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::Edit:: Ok, I have come to a decision that I just see him as a best friend. I mean I REALLY LIKE him, but as a best friend. We get along so fine and I could tell him almost anything. I think I LOVE him as a brother, but he SERIOUSLY likes me. He likes me WAY more than i thot i liked him. would guys get hurt if a girl tells him she sees him as a BEST friend and almost like a brother, if that guy really truly have deep feelings for her?~because i want to choose my words right when i tell him this......(IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif) U
I feel like I could just get a remote control and rewind everything I said and done and erase it...::sigh:: seriously
Okay so lets name one guy that I am kinda involved with, hmmm Mark
well Mark is 27
~and I'm 18
I met him last semester in my city college that Im attending right now. We clicked real fast and became real good friends whom we could talk to ANYTHING about with.
Now, I , never had any experience into which I had such a close, good friend and a GUY on top of that.
I felt that I liked him and was SUPPOSED to have a crush on him, because he makes me happy and we flirted alot and we would talk on the phone for hours.
I had a HUGE CRUSH on him but that feeling was like, off and on.
so finally when my feelings were at an all time high for him, i finally told him dis week on jan 2 and now....well i regret it.
HE REALLY likes me too and he told me how he was telling ALL his friends about me and how he was worried that i wouldn't like him because of the huge age gap.
I always want to talk to him and be right next to him and hold hands, but at the same time I SOO wish we were just friends. It feels uncomfortable at times and if I suddenly let him know that, well thats kinda messed up because he WAS soo glad
its weird cus at times I really do like him and have a crush on him, but at times i just wanna stay friends~
I do not know what to do~
and plus, he is my first ever boyfriend (if thats wut it is if i confessed...)
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O_O
it could be lust?
but then you do LIKE/LOVE him when your around him...
you guys can always be friends w. benefits..
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O_O
it could be lust?
but then you do LIKE/LOVE him when your around him...
you guys can always be friends w. benefits..
sheesh dont give bad advice. thats what i call bad advice. ne way stay clear from him. its too much to go through but if u really wanna try go ahead. But think about this --- im crap at maths but say when he was 9 and in middle school, u were not even born. when he was in college u were in play school.
but to be honest i know a couple who have a 9 to 10 year age gap but the woman being the older one. but true love is true love, and they are still together and there son is my mate. some things are still possible.
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bu_rp, i don't know what on earth you're thinking
saying they should be friends with benefits
because normally it benefits only one person
the other gets too attached and gets hurt
and imo to the main poster i think you should stop leading him on
if you like him you like him
if you don't and can't see yourself in a relationship with him
other than when you feel you do
don't bother with it
you're gonna end up hurting him
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hmm.. i think itz cause hez the first guy u ever got close with...
so ur reading the reactions alll wrong...
i highly doubt u like him...
i think you're just attached to him..
with a litttle crush on him...
hun.. u shouldn't lead him on... with this relationship..
he seems like a really nice guy and totally into u right now!!
and if it goes on for longer... he will get really hurt if he finds out the truth..
he is 27!! possibly looking for longterm/ marriage relationship..
you're 18.. just starting life!! think about it...
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hey guys thanks
but i have a question~
i JUST confessed like on the 2nd of jan...like really confessed
but should i tell him suddenly to just stay friends.....just like that?
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^ yesh.. bad bad mistake..
it was a bad mistake to confess to him in the first place...
and yesh.. u have to tell him that u realised the way u like him isnt at the level yet...
u r not ready to go gf/bf with him...
just say that...
either way.. u should put up the barrier in being bf/gf and jsut be friends..
but itz better to say it in a less hurtful way!!
make sure u use your words right.!!
or else u might lose him as a friend tooo!!
be careful... and talk smart..
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first off, you should not have said anything to him. You shouldve have cleared it with urself whether you did like him or not before you even attempted something like this. You knew of the consequences when you were going to tell him about your feelings for him. If you would have thought aobut it beforehand and straighten things out with yourself, you would not be in this type of predictament. But now since you say that you might not have feelings for him or that those feelings might resurfaced, tell him what you feel. Let him know so that he could either move on or stay. Best bet is if you guys stay friends because honestly, if you two did get into this type of relationship, it wont last until you figure out what you want, he already has.
*EDITS*
btw, this is off topic but i just noticed as I was scrolling up, how come i have a warning bar below my avatar while everyone else doesnt? wth?
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btw, this is off topic but i just noticed as I was scrolling up, how come i have a warning bar below my avatar while everyone else doesnt? wth?
^ because you only see that for your own screenname.
I think it's just the best friend effect.
Sometimes, if you have a really close friend that's the opposite sex as you, you feel like you're developing feelings for that person, but it's not always because you genuinely like them (but then again, sometimes it is). Maybe it's just that you like being around him and you really enjoy his company. Well, anyways... I think you should try your best to sort out your feelings as soon as possible... and if you decide that you don't like him, then it's best to tell him before it goes to far. As other people have already said... he's 27. He might be thinking about settling down.
Either way it goes, good luck to you.
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^ ah thx that got me confused for a while XD
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I'm kind of confused to why you want to stay friends. Are you nervous to start a relationship? It seems like you guys connect very well and share the same feelings for each other - and because you confessed he already assumes you view him more than a friend. I can see him being disappointed and confused to why you want to stay friends, but if it's really what you want then it has to be done, and soon before things go further.
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thats ok, i think you could tell him and he would understand
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wow that's so strange. i have a cousin named mark who goes to city college and yeah he can be a flirt buh he gave that up a couple of months ago and became serious with his current gf in florida
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^ because you only see that for your own screenname.
I think it's just the best friend effect.
Sometimes, if you have a really close friend that's the opposite sex as you, you feel like you're developing feelings for that person, but it's not always because you genuinely like them (but then again, sometimes it is). Maybe it's just that you like being around him and you really enjoy his company. Well, anyways... I think you should try your best to sort out your feelings as soon as possible... and if you decide that you don't like him, then it's best to tell him before it goes to far. As other people have already said... he's 27. He might be thinking about settling down.
Either way it goes, good luck to you.
of all the answers...
this one fits just right...
I think it is the best friend effect
can you thoroughly explain how this best friend effect is like please? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif) U
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=/ I agree with Psionic ....You were in play school while he was in High school...He's been through half of his life, while you just started the Adult one. _..they way you're feeling..I'm not sure about that---.....I think You should just remain friends until you get your feeling concluded..
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the age gap does not matter. i'm 19 and my bf is 26. anyways, i think the same thing kinda happened to me..i was kinda wishy washy about being with him at first, but now i'm as happy as i can be.
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i think you just dont love him enough to start a relationship.
