Question:
soo.. i thought i had it all figured out.
i've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now. our relationship's not horrible, but he's done some things to me up till now that has hurt me a lot, but i keep forgiving and forgiving. and overall he's changed a lot over the years, has a short temper, does whatever he wants and doesn't think of me or my feelings a lot, lies to my face.. blabla. but he does this unintentionally and doesn't realize how bad he's messed up until it's too late. and we still love each other a lot, so it's hard to even think about leaving him.. :T
but, a few nights ago.. a friend of mine that i haven't seen for awhile came to visit.
i always thought of him as a brother b/c we're close friends..but we went out to a bar (with some of my friends), had a few drinks..
and he started asking me about how my relationship was going. so i started opening up to him, and told him all the problems.
and outta nowhere, he started talking about when he first met me 9 years ago, he liked me a lot up until
i got together with my boyfriend. and the whole night he kept complimenting me..
saying how pretty he thought i was.. how i was the sweetest girl he's ever met.. how i haven't changed at all for 9 years.
and he took care of me all night when i had too much to drink.. and overall was being so sweet and caring.
he did all this w/o being rude or trying to hook up.. whatnot. he knows my bf and kept his distance and was respectful
and i've NEVER been attracted to him before.. but for some reason i just felt like.. he's like the missing piece.
the way he's always treated me, for all this time.. is exactly what i've been looking for and asking for from my current boyfriend.
soo. i'm really confused.. i can't tell if i'm just being emotional.. or if i'm actually kinda crushin on this guy.. or what!
i need some opinons from other people.. soo what do u guys think.
-thanks for reading-
Answer:
have you tried confronting your bf?
i mean 4 years is a long timee and if your bf found out that you were suddenly crushing on another guy then it would kill him.
you should try talking it out with your bf first and if he doesn't seem to change for you then i'm guessin the relationship wasn't meant to be.
but keep in mind of the quote you never know what you have til you lose it
most ppl dont realize this til the end and the aftermaths aren't pretty.
Answer:
dK AxL: Has she tried confronting her bf? If she's been with her bf for 4 years.. You would think somewhere along the way she's confronted a few times or more. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif)
Well, if you've been with your bf, and he's been like this to you for 4 years. In my opinion I think you should've let go a while back, but maybe out of loyalty, and other reasons you probably chose to stay with him. I have a female friend going through similar stuff, but she claims to be in love with the guy, and he treats her like crap off and on. All I can say is the best thing to do is to take some time apart from your bf, and spend some more time with your guy friend. When and if you do that? Don't go all feeling guilty, etc.. Once you get some time apart, etc. Then re evalutate how you feel?
Answer:
you`re having insecurities with your current bf
so you`re looking at your other options.
its normal. but you have to decide what it is you want.
if you can handle your bf`s personality for the rest of your life.
4 years is a long time. think about it.
