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Hey soompierz, i just really wanna post my feelings and thoughts as of now and really ask for your help.
heres my story:
I'm from Melbourne (Aus) and a fews years ago, i went on a long holiday to Brisbane. Well one day whilst i was searching for a shop in the Brisbane city, i saw a girl standing closely beside me at a traffic light crossing. I looked at her and she looked back at me so i did the polite thing and waved and said hello ( my hello's always comes with a hand wave) and she smiled and said hi back. After this moment i remember her in the back of my mind always as someone i will never get to know in person, but i wish i did.
Now last year (2005) my friend from soompi was posting pictures up in her Aussie soompiers thread. She put up a picture of some friends and at that very moment, i saw the face of the girl i met a few years ago. straight away i went OMG i know this person, she lives in BRISBANE!.
My friend explained to me that this girl is her friend from Bribane whom moved to Queensland recently. I was so happy to see the picture! I was then given this girls MSN contact and this was where great things emmerged.
Her name was Anna (jappy name is Negomi)
I began speaking to her very often, waiting for every given chance in my day to speak to her, wether if it was on the net or on mobile, we always spoke and never was time happier! Then feelings began to weave between one another and we both started liking each other. Me being a honest person i admitted my true love to her, she did aswell. At this point, everything was working out just like a movie (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
By Novemeber, after all my exams, i decided to goto Queensland with my friends so i could see Anna. Everything was planned for the whole week, even Anna planned everything. She even visited my Hotel the day before just to make sure she knew where everything was. I finally reach Queensland and this is where the story turns sour.
Anna never turned up. On the first day at Queensland, i called her mobile over 300 times whilst sitting on the front steps of my hotel for several hours. By Night time (6 hrs past) someone picked up her mobile. It was her brother, so politely i asked to speak to Anna. I've known Anna's brother to be really nice and kind to his sister, Anna always told me how the brother would help her do anything but at this point all the expectations werent adding up. her brother told me bluntly Dontchu dare speak to my sister again or you will be in alot of troubles and hung up..
I was shocked and literally fell to the floor. Suddenly everything seemed impossible and distant.. For the rest of my week in Queensland, i was silent and unmotivated to do anything, i really felt sorry for my friend s who came to QLD with me. I became such a burden.
Time past and i returned to Melbourne. I recieved an Email from Anna telling me how numb she felt and how much she has cried cos of her brothers actions. He is keeping her phone right now and also took her internet away. I have no connection with her...
I had bought a white gold Stairway to heaven necklace for her which i was supposed to give her in QLD but due to the breaking scenario, i decided to send it off to her with the address she gave me in her email. i wrote an accompanying letter and posted it express only to recieve a call a few days later saying that the address was incomplete due to 4 houses owning the same exact house number. With my express post, she has to sign the parcel so the postman cannot go door knocking..
that was like the icing to the cake in this time.. i felt pain all over due to the unknowing. I recieved contact with one of Anna's friend whom said she would help me get Anna's address. She also told me that Anna asked all her friends for help to speak to me but all her friends refused and actually told her off for liking me and being so daring to like someone a state away.
This friend of hers was supposed to give me the address by last wednesday but over a week and a half has past. Currently I've spent 5 weeks sitting at the computer from 10am till the next day 3 am waiting for any sign of her friend or any little sign from Anna..
I honestly believe that the reaction of her brother and her friends were unfair. All they know about me is my name and my state and already they judge me like im a jerk.. They dont know how much Anna and i Love one another and how what they are doing is deffinately kiling both of us. They dont even know the extent of our feelings and how much we are keeping inside, how Anna's crying everyday and i went hospital for sleep deprivation. they dont know what we would do for one anothers Love.
Its been well over 5-6 weeks now that ive spoken to Anna, though i will never give up nor lose faith in her. Im going to continue to wait till she returns.. For the promises she made and the words she said Jase dont ever give up on me, we will make it happen. I will never forget.. never fail..
Sorry soompierz for going a tad bit too long on this life story, i really just want to hear your thoughts on this situation and seek guidance from others. Im the type of guy that wont ever live after breaking promises and would always persevere and pursue through obstacles and burdens. In life their is Faith, Hope and Love, and the strongest of them all is Love.
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jason i hope things work out for you. That was the longest post i have ever read (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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wow...i can't believe i read all of that.
first off; my apologies * hugs * you're in fact very right. you have all rights to be angry because you were treated unfairly. i can go on and on about how you were mistreated but i won't.
love is a bit strong. i can't really agree with you when you say you love each other cos in some ways you guys -- don't really know each other...if that makes sense. i think in order to love someone you'd have to get to know them more. but what do i know.
as for the brother and friend factor; try getting on their good side. place yourself in anna's brother's position. your sister claims to be in love with some guys who she met on the internet and lives a far distance. wouldn't you be ify too? would you really want your sister to meet a guy like that? i'm not calling you a psycho path, but i am trying to tell you to prove to him that you're a great guy. prove to him you really do er...love anna.
her friends? wow. some friends. they're not a bit supportive. if possible you should try to tell her to make better friends (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif)
last but not least, for christ sakes take care of yourself. you're not a kid and this is not a movie. just because you're not eatting or not sleeping doesn't mean anna will come back to you. this is reality. make the first move by doing something about it. STAY STRONG.
AJA HWAITING!
best of luck,
- t.
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Here i am posting again, this time with a little luck for fishii!! SO YAH GOOD LUCK FISHII!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now i am speechless . aiyor
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(that was so lame)
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wow...i can't believe i read all of that.
first off; my apologies * hugs * you're in fact very right. you have all rights to be angry because you were treated unfairly. i can go on and on about how you were mistreated but i won't.
love is a bit strong. i can't really agree with you when you say you love each other cos in some ways you guys -- don't really know each other...if that makes sense. i think in order to love someone you'd have to get to know them more. but what do i know.
as for the brother and friend factor; try getting on their good side. place yourself in anna's brother's position. your sister claims to be in love with some guys who she met on the internet and lives a far distance. wouldn't you be ify too? would you really want your sister to meet a guy like that? i'm not calling you a psycho path, but i am trying to tell you to prove to him that you're a great guy. prove to him you really do er...love anna.
her friends? wow. some friends. they're not a bit supportive. if possible you should try to tell her to make better friends (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif)
last but not least, for christ sakes take care of yourself. you're not a kid and this is not a movie. just because you're not eatting or not sleeping doesn't mean anna will come back to you. this is reality. make the first move by doing something about it. STAY STRONG.
AJA HWAITING!
best of luck,
- t.
i wish i could get onto any good side at the moment, but really i have no contact at all from anyone. im being hated and hated with a sense of passion where i have no control. Only her one friend understands us (hence she spoke with me) but its possible she got in trouble from the other friends and now cant speak with me aswell.. =[
thankyou littlebabytina16 i will stay safe and strong. God will make a way *criez
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her brother and her friends are kinda weird
it's only one state
and you seem like you're old enough for a long distance relationship
(your profile says you were born in '86)
how old is she?
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That's quite of a long post... but I still read it. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) I can see that you're going through a rough situation.. You guys sure did built up a strong love for each other... well I hope you'll find a way that'll work things out and good luck! ^^ If both of your faiths for each other will never lose, I'm pretty sure you guys will end up together one day. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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I suggest you gently tell Anna that if she really likes you so much to get off her lazy ass and do something about it. So what if her bro took her phone and stuff away? That doesn't mean he prevented her from going to see you at the hotel did it? And why isn't she doing anything about it now like attempting to go see you?
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her brother and her friends are kinda weird
it's only one state
and you seem like you're old enough for a long distance relationship
(your profile says you were born in '86)
how old is she?
Shes 16. the distance didnt really matter me, i could be up there every second week IF i was to see her. My parents are also thinking of moving up there but i dont think i should count on the moving.
I suggest you gently tell Anna that if she really likes you so much to get off her lazy ass and do something about it. So what if her bro took her phone and stuff away? That doesn't mean he prevented her from going to see you at the hotel did it? And why isn't she doing anything about it now like attempting to go see you?
Her bros in a way mounted her to the house. Even if she wants to do sumtin now, it seems impossible for her. i also thought the same thing as you like how come she couldnt even sneak a msg to me or send me a letter.. but theres probrably a reason..
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aww.. i don't really know what else to say but goodluck.. i really have hope in you & you seem very sweet+nice.. im sure you`ll make it work .
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*pat pat* i think it's more than a mere coincidence to know her again. may be it's fate or sth? lol ... but, may be i'm more pessimistic in relationship like this, i feel it's harder to work out. & u should clear up things with her also.
anyway, all the best =)
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Thanks everybody for your support, im praying heaps that good will come soon on our side. For now, its still me and the waiting game..
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omg yo, thats like korean dramas/tvb series! you're love story is like amazing lol. anyways good luck to you, but it's really hard for you guys to move on.. i think you might wanna forget her... cause unlike kdramas/tvb.. fairytales don't think it's gonna be any easier or like a miracle (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
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If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Love works in mysterious ways (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) G'luck.
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Now last year (2005) my friend from soompi was posting pictures up in her Aussie soompiers thread. She put up a picture of some friends and at that very moment, i saw the face of the girl i met a few years ago. straight away i went OMG i know this person, she lives in BRISBANE!.
My friend explained to me that this girl is her friend from Bribane whom moved to Queensland recently. I was so happy to see the picture! I was then given this girls MSN contact and this was where great things emmerged.
Her name was Anna (jappy name is Negomi)
Gosh. not to be mean but learn to think outside the box. You just said that u had a soompi friend who KNEW the girl, right? And if she does then ask your soompi friend for help. Thats what friends do, they help each other. Learn to use what you DO have. And right now you have a friend who is friends with your love
Secondly, there's no point on living on aimlessly kid, DO try to do something. If you've known her for so long, you must know her favorite shops, where she hangs out, and such non-sense, cuz most girls talk about that stuff. And if you CAN really go there whenever you'd like, visit some of those places and (well not to sound stalkish) but ask around and stuff. With any luck someone will recognize her, or you'll even meet her there.
So Yeah, thats all i got. Best wishes.........
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Gosh. not to be mean but learn to think outside the box. You just said that u had a soompi friend who KNEW the girl, right? And if she does then ask your soompi friend for help. Thats what friends do, they help each other. Learn to use what you DO have. And right now you have a friend who is friends with your love
Secondly, there's no point on living on aimlessly kid, DO try to do something. If you've known her for so long, you must know her favorite shops, where she hangs out, and such non-sense, cuz most girls talk about that stuff. And if you CAN really go there whenever you'd like, visit some of those places and (well not to sound stalkish) but ask around and stuff. With any luck someone will recognize her, or you'll even meet her there.
So Yeah, thats all i got. Best wishes.........
i would ask my soompi friend for help, but just before i went to QLD, she blocked me from msn for no reason that i could possibly point out. the last things i spoke to her were about the rainy weather and all was fine. But now, she has dissapeared and i wish i could speak to her aswell.. and appologise for any wrong doingz..
i'd do what you said in the second point but shes not been allowed out. so going and hunting for clues would be hard if no ones seens her for a month or so. But like you said, its possible, so i mite give a go when i think up a logical plan.
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Oppa.. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) I read your post even though I know what happened. I haven't speak to 'your soompi friend' who knows Anna coz I haven't seen her online for ages. Maybe coz I only have her old email? Don't give up ok Jase. I know its really hard for you right now but in the end, when everything is going to work out, it will be worth it ok? I'm sure Anna is holding on too. I don't why her brother or her friends are like that. They don't even know you! You're a great guy. Talk to me on msn if you need someone to talk ok? Or if you need any help. Cheer up ya..
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Oh my gosh, that's so sad. I hope you feel better and that everything will work out between you and Anna.
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Part of me wants to tell you to take more assertive action..
Part of me wants to tell you to keep holding onto your faith and letting the pain ease with time.
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I'm really at a loss. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
But I hope you feel better!
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I don't understand what you did wrong. They don't like you just bc you're from another state?
