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Lets say... our parents.. or couples who have been married for.. 10+ years..
Do you think that they are still together because they love each other, like when they were still dating,
OR
because they have a child they are both responsible to raise, and/or it has already become habitual and that having each other in their lives is part of their every day life and if they were suddenly gone you'd still feel like you're missing something?
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i didnt vote.. i thought about this a few weeks ago, but i could never find the word for it LOL.
thanks.
it could be both or one of them...
this is hard.
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itz love.. but also a habit..!
love changes to a new level....
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I see it as a full-time job.
Or maybe that's raising kids...
Well it was one or the other.
There was an analogy comparing marriage to something...
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Habit. They've been together for so long its like a routine and they don't want to stop this routine because of their children. Then again, I could be wrong.
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well, i think its both!!!...
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I think it's love because just because they don't public display it as much as when they were newlyweds, their love over time develops into more of a love in a deep lifetime friendship.
that's assuming that they truely loved each other when first married, of course.
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Sadly, I think habit.
Not that I'd personally know.
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for my parents, i think they still love each other, but i guess it's not as exciting as when they were younger, obviously. it's a more calmer type of love. my mom always tells me that marriage is like living with a friend, and i guess that's how i want it to be as well.
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for my parents it's more of like a habit instead of the whole wonderful love thing...
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tszho- you think a lot don't you.?
I think..that you can't stress enough that it depends on the person you marry.
i think that also love will be redefined when you reach that mature level of age.. that stage of maturity in life when you have kids.. a family..
even having kids should redefine and reawaken one's definition and view of love..
if i personally,
married someone i loved to begin with... and the person had good qualities that balanced out with my own personality..
that after those years... rather than saying a habit- it would be a redefinition and re-perception of life.
its like.. i dont see the love that is shared between my family a habit.
its a form of love..that is embraced by my daily lifestyle.
ok..i wrote so much. i'm so tired right now and dont know what i'm saying. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif)
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i voted habit..
when i see my parents together, i don't see love.
i see two people responsible for taking care of their kids.
also, i talk to my mother a lot.
she said at one point, she loved him.. then everything went crashing down.. he changed. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif)
but then again, that's not everyone. I see lots of other older couple who still love each other very much.
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I think it can be and is both.
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i think it's both but it's different from everyone's perspective of course. if i use my parents as an example for my reason, it's because i still see that my parents still love each other. they always kiss before my dad leaves to work & my mom gets ppijuh if he doesn't & she always worries about him. not only they love each other, but if they were to ever fight & let that fight seperate them, they're going to regret it because they've been together for so long that it's gonna be a big hole in their life.
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i voted habit..
when i see my parents together, i don't see love.
i see two people responsible for taking care of their kids.
but then again, that's not everyone. I see lots of other older couple who still love each other very much.
Same. For my parents, I think it may be a habit. Or maybe they love each other and are too embarrassed to admit it, I don't know.
I like it when I see old old people holding hands in the streets though. Goes to show that love can still exist after a long period of marriage. Gives me hope! xD
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It's still love. If it were just a habit without the love, they would leave each other because it wouldn't be a habit they were happy with.
Love doesn't mean you're gonna feel completely excited and high every time you see that person.. the feelings only begin to describe it. Love includes acceptance and commitment to one another.
I think my parents have been together for 20 years.. I know they love each other because they stick together in spite of their flaws.
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i chose love.
i've seen couples that are in their 60s and 70s and they still hold hands when they go out.
that's a sign of love. not habit.
it probably differs between couples, but there has to be at least some love present
for them to stick w/ eachother.
if not, they can always just divorce and raise the family separately.
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I think a bit of both.
my parents have been married for 23 years. they still snuggle up on the couch together, they still hold hands, they kiss, they are mushy as hell! but it also becomes a habit...everything turns into a habit if you keep doing it long enough.
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a bit of both sounds more right then one
i mean if they didn't love each other then nothing will ever work out (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
i certainly hope that when i get married i wont stop loving my wife (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
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whoa
more people think it's habit? that's why everyone's getting divorced, cause they think it's not love any more. I think it IS love. Dating is where all the 'fun' is, where you do cool stuff all the time, where you talk to your bf/gf on the phone for hours, thinking about him/her night and day, make out everywhere. People expect marriage to be a more intense version of all that, but I don't think so. I think marriage is when you decide that you wanna do all that boring life stuff together: opening a joint bank account, paying bills, taking turns doing the dishes, making a living, raising a family. Just cause they aren't making out in cars at the drive-in or only having sex once a month doesn't mean it isn't love. I would shoot myself if I found that raising a family and making a living with my wife all just felt like habit without emotion.
