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Uhm, this may be a little stupid, but I'm feeling a little {okay, a lot} hurt and a tad...betrayed (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
My ex-boyfriend and I broke up due to the fact that he lives in Boston and I like on the other side of the country from him.
A summer fling, I guess, but I thought it was so much more.
We were so close and in love but we decided that long distance relationships don't really...work out.
Atleast, for immature high school kids that we were.
On the day that he left, he held me and kissed me and that he loved me and all that bull.
I expected something, but after that, nothing.
He called me once.
Left me one message on facebook after I sent him a long message asking how he was, etc.
He im-ed me a couple times, but the conversations would either end within 5~10 minutes with him fading away me or i'd send him a message and he'd ignore me.
I'd call, but he'd say he was busy and hang up on me.
I'm in a relationship now, and I'm happy, but just for Christmas even, the fact that he didn't even call to ask how I'm doing but only respond with thanks to the im i sent him, wishing him a happy christmas....and no reply when i tried to engage him in conversation...Well, I don't know.
I just feel...so hurt. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
Even though we aren't together, I thought we had something.
He's not the player type..so,...sigh. I don't know.
I know people drift apart, but does this mean he just doesn't want to be friends anymore either or what?
He just doesn't care anymore? Did he ever care?
I wish I could talk to others about this, but...I'm supposed to be over him.
Does this just mean I still care for him? If so, how can I.....get over him?
Right now, I just miss him terribly.
I don't know what I want to hear or what help I need, soompiers, but...I'm just...so hurt and confused. What to do? What to do?
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There's nothing you can do because you've already tried your best to keep the friendship going but he just decided to stop it. I believe time will solve your problem. Just concentrate on your relationship now and fprget about him.
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i'll feel kinda crappy if i was your bf and i heard you say stuff like that
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u have a bf now
cherish him and forget that ex..
even u said it was a summer fling....
itz obvious that it was a fling for him..
thatz y he has that dont really care attitude...
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i'll feel kinda crappy if i was your bf and i heard you say stuff like that
u have a bf now
cherish him and forget that ex..
even u said it was a summer fling....
itz obvious that it was a fling for him..
thatz y he has that dont really care attitude...
cant help but agree with the two 100%
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i'll feel kinda crappy if i was your bf and i heard you say stuff like that
yeah
it seems like you're not really over that guy yet
anyway, there isn't much you can do, esp since you can't see him. best to move on to lessen the pain
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betrayed???? he's your EX-BOYFRIEND.
you're not supposed to feel betrayed if he doesn't talk to you. he probably did care for you before, but now you're not in a relationship with him. GET OVER IT!
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^ even though he may be an ex.....she may still have feelings for him
but yeah i agree with some of the others...yu have a bf now...yu should give ur attention to him instead of the other guy=/..i understand how you feel...my situation was similar to urs and yeah...it took me a long time to get over it..so yeah..just move on and forget about it=D
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You're just lingering on something that's not there anymore.
Forget about it all... delete him onfacebook and block him on messenger.
You have a boyfriend now, and you should concentrate on him, not you summer fling. He doesn't have any interest in you and its obvious that he doesn't care about you anymore... But that's a good thing because you have your boyfriend besides you.
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or maybe since you are in a relationship now so quickly, he thinks it was just a fling to you?
and maybe he did love you but seeing how ur supposedly in love with another guy now, he just can't be friends anymore?
I don't know. It can be like some other soompiers said but it can also be this way...since you are in a relationship and he is not.
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instead of feeling betrayed, concentrate on your current relationship.
mabye... start ignoring him and see if he starts talking to you again? some guys are funny like that, if you're too clingy they avoid you, but if you never call etc, they always want to know what you're up to...
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as you can see, you are the only one putting in any effort into staying in touch. I know it hurts a lot and you feel like wtf?? this is a guy that used to care for me so deeply? but that's how it is with some people. the whole out of sight, out of mind mentality I guess you can say. what can you do? he's obviously doing nothing. I feel very neglected by my ex as well. I know he has no obligation to stay in touch with me but he also gave me all this bull about how he will always be there when I need him PSHHH...He didn't even pick up my phone call when I tried to call to wish him merry Christmas, he called me back the next day after (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif) I still miss him but after that, I gave up. If he can't even pick up the phone on Christmas of all days, then I can't count on him to be a true friend or a reliable person in my life anymore. move on, girl.
