Question:
Okay, so I haven't seen this question asked before (or maybe it has), so I'm curious.
Recently, my friend was dating a guy who couldn't seem to make decisions on his own. It was like:
Hey, it's your birthday, how do you want to celebrate?
Um, I don't know. What do you want to do?
It's your special day, you should pick a place!
Let's just go wherever you want.
(By the way - she ended up wanting to leave him, but right before she dumped him - he dumped her. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/vicx.gif) )
So here's the question - In a relationship, do you prefer your boyfriend/girlfriend to be dominant or submissive? Do you want him/her to make the decisions or would you rather do everything your way?
EDIT --
Okay, I know many people answered with a I want us to be equal, but just imagine it was one way or the other _.
Answer:
Damn I can't have it in between? Hah. Well I want to be the slightly more dominant one. I had a boyfriend that was more dominant and sometimes it was good to have the guy make the decisions of where to go for dinner and but he was bossy in EVERY ASPECT OF THE RELATIONSHIP it was annoying.
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Damn I can't have it in between? Hah. Well I want to be the slightly more dominant one. I had a boyfriend that was more dominant and sometimes it was good to have the guy make the decisions of where to go for dinner and but he was bossy in EVERY ASPECT OF THE RELATIONSHIP it was annoying.
Yea, I agreed w/you. I like to be dominant too, yet at the same time I want it him to be as well. Also, depends on the situation! In the bedroom I'd prob let him be the dominant one, but that's just my preference. LOL! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
Honestly, I say depending b/c I wld like both of us to have some kind of opinions/choices/and say in things/places/etc.
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i rather it be both
cause sometimes i don't wanna have to think bout what makes us both happy
sometimes i just rather let him take us somewhere where he likes
and sometimes i rather go places where i like
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I hate it when they ask me instead of making their own minds... It's not right
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i rather them be in between dominant and submissive..
but be dominant in certain sitchez..
and also submissive when needed...
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I say neither.
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If a guy is dominant, then it would be great but not too more of that. I think it would be nice if he is submissive from time to time. (:
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i want my partner to be both
i cant always decide everything or he cant always be deciding, so yea d:
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I'd like it to be both, have him make decisions & at times have things my way.
Yea, I agreed w/you. I like to be dominant too, yet at the same time I want it him to be as well. Also, depends on the situation! In the bedroom I'd prob let him be the dominant one, but that's just my preference. LOL!
Honestly, I say depending b/c I wld like both of us to have some kind of opinions/choices/and say in things/places/etc.
^lol, word!
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I think would like a guy who is subsmissive.
He tries to be controlling all the time, it would get annoying.
But then again there are some times, where dominance is better.
So a guy with little of both is good.
HOwever, if I had to choose, subsmissive is better.
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compromise
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i'm usually really undecive so i'd perfer being the submissive one... but i don't like being told what to do all hte time... that just pisses me off
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i would like something in between, a mutual relationship
but if i had to choose one dominant
my bf was submissive in the beginning
but of course after he got me that changed hahaa
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i wouldn't want him to be a total submissive person. but someone who will let me take charge most of the time. i don't like dominant guys.
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...man my mind just went to somwhere else with that whole dominant and submissive thing =-=;;
ANYWAYYY...
My ex, I could totally tell, even though we mainly talked on the phone [[he lived far away D: he moved..boo..]]
he was rather more of the submissive one in our entire relationship.
he cried so much. he was always being so.. emo and insecure and like
it seemed like as though he was the GIRL and I was the GUY! E
it was SOOOOOOOOO mothereffing annoying.
I wished he was a bit more dominant and made up his own mind and at least.. treat me like a girl
instead of me doing it the other way around and have me treating him like he's the girl.
-_________-''
I'd want a dominant one T.T... but if he's TOO dominant- then bye bye - -''
either that or.. I want both T_T;
but noooo...
boo.
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I would perfer my partner dominant.
I want someone that can stand up to me.
That can say no.(although i will get my way anyways:lol: )
I dont like boys that cant make their
own decisions. Its kinda annoying.
I want my relationships interesting and
not boring.
But then again there is a fine line to being
dominant...if hes too controlling then he gots ta go
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My girlfriend is pretty outgoing and I am not..
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Submissive!
My dad is the definition of submissive, which is probably one of the main reasons why my parents never fight (I'm so serious; I have yet to experience a fight between them). My dad does everything to please my mom, and when my mom is happy, my dad is happy. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
My APgovt teacher talked about something similar to this a few days ago in class (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif) . He said that the guy in all relationships should make their gf/wife their first priority, no matter what. He says that, when the relationship part of your life is good, everything else will eventually fall into place, even if you are in the biggest sh-thole of your life. I think this is one of the most profound thing I've ever heard because it is SO true.
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Of course a combination of the two would be best... but I voted submissive. Your example made me cringe, but my first boyfriend was kind of the submissive type and came off as being so, so sweet. I'd expect him to tell me what to do but he'd always give me this shy smile and an it's up to you. Adorable. He was such a gentleman. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
