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If you're a girl, would you marry someone because
1. you're getting old (27),
2. you dont socialise a lot and so there's no chance of meeting anyone
3. he's a doctor, genuine and really into you, and basically a good marriage material
4. you've been hurt by all the men in your life, and have totally lost faith with the rest of the men in this world
even though you have no initial chemistry and attraction for this person?
Do you think you could build up love with time?
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i think you can really build love with time. but you're saying you have no initial attractiveness to him at all?
anyways, its never too late to get married.
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haha 27 isnt that old. that'd be around the time i start looking for possible husbands. and you'd still have time for socializing. just need to change yourself. go to gyms, clubs, social gatherings. make a friend introduce you.
but anyyways. to answer your question. yes, love could develop over time. and hes a doctor. he could take care of you ;] ;]
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I wouldn't marry without love. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mellow.gif)
Personally I'd rather stay single until someone comes along....
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That's a pretty high standard if settling with a doctor is for less. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
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ok, some clarifications needed here
when i meant 'settle for less' i didnt mean standards, but more like settle for someone that i'm not totally in love with
my mom told me that if i'm too picky i might miss my good chances, and i agreed with her, i'm not 17 anymore
and like someone else said from another post, the ones i like never like me back, only the ones i'm not interested in like me
so chances are at my age, i'll never find that special someone .. i might as well just give up on finding him
'cause i have 2 aunties that are not married for their whole life, they're between 40-50 and live alone and i dont want to end up being like them (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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I'm not sure..I doubt I would marry this guy..unless he's a really good friend. Because for sure, love builds in time..if you're married, chances are you will love each other EVENTUALLY.
(IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) VIETGIRL604
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This may sound bad like I'm just using the guy...but I think I would only go ahead with the marriage if I had nothing else going for me and I would see the marriage as a way out of a rut. You never know what you would do when you're down and out until you're there. BUT if I had a successful career and was enjoying my life, I would not marry him. I'd already feel fulfilled.
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ok, some clarifications needed here
when i meant 'settle for less' i didnt mean standards, but more like settle for someone that i'm not totally in love with
my mom told me that if i'm too picky i might miss my good chances, and i agreed with her, i'm not 17 anymore
and like someone else said from another post, the ones i like never like me back, only the ones i'm not interested in like me
so chances are at my age, i'll never find that special someone .. i might as well just give up on finding him
'cause i have 2 aunties that are not married for their whole life, they're between 40-50 and live alone and i dont want to end up being like them (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
if you like him, then go for it.
you don't have to be totally in love with him. it might not be his faults, you are not totally in love with him.
it might be because of your past experience and age which doesnot allow you to fall in love easily any more.
if you like him, feel comfortable with him...and you can see him as your companion, can have good
communication with him, then marry him.
many people are in love with each other but can't communicate well, they end up breaking up anyway.
marriage needs good communication, not passionate love.
ask your parents, they will agree. there is no sparkling-fire-love after marriage. its really boring & mundance
& all about money. marry that doctor guy sounds good to me, if he is a good communicator, understanding
and not too ugly! money is extremely important in marriage, i am telling you. yes, marry him if he is like-able to you,
i can't see why not.
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Alright, you dun like him, but if you still consider to marry him, I think the decision pretty much relies on his personal quality. Open your eyes wide to see how much he likes you, loyalty, patience, understanding, and compatibilty. It's no use if you marry him but then he betrayed you for someone else. You will regret for the rest of your life.
Personally, if he is mature, understanding, and we are compatible, yes, i would marry him. Love is pretty much useless if it doesnt come with compatibility. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)
Hope it helps ^^
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if i was very very VERY desperate, then i guess i would.
but i would still have to like ther person.
so i guess i'd *try out the reltaionship w/ the person who likes me, but i don't like them back.
that's the only way i'd settle
o...and if he was choice #3, then there'd be a bigger chance that i'd marry him.
hahaha
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Sorry to be blunt but you're selfish to think that way. You should never marry someone that you don't like because you will hurt that person. Even though feelings can be develop but if that person finds out that you only marry him as a safety guy then he'll feel horrible and be pissed off too. Also, in this century being 27 is still young. You still have lots of opportunity so why give up so early? Marriage is a committment for eternal love. Just imagine feelings did not develop, eventually you will end up being divorced so why make that mistake. All I can say is making your decision wisely before hurting yourself and that person.
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no, I would never marry for no apparent reason
thats stupid
I understand there are loveless marriages in the past and possibly in other cultures around the world. but here?
No point in marrying just because I feel old. I'd rather die single...sad as it is.
However, if I had a good guy friend, and we understood each other well..I would possibly marry him if I didn't fall in love with anyone else, or if it was always unrequited love. =__=
Friendship type of love is different but it still is a type of love, I guess.
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well, for me, i don`t think i would marry a person i have attraction towards. if i marry someone... i want it be meaningful and not a way to escape loneliness. plus, the world is different today. being lonely isn`t that bad. woman can support themselves now and you got friends and family. i might be able to settle in other aspects of my life like my career or something, but my marriage is important to me. i rather be alone all my life then marry someone i don`t like at all. i think that would be self torture for myself. but of course, i`m young O_______O. i don`t know much about life...
and yes i believe you can build love with time.
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my mom married at 27
and she dated my dad for a little less than 10 years EESHH...
but sure why not i mean,
i can`t wait around forever for the right guy to pass by.
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hmmm..well does the guy love you? i mean its abit unfair to marry the guy if he loves u and u don't love him and ure just marrying bcoz u don't think you'll find better. I think having chemistry and attractions is definitely important in making a marriage last.
I think thats cruel and a bit selfish, if you don't love him then you should also give him the chance to find someone that will love him.
I personally feel that 27 isn't that old, alot of people marry later these days so even at your age there are still single guys and who knows you just might find the one.
Those are just my thoughts..
Oops and to answer your question, no i wouldn't marry, marriage is a serious committment.
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I think somtimes love can build over time, but sometimes it won't. For me, I wouldn't get married to someone if I TRUELY believe that I love him with all my heart and soul. I will not just marry him to see IF the love will come. Even if I'm 50 and haven't married yet I still wouldn't marry without love lol.
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nope. for me, it's either i get married to the one i love and the one who loves me back or be single for the rest of my life
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ask me again after 10 years ..if I'm still singel (IMG:style_emoticons/default/cool.gif)
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That's a pretty high standard if settling with a doctor is for less. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
LOL (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)
maybe your standards & expectations ARE TOO HIGH and UNREALISTIC?
who knows
