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i recently learned that my 'boyfriend' thinks that our relationship is going down hill and he is looking for someone else. i put bf in quotes cuz we can't really date cuz my mom hates him, but we still concider ourselves together. he has thought that we are going to break up for a while now. he says that we dont see enough of eachother and that we dont fight. i dont know how to respond to this, i have school for 10 hours a day (soon to be only 7) and he goes to work everyday. i dont understand the fighting thing, i think that we shouldnt fight anyway. we have been together for a good 6 months and we have had ONE fight. does anyone have any suggestions on what to do?
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anyone? Help me please.....
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isn't not fighting a good thing? sounds like he is making excuses. sure, i'd like to see my guy all the time, but i dont NEED it. my feelings are still there regardless.
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You can't hold on to him if he doesn't want to be by your side. If he does break up with you take it as a life lesson and move on. I cannot believe he is complaining about not fighting what guy does that. Plus he is emotionally cheating on you looking to find someone else. He seems like a quitter to me just because things aren't perfect and heaven forbid there is difficulty. Find yourself a better man..who doesn't go when the going gets tough!! Find a keeper!!
Best of luck!!
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he doesn't feel close to you, like u're his significant other.
and the thing bout he works everyday and you go to school for so many hours, makes him feel like u're only friends.
but. if he's not willing to make the relationship better, for his own satisfaction, and he wants to find another gf. let him.
and you should let him go. those types of boyfriends are not good for keeping anyways.
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You can find someone better than him.
There's plenty of men for you out there.
Don't waste your time arguing and I'm serious about that one.
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let it go. it doesn't seem worth it. there are better people out there.
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I have to agree with what they said up there. It's best to let him go. He's not worth it. You're only hurting yourself if you hold on to him when you know he's thinking of breaking up and wanting someone new. There are better guys out there so don't worry about holding on to this one.
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isn't it good that you two don't fight...i don't get why he would want you two to fight...or does he want you two to fight more so he can have a reason to break up with you...i don't know...but don't waste your time being with someone who keeps assuming that you two were going to break up...well that's just my suggestion.
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I'd say just move on, Im assuming the feelings not there for him, theres no sense waiting for him If he's already thought about breaking up numerous times before.
As for the not fighting thing, my friend had something like that, and her bf got bored because there wasn't anything really going on. They rarely saw each other, didn't really fight, and he said that he just wasn't having fun in the relationship or he didn't find it fun.
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if he is looking around for someone else already.
&& he is still with you he's a jerk.
but if you think the relationship is worthwhile.
talk with him && maybe you'll understand his side of the story.
i mean, just because you guys don't really fight its not a reason to break-up.
it's an excuse thats all it is.
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the fighting thing- that`s just a weird excuse...
maybe he`s just losing feelings for you
since you both don`t talk to/see each other enough ?
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it is obvious he is already bored of this relationship
he wants u to do the breaking up for him
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I think he just doesn't wanna be with you. I've only fought with my S.O once and we see each other only on Sat nights. But we're still really strong and committing. It's been a whole year really.
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well i understand how he feels about not seeing you enuff. buh fighting? i think i kinda understand. when people fight, it shows that they care and is concerned, however u wanna put it. maybe he doesnt think u care as much
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the fighting thing...i think its because he thinks that relationship isnt going anywhere...or maybe isnt progressing? Usually...when people fight it makes a relationship stronger and healthier....people should often fight once in a while because there SHOULD be obstacles that must be jumped over in a relationship, to make the bond between two individuals tighter. Maybe you guys haven't been fighting because you guys haven't even been seeing eachother alot.
I don't get it... As long as your actually seeing eachother, that should be enough for him. Maybe planning more things to do together will help the relationship.
Why would he say that you guys would break up soon. Maybe he needs reassurance that there is a relationship going on between you two since you guys seem to not be seeing eachother alot.
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if he is looking around for someone else already.
&& he is still with you he's a jerk.
I agree. What a wuss.
Well, whatever happens, I'd advise you not to act like a desperate clingy helpless person that absolutely needs to be with that one guy. Trust me, I've been in that position and it didn't help me in any way at all (although I did learn never to do anything like that ever again...). Clinging onto someone who wants to leave is completely futile and pretty pathetic.
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thank you everyone~ and due to recent actions and 'gossip' that i have heard from people who are close to him,i dont think that i'm going to remain being with him for much longer if he continues to act like we arent together...an ex of his(who i thought he was over) is back and is messing with his brain...i swear this girl could get into the pants of ANY guy if she wanted to(*cough*SL~T*cough*) and onto of that..another ex of his(who is responsible for the death of his best friend) is back......
*sighs* i hope that i will be able to see him more since that i dont have to be on school campus everyday untill 6.
I'm not really the clingy type...i let people know how much they mean to me through other ways. And i agree with the fighting thing, i do think that i will just start fights with him over matters (i have a few issues to rant at him about) I heard from an other ex(who he dated for one day and isnt fully over either,who is a really good friend of mine and tell me all the shyt that he does behind my back) that he likes her..
all in all...i'm not sure what i'm going to do about him yet.
