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Do you want to be a lover or a provider?
Most men don’t realize that when a woman meets a man who could be a potential mate, she subconsciously categorizes him as either a “Lover” or a “Provider.” The “Lovers” are the men she is intimate with, and the “Providers” -- you guessed it -- are the men she sees as being good providers for her and her future children. We could talk about why women categorize men this way all day long, but for now let’s just talk about why a woman will put a man into one category versus another.
If you show a strong command of body language, sexual awareness and confidence, then she'll feel instant ATTRACTION and see you as a Lover. But try to win her affection with attention, compliments, dinners, gifts, and other favors, and she will see you as a Provider. When it comes to the “dating game,” Lovers are pursued and Providers do the pursuing.
If she sees you as a Provider, a woman will withhold sex, play hard to get and test you to see how good of a provider you'll be. If she sees you as a Lover, she’ll have a tendency to get physically involved with you very quickly, and YOU will be in control of where the relationship goes. Now… which guy do YOU want to be?
-David DeAngelo
Which one are you?
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you read too much DAVID DEANGELO stuff!!!!
the advice he give are gold but girls wont understand his theory since female are emotional creatures and males are logical creatures.
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is this from his daily emails?
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i guess lover then O_O
but yes i`m pretty sure girls do think in these 2 ways when they meet a guy
consiously or not
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I'm a girl... But I've noticed that I tend to like providers more. :x It's like, I get physically attracted to a lover, but that's just it. Physical attraction. In the end, I'd choose the provider over the lover more. I'd feel so much more secure with the provider, and I guess I'd feel more loved too. I'd be more emotionally attracted to the provider... And emotional attraction is so much more lasting than physical attraction. ^^
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im a total loser for superficiality- i like lovers more.
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...but girls wont understand his theory since female are emotional creatures and males are logical creatures.
I disagree XD some girls arent as emotional (me. one of them. ._.; im fairly emotionless.)
and not all males are logical.
I.e. Wouldnt it be logical to stop and ask for directions if your lost? (: (just teasing)
Im more into providers but I dont mind flirting a bit with a lover. It doesnt mean i'll be getting involved with them.
and yes, i agree, women do unconciously categorize men into those two categories.
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Haha I tend to fall for Lovers more than Providers I dont know why... :\ and all of them ended with me heartbroken.
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Are guys only allowed to be either a lover OR a provider? Or can he not be both?
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I'm not one of those ichii boo-boo kinda gals, so providers for me.
I'm not a very heart-warming person and I don't like overly lovey things. I just want to be taken care of. Just the basic needs.
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wow thats very interesting
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O_O;;
How does he get this stuff in peoples' minds. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif)
Basically. I like lovers more but providers, i think about them too.
More attracted to lovers.
But just keep an eye out for providers.
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i tend to think more lovers at first but i analyse them to see if they might be a good provider in future lol
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my bf's both. he's a lover cuz.....yea.... and he's a provider cuz he's a lot older and he's just nice like that.
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long term wise, a provider is best (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif) but of course a guy with both traits is the best
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Are guys only allowed to be either a lover OR a provider? Or can he not be both?
I guess you can be, but all the guys I alked to said to not buy girls anything, because that's what she'd expect evertime you go on a date or something, a gift..
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i just think girls look for providers lately. i only see dollar signs in there eyes. not kidding.
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im more for the provider.
im no gold digger.
nor do i expect gift but more of the show the personality rather then physical sexual things.
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i think all guys would want to be both at some time in their lives.
never being a provider could mean never getting married?????? do u reckon so?
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DOES THIS ONLY PERTAIN TO GUYS? Cause if it pertains to girls too, then I look for a provider. Sugar mommas FTW!
