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i really hate this pyscotic, lunatic..girl
seriously she is mental.
she has anger problems...
after I came back from church camp,
i tried to patch our relationship and i tried to meet her half way.
however, i didn't realize that i was the only person standing there in the middle point.
thus i realize that she lacks communication with me and also she hates me.
i believe it's too late to work on our sister-relationship
it's hard communicating with her because she doesn't try.
she seriously lacks the mentality to own up to her mistakes. and she cannot swallow her pride to say I'm sorry...nor can she hold in her anger.
she attacks me with fury and seriously...i feel so offended. i don't even hit her back because i rather have a more civilized conversation. and she refuses to be a civilized person and continues to hit, beat and attack me like a wild animal.
seriously....if she has so many friends; i know that people must love her. I love her, I enjoy our happy times togehter.......but she is the anti-christ. no doubt about that she is. she has too much anger vented in her from the past. i wish to repair our relationship, but I know now that it's too late. therefore I have decided to not call her my sister anymore because I feel as if she's a stranger. She's a complete stranger to me now. I don't know what to do but to give up. I honestly do not have the time and patience right now.
she will need me next year when i drive.why? because we will be attending the same high school. and she will need ride(s) from me..but i guess i will be nice and drop her off to the nearest bus stop.
but should i do? i pray for her everynight and yet...no success.
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if she is mental cant u understand that a bit? (or were u just exhaderating?)
Does she have REAL anger problems? this is something ur parents or a doctor or counsilor perhaps?
if u were kidding about that part. I seriously think you should have a serious talk with her. I think being good to her is doing the right thing, but before u continue being nice to her i think u should have a SERIOUS talk with her, make her understand ur really HURT. Sit down with her or ask her if she wants to go shopping or get some.. uhh bubbletea? LOL and ask her K, all my friends have sisters they can talk too, i feel like ur not really being a sister nor friend to me? whats your problem, why do u hate me so much? remind of how old she is and she should grow up and stop being immature eventually u guys r gonna have problems that only FAMILY can support each other. After that ignore her until she gets it through her head
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Corinthians 13: 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love is patient and perseveres, so be patient with your sister, even though it's tough. It may not be tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year, but I know God will work it out and in the end it will be good ! Not everyone believes in God, but God haven't given up has he through all of this time, right ? if he have given up, he wouldn't have die for us. Don't loose faith, I KNOW things will patch up in God's time and plan ! Take it one step at a time and help her with what you can! I will pray tonight for you and your sister ! I hope I don't sound assertive or commanding, but please take it as a open suggestion and my opionon. Best wishes to you!~ ^____________^
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its never too late to work on sibling relationships.
i mean you guys are still young. its not like you guys are in your 30s, 40s, etc and set in your ways...
you're 16 and im assuming your younger sister is 13-14 since shes gonna be going to highschool soon
maybe shes just goign thru a phase?
rebellious, angry, the-whole-world-is-against-me phase?
you should try to be more understanding.
and she'll understand...one day.
but remember this.
one day your parents will eventually have to leave you
and the closet ppl left will be your siblings.
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Corinthians 13: 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love is patient and perseveres, so be patient with your sister, even though it's tough. It may not be tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year, but I know God will work it out and in the end it will be good ! Not everyone believes in God, but God haven't given up has he through all of this time, right ? if he have given up, he wouldn't have die for us. Don't loose faith, I KNOW things will patch up in God's time and plan ! Take it one step at a time and help her with what you can! I will pray tonight for you and your sister ! I hope I don't sound assertive or commanding, but please take it as a open suggestion and my opionon. Best wishes to you!~ ^____________^
thank you so much
this really made me cry.....
but remember this.
one day your parents will eventually have to leave you
and the closet ppl left will be your siblings.
i was thinking about this....
i really want to work on our relationship because I don't want to rely on her if I ever run into a financial situation, or just any situation
thanks you so much (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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Yeahh, I think it's just a phase. Where they just .. hate everyone. Hahah. I don't know. But yeahh.. that's how me and my brother used to be ? Until I hit around 7th grade-ishh ? And now we're hella close. People are actually surprised at how we talk to each other.. he's 19 and I'm 15. You still have time to patch up the relationship. She'll eventually realize that the relationship between you guys is important. Haha. [: Goodluck & hope everything turns out good for you two.
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thats your real sister?
O_O
my sister and i go along pretty well... since my parents were immagrents she kindahelped my mom raise me so shes like a mom 2 for me .
we fight adn bicker and hit eachother but don't really hate eachother...
your isister will grow up honestly... she'll see her mistakes one day when somone liek hr bites back
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hey...just continue to pray...
God sometimes do not ans prayers that fast, or rather, he's putting u to the test to test ur faithfulness. dun give up!
try to perservere and persuade ur sis to become a child of God!! I'll pray for u!!
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Trust me when I say it won't stay that way, especially if she's younger and you both are living together in the same household. Before my older sister left to live on her own we fought every SINGLE day and I swore I hated her, to the point where just thoughts of her made me boil with anger. But no matter what she says or does she still cares about you, even if she doesn't know it herself, I know because when my sister left (although I'm not saying it won't take this long for you) I was truly sad and missed her which was beyond comprehension because we rarely had civil moments. Although it doesn't seem like it exists and its a little cheesy, there's a small sisterly bond she feels for you although currently its covered up with her anger and outbursts. Don't give up on her or stop calling her your sister because right now shes maturing and becoming a teenager which is already a stressful and weird experience and she's just venting it out on you because she knows you wont truly hate her even at her worst (that's why we say and do things to our family members that we wouldn't say to anyone else). I 'secretly' looked up to my older sister despite all the hateful things we said to each other during my highschool years and once I matured and she became even more of an adult, things have changed a lot and now we treat each other as friends. Don't lose hope!
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its not too late.. its never too late!
me and my bro never got along until just recently... and hes 24 now and im 21... but before that it was all childish stuff. we werent exactly like how u and ur sis are, but lets just say i called him a stranger too since we always kept away from each other and didnt say a word like strangers.. it was until he had a really bad break up with his gf of 3-4 years that he really needed someone... and i was there for him. i never ever thought i'd talk to him like that or ne thing but we turned out to be really close after that.. whenever one of us has a big problem we always talk now, and we're like really good friends now ^^
so i say that since u guys are still young, u should still treat her nice and not ever say its too late and theres no hope left etcetc... bc there is plenty of time to make up, and maybe u guys are too young.. when she faces a real problem, just be there for her and show her u care.. if she doesnt wanna accept ur kindness, it dont mean to be mean to her or nething like that.. just be nice.
sorry if i didnt help much.. but if i did then yay ^^ goodluck to u!
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well next year those drives might be good for the both of you..you can start communicating with her just by driving her to school..and maybe she's just at the rebellious stage or whatever..so just continue to try and maybe she'll see the light..O_O..
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don't give up! i think it's absoultey amazing and admirable how hard you try and how hard you pray for her... i know that soon one day, she'll turn around and see how much you love her :] and i doubt she hates you at all... don't give up; God has His ways
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Like everyone said DON'T GIVE UP! When she does come to reality that you love her, she'll see how big of a love yo uhad for her and apprieciate you more then EVER. Until then Pray and never lose hope!
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yeah you shouldn't give up. i was your sister--minus the attacks--and i learned to show my care in an indirect way. what i mean is when i do something to offend someone in my family, i own up to it and make up for what i did.
so i dunno, maybe your sister will learn her way to maturity. i've never been on the other side--your side--but i know your sister's side. don't neglect her. you keep treating her kindly and someday she'll realize that you're always sticking up for her no matter what she did. i realized that about my older sister as well, i realized she loves me so much 'cause she does everything for me and i realized i was being way to rash and virbally abusive towards her. i kinda call it an epiphany.
just don't give up. be the best sister you can, no matter how difficult she is.
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i am sorry to hear that..
well i thought about it..
your sister clearly has issues and seems to be in alot of pain right noww.. did you do something bad to her in the past or something??
if you didnt...and she continues to treat you like that i think you should just stand up and fight back whenever she attacks you.. or just stay away from her/ignore her for awhile..if she really loves you(which i think she does) she will realize that you're her sister and she wants you back..
right now either confront herrr and have a deep conversation.. but by the looks of it.. i dont think your sister would like that anywayss.. so... just give her time.. it's her choice if she wants to hate her own sister or realizes that she needs you.. it's her choice.
realistically.. you can't always be the nice one and let her get her way of treating people like that.. if i had a sister like that i'd beat her already..
sweetl0ve's reply seems so kind and mature...
mines like the opposite.. lol
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sweety, don't worry too much about it.
it's not only do they grow and lose do they begin to appreciate what they have,
and who they have around them.
my little sister was once like that too.
i just constantly tried talking to her and always showed her how much i loved her.
until i couldn't take it no more and said horrible things to her.
she then realized that even the closest people to her could leave in the snap of two fingers.
they all grow up a bit after that
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Corinthians 13: 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
thanks for posting this. i was looking all over for it 3
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aww my brother doesn't like me either..... we just came back from our retreat yesterday and we're like fighting already.... but you shouldn't give up! just love her no matter how much she hates you and pray that she finds God. if you really love her and pray for her, I'm sure God's heart will be touched and he'll bless you and your sister and your whole family.
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hm. were you being serious about her really being mental?
Well,
hm
i know youre trying to help her. [you are a nice sister.]
Maybe.....shes afriad to let out her feelings because shes afraid of what you think?
i dont know...this is a guess.........but do you think she looks up to you on the inside?
This is hard to explain but you know when you want to say something but it feels like no one is listening?
I think thats what happening to her.
I know it sounds really stupid but........its kinda possible..
Maybe she wants to say sorry on the inside and maybe she wants to talk to you more.
maybe shes just afriad of what you think.
yeash i have no idea.
But do not give up.
You never know....maybe 20 years from now you both will be laughing at this.
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i think ur sister's just in that developing adolescent stage . and i think she does this because she has her own issues to deal with , and instead of dealing with them she'd rather take it out on u because its easier . i'm in the same situation as my younger bro , he's 14 and i''m 16 . and we pretty much fight cats and dogs . but usually i find that having space between us is good after we have a fight and then when we calm down we just sort of forget about it . i know its not the best way to straighten things out , but its better than having fights all the time .
or sometimes i try the whole bribing and coaxing thing/ give and take ... although its a loss on my part , its a very peaceful way to sort things out .
and don't give up on praying , keep it up . this is just God's way of shaping u ... like a test or something . but he's always there when u need him , he'll answer ur prayers soon enough - he knows that now isn't the right time . (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
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You know, you sound just like me and my little sister. We weren't close, but after opening up, we're pretty close now.
Really, all you need to do is tell her your feelings, that's what I did.. and we seem like we've never been in any arguments before. _
