Question:
i like this guy and i think he likes me too. we used to be workmates but then i have to leave the company for a higher paying job at another company so we never got to know each other that much well because he came into the company a month before i left. Ever since then, we've been exchanging messages.
I only see supervisor 1 as an older brother but I always turn him down when he asks for a date because there was this time that he begged me to go out with him in a secluded place and it was so late in the evening but then he did something for me, a really really big favor so I returned the favor by going out with him recently and found out that he likes me....
Meanwhile supervisor 2 is his (the guy I like) direct supervisor right now.I met supervisor 2 before I met the guy I like and supervisor 2 had feelings for me ever since then but then he didn't want to pursue me because he thought that he would only hurt me or something (he chickened out) so he got assigned to another city without pursuing me. Now it just so happens that supervisor 2 found out that the guy i like and i were communicating so lately, he started sending me messages again. I do not like to be rude so then I replied and we talked and since the guy I like has not been contacting me for the past 2 weeks, I agreed to go out on a date with supervisor 2 because I thought that maybe the guy i like doesn't really like me at all...and then at that same night, the guy I liked told me that he's coming to the city as well and I told him I'm going to go out with his supervisor and invited him to come along or meet me at some other time but all he said was goodnight...it's really really frustrating. I want to break the date with supervisor 2 but then there's a big chance that he he'd feel bad and if the guy I like found out that I dated supervisor 1 or if supervisor 1 found out that I'm going to date supervisor 2, maybe they'd think bad of me or what....I'm not doing anything wrong right? does going out on a date mean that you like the person you are dating? would they have the reason to get mad at me if they found out?
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Ummmm, it never hurts to say no. You know that right?
And depending on your definition of dating, well you guys ARE going out on a date or two, so its casual dating. Besides its entirely possible that the guy you like's supervisors might make his life hell if they ever find out that you like their subordinate, so its always better to tell them earlier than later.
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dating is dating... it's not like you're getting married. say to sup 2 that you have a friend coming and that you would like to reschedule your date...
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^ exactly...what`s so bad about saying no??
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Don't companies frown upon people dating? Especially if it's with a higher up?
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i found that confusing to read..
but.. if u dun wanna go on the date.. then say no..'
no wrong in that..
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It`s not like you`re putting a ring on the finger and saying I do. Just say no, something came up and you have to do what you have to do. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mellow.gif)
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i found that confusing to read..
but.. if u dun wanna go on the date.. then say no..'
no wrong in that..
i agree with her.
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i reckon you should say no. Because if ppl in your company find out about this complex relationship, they'll think your a whore lol. Take care! Gd luck and cheer up!
