Question:
I'm pretty old-fashioned, traditional Korean girl, and I tend to go for the very stereotypical guyish manly guys. There are a lot of double standards in Korean culture (at least I think so), but I don't really mind them. I grew up with them, y'know?
Like most of my ex-bfs tell me not to drink if he's not there with me. Even when we're together, he'll limit how much I can drink. Or he'll tell me to cook for him all the time, and I'll also cut up fruit and do the dishes. Or he'll make me wear a sweater to the club b'cuz clubbing clothes are too revealing. Etc etc etc.
My fob friends are just like whatever, we've experienced that too.
But my American girls get so mad for me! And then mad at me! They say that I should be able to drink what I want, how much I want, when I want, with whom I want; that it's so rude that he doesn't do the dishes after I spent so much time cooking; and that I shouldn't change my clothes for him b'cuz my style is a part of who I am. And then they tell me that I'm taking back the achievements of women's right 200 years! O_O::
So yea... I was just wondering if anyone else experiences this.
Comment are welcome. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) Please don't yell at me for being traditional. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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nothing wrong with being traditional . o_o depends how you've been raised and what your values and morals are o_o
if you like doing that stuff who cares what they think... o_o besides ^^ you make an ideal house wife 3 a thing most men out there still do want
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Different cultures, different approaches.
It doesn't matter as long as you're comfortable.
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If you're not comfortable with it, then you can take actions about it.
But if you're okay with it, then you're okay with it.
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yeah..it's a cultural background. Asian men tend to to that (not all, but most). I'm chinese, my bf is chinese ,he doesn't like me wearing revealing clothes or drink alcohol without him around *just like you* etc (but not so extreme).
so how i see it is that :
a. not wearing revealing clothes means less pervert to look at my body and less people who'd try to touch me, so it's alrite with me. ^o^
b. drinking without him -- i can only imagine if some stranger would try to do something bad to me and me unaware of it.
but i agree that doing dishes and cook for him all the time isn't a good sign, whenever i'm cooking for us, i'll drag him to help me out in the kitchen, or help me do the dishes afterwards.
anyway, i think as long as it can be tolerated and doesn't degrade to the point of being their maid , it's ok
you can set your own standards of how you wanna be treated. If you're fine with the way things are, i don't think drama is necessary.
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yeah.... i can understand. but we don't really see as much of it in chinese culture, i think. [most of the chinese guys i know know how to cook...] american culture is more about individuality and self. they see a man who helps out as the ideal man, whereas in the more male dominated asian cultures (for example korea or japan), guys just don't do that. even after both man and woman have been at work all day, it is still the woman who comes home to cook dinner.
i wouldn't mind it if my guy didn't want me to drink....
sweater to the club is a bit extreme, why not just s small jacket?!
my guy cooks for me... [he's the pro!] and kicks me out of the kitchen.
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just do whatever you feel like doing. if you feel that you should listen to him, then go do it, if not, then dont do it.
my boyfriend doesnt let me drink or wear revealing clothes and i dont see anything wrong with it. he's just being protective.
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hey traditional isn't too bad. buh yeah do what u want. he can't control u, it can lead to more drastic things like limiting the pple u see or something
