont see it as that bad @_@ jsut ask them again and remind them over and over and if they dont let you ask them if they want you to fail school o_o
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That happened to me before! I told my parents I was going to the mall with my friend, and one of our guy friends was with us... and my aunt saw me with my guy friend, [cause my friend already went into the store] so they thought I was on a date...
So I told my parents before my aunt could ; But they questioned me so much for that week....then they eased up again.
I agree with sushi, it's a trust issue. My parents used to not trust me at all, like I say I'm going to a bday party..they think it's some drinking party (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) ;; but now they trust me quite abit...as long as I do good in school and don't run into trouble.
Just have a talk with your parents, explain to them what's going on, [oh and everytime I had to go out before I had to explain to them in detail who was going to be there, what we were planning to do etc.] so maybe tell them abit of what they can expect to happen when you go to hang out with your friends.
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i know how you feel. my parents are like that. well used to be. i don't go out as much as i used to anymore. but it's like i'm more of a stay at home girl now whereas my brother is ALWAYS out. he's hardly every home. but then again their more lenient on him even though he's done a whole bunch of stupid things. it's like they always overlook all the bad things he done and let him do whatever. whereas i'm never the one to get into trouble, go to school, and just stay home. i guess it's more of a trust issue like everyone is saying. or they're just more protective of you than others. i guess you just have to learn to deal with it.
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Why don't you run away and ask those street-kids for help?
Or are they not really friends?
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Your parents are scared, because you lied to them, skipping church and hanging around the street, you`ve lost their trust. My parents are some what like that, but I don`t go out much as I use too. When it comes to parents, trust is a big issue, and the little incident you did, skipping church and hanging around, and your aunt caught you, made your parents lose trust in you and you have to understand that, having someone come to their house telling them what their daugther is doing and they don`t even have an idea what`s going on, makes them look like they`re raising you wrong and stuff, so they are more stricter. Just talk to them, because it`s school, and ask them nicely, keep reminding them, that`s all I could really tell you.
Running away isn`t gonna solve anything, just going to make things worst.
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sorry, but it's your fault man, better get that through your head. you skipped church to hang out with your friends. the people you can hang out with on any other day of the week. you only go to church once a week, what were you thinking? is that so brutally hard to just pay some respect? you have no idea how disrespectful that truly is to your religion and your family. now they can't even trust you. you've messed up your chance to truly earn their trust. damn, i wouldn't have the balls to go lie to my religion and my parents. go run away if you want, you'll end up crawling back like they all do. so if you run away, make sure you know you're not coming back to humiliate and make a title for yourself as a drama queen. i suggest you suck it up and own up to what you did and quit being so damn selfish. oh i can't stand it anymore, i'm gonna run away. i really can't believe you went there, honestly. how would you feel if your kid went and skipped church to just plain hang out with some friends? would you feel like you could trust them? i know i wouldn't, i'd better see some damn good reasons on why i should trust them again if i'm gonna trust them again. try thinking a little more outside the box and for other people around you not just yourself and what you want.
i apologize if i was a bit mean there but that's reailty for you. you think bad. then you'll do bad things and when you do bad things, bad things happen to you. that's the chain. live it for leave it. i recommend leave it.
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sorry, but it's your fault man, better get that through your head. you skipped church to hang out with your friends. the people you can hang out with on any other day of the week. you only go to church once a week, what were you thinking? is that so brutally hard to just pay some respect? you have no idea how disrespectful that truly is to your religion and your family. now they can't even trust you. you've messed up your chance to truly earn their trust. damn, i wouldn't have the balls to go lie to my religion and my parents. go run away if you want, you'll end up crawling back like they all do. so if you run away, make sure you know you're not coming back to humiliate and make a title for yourself as a drama queen. i suggest you suck it up and own up to what you did and quit being so damn selfish. oh i can't stand it anymore, i'm gonna run away. i really can't believe you went there, honestly. how would you feel if your kid went and skipped church to just plain hang out with some friends? would you feel like you could trust them? i know i wouldn't, i'd better see some damn good reasons on why i should trust them again if i'm gonna trust them again. try thinking a little more outside the box and for other people around you not just yourself and what you want.
i apologize if i was a bit mean there but that's reailty for you. you think bad. then you'll do bad things and when you do bad things, bad things happen to you. that's the chain. live it for leave it. i recommend leave it.
I think god can forgive her for skipping ONE day at church.
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anyways....
my parents are like that too -
(but they're probably not as hard on me as yur parents are.)
they're just scared that yu might turn into a druggie and
not goto school.. then end up not going to college :x
try doing something that would make them gain trust in you again
like : dont hang out with yur friends outside of school for a week
and obeying your parents.
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I think god can forgive her for skipping ONE day in church.
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anyways....
my parents are like that too -
they're just scared that yu might turn into a druggie and
not goto school.. then end up not going to college :x
try doing something that would make them gain trust in you again
i'm not saying god won't forgive her, but what she did, if she doesn't know the things that go along with it, she will keep doing it. that's how it usually is, you do it once, you wanna keep doing it. and then what? everything's a chain if you haven't realized. i'm not saying this out of just thinking, i've seen these things happen. god can forgive, of course but you know who might take a little longer to forgive? her parents.
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ECK. that happened to me too. before chinese school started my friend and i walked off campus to go get food and my aunt drove by and saw us... and we were like (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif) so we continued to walk and we made it back 10 minutes before class started. when my parents came home they started yelling at me saying that i always ditch chinese school and stuff. i guess it was my fault though...
it's all about trust. they feel that they cant trust you so they question you nonstop. they shouldnt be like that forever, once they regain your trust [so dont lie anymore] then everything should calm down.
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i'm not saying god won't forgive her, but what she did, if she doesn't know the things that go along with it, she will keep doing it. that's how it usually is, you do it once, you wanna keep doing it. and then what? everything's a chain if you haven't realized. i'm not saying this out of just thinking, i've seen these things happen. god can forgive, of course but you know who might take a little longer to forgive? her parents.
i can see what yur saying (yu have a good point)
but her parent will eventually forgive her.
maybe church isnt very important to her right now?
(probably at the age when yu start questioning things about religion)
but i've never skipped temple before so... yeah
(ehh.. cus if i did, i probably wouldnt be here typing right now! )(IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
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i can see what yur saying (yu have a good point)
but her parent will eventually forgive her.
maybe church isnt very important to her right now?
(probably at the age when yu start questioning things about religion)
but i've never skipped temple before so... yeah
(ehh.. cus if i did, i probably wouldnt be here typing right now! )(IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
of course her parents will eventually forgive. but it's gonna be a long process is the main part of that. she's gonna have to really be up to it and stop thinking about how bad her life is now and really think about how she could regain that trust. i highly doubt it's gonna be easy. so actually being up to it makes a lot of difference. in time her parents will forgive her, that's the best out of it.
yeah if i skipped church, my parents would kill me too.
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of course her parents will eventually forgive. but it's gonna be a long process is the main part of that. she's gonna have to really be up to it and stop thinking about how bad her life is now and really think about how she could regain that trust. i highly doubt it's gonna be easy. so actually being up to it makes a lot of difference. in time her parents will forgive her, that's the best out of it.
yeah if i skipped church, my parents would kill me too.
._. you win.
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I'm sorry! I think you lost a little bit of their trust when you skipped church or something. LOL My parents are sort of strict too lol im so glad my aunts are young though because they never tell on me .. Anyways you should talk to your parents and try to gain back their trust
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Reason to hate aunts.
Why are aunts like this?
Especially asian aunts. - _ -;
Tell you your fat.
Rant to you parents about how misbehaved you are.
Brag about their child to make you feel bad.
%$#@!!!
I hate aunts.
Once my aunt had to drop me
off school, and she was late,
so even I walked out to her
house before she picked me up.
The she complains like hell how
I made her late and stuff.
WTFEET.
I walked to your house before
you even PICKED ME UP.
-angry-
Ah, they're all like that. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
I don't get it.
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well..i guess you lost trust in skipping church (i am sure god will forgive ya)
but you know all parnts are like that so protective....
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imo some of the responses you're getting are harsh
im not religious so i dont know how big of a deal skipping church is
but i agree with sushi, they prob think you're going to do something else besides what you told them you were doing
running away would be going to the extreme, and i dont think you should do it
anyway, you have to gain or regain your parents trust
