Question:
Ugh, i feel so confused and ashamed and dirty.
I've been with my current boyfriend for about 2 weeks almost and we've gone pretty far sexually.
He's a complete sweetheart and we've fallen head over heels in love with each other.
At first it was just making out, but today it went a little further.
Afterschool, we ended up going to his house and we were just fooling around in his room.
Just making out, that's it.
Until he started to pull my shorts down, and eventually his&my whole bottom half was off.
He started fingering me and we almost went all the way.
He told me it was my choice and it wouldn't matter what i chose.
I asked him if we could just wait.
So, instead of having sex, it was just touching and him fingering me.
I'm only 15, we've only been together for a little less than 2 weeks.
We were both so caught up in the moment, neither of us had the sense to stop.
I don't want our relationship to continue ONLY cus of this reason,
and i don't want our relationship to END cus of this reason.
Honestly, i don't want to go this far anymore, it only makes me feel dirty, but it's something i don't think i'd be able to control next time either.
Did i lose my virginity because of what i did today?
Has anyone else had this experience at an early age /
Is what i did today wrong?
asdf; I just need some advice on how to feel better or what i should do ):
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no you haven't lost your viginity
no it's not wrong
if you feel bad or that it's wrong.. then stop.. yeah yeah urges are hard to control but so what.. it's either that or you'll continue to feel dirty like you said and then you might feel that you can't live with yourself morally because of what you did
and he said that he can wait.. so why don't you guys just try to stop yourselves.. it's really up to you and if you will be able to control yourself
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virginity is really loosely defined, but i think the general concensus would be no, since you didn't go all the way, you didnt lose your virginity.
you should be comfortable with what you do, at all times. tell your boyfriend what you posted, and how it makes you feel dirty. and you will do more stuff when you are ready, if you are ready.
as for self control, its mostly how strictly you adhere to your own principles, dont be afraid to be firm in telling him that you dont want to do whatever it is that you don't want to do. no one can really teach you self control, but if you do go all the way, make sure to use protection.
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no worries
my friend had sex with her bf BEFORE they went out - O-;;
nothing can beat that seriously LOL
i lost it 2 months into dating my current bf
we`ve been dating more than a year and half no problems =)
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my advice is- make sure you use protection otherwise it might be the worst mistake ever made.
and 2 weeks- geezes!! no offense but that's too soon, but then again, teens these days are sexually active. My b/f at the time (now my husband) waited 6 months before we went that far.
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babyg1rl, I think you already know the answer to most of the questions you have asked and didn't ask. You are only 15 and I know it is easy to say you are so young blah blah but it's really really true. You don't want to look back in five years (or less) and regret something that IS a big deal. Plus if you are feeling dirty you aren't ready and nothing is wrong with that. Sex isn't something that should be rushed into or done on a whim, especially if you are inexperienced. You want to make sure that you are informed (and prepared) with protection (not just condoms) as well as info about your partner's (and your own) sexual status.
Don't mean to preach (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif) but I would hate for you to end up having sex (especially your first time) and regretting it! (or having life long reminders!) If you don't want to have sex the best way is to simply avoid situations that lead to temptation. E.g. playing video games in his house or yours when no one is home, is probably not a good idea nor similiar situations. You can be intimate and love a person without having sex.
With all that said, it's just my opinion and advice from a woman a little older, but with all advice take it with a grain of salt. As well as any advice you get. Have you tried talking with a woman close to you like maybe your mom, or an aunt?
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Hey,
my advice is to take it slow, i know you have said that next time you don't think you could control it but i think you can avoid this by not putting yourself in that situation (i hope this makes sense), e.g. instead of hanging out at his house where theres a chance that something will happen, maybe go to the park or somewhere else until you feel ready. Or maybe you can just tell him how you feel.
I think at 15, you are moving too fast, although I know that age is just a number, but when it comes to that time, don't you want to look back at it and feel that you did it when you were ready and with the right person.
You've been with your bf for 2 weeks and you guys are really into each other, waiting a little longer and till your ready will just make the moment better..neayz those are my thoughts!
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personally, i think you are a bit too young to be getting yourself involved with a guy sexually...
plus, having sex too young also can mess up your body.
you've only been dating for 2 weeks!!
if he thinks you are worth it, he'll be willing to wait for you
i think you guys should slow wayyyyy down.
im 19 and i dont even go that fast.
p.s. how old is he??
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ok if he jus fingered you, u didn't lose ur virginity. but don't worry, a lot of pple go thru what ur going thru
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I definitely think you guys should take it slower.. like you said, you are still young.. if you did let him you might regret it later IF you guys aren't together anymore or you might just accept it as experience.. but the fact that you feel dirty and ashamed tells you that you really don't want to move that fast. I lost my virginity 4 months into my current relationship at age 17 and at that time I felt dirty too.. regardless of how much I loved him.. only cuz I thought it was wrong and agianst morals and such.. but after that everything was fine.. and I couldn't be anymore happier now =)
Don't let the guy pressure you into anything.. don't have sex cuz u guys got caught up in the moment.. make sure to use protection!! It's still your choice.
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i feel exactly the same way..
but i'm not brave enough to post it soompi .
but then.. think about it.. is he trying to use you?
because even though he asked you what your opinion was..
that doesnt prove anything.
don't fall for him and do anything stupid dear ..
(IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) ' not worth it at the age of 15.
nothing you did was wrong because it was your choice and no one else can judge.
but think about it ...
2 weeks or less is not that long. how possibly can he TRULY love you ?
hmm .. i'd say take it slower and don't force yourself into ANYTHING.
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so u've been dating for 2 wks and went to second base already.
do u WANT to do it?
i know young teens hormones raging and what not.
but if you really dont feel ready, you should stand your ground.
tell him you dont want the relationship to get so physical so fast
and that you're not ready.
dont even let him take off your shorts.
thats just inviting a robber into your house and hoping he wont rob you blind
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just don't go into his house next time.
and don't go to a movie theater.
and don't go anywhere that is dark and/or has no people.
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yes,2weeks is just too soon. 15 or not,i think you know what you're doing.
and i agree with what secondpage49 said about self control,just becareful next time.
and to avoid it more,dont let him finger you.
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Ugh, i feel so confused and ashamed and dirty.
I've been with my current boyfriend for about 2 weeks almost and we've gone pretty far sexually.
He's a complete sweetheart and we've fallen head over heels in love with each other.
At first it was just making out, but today it went a little further.
Afterschool, we ended up going to his house and we were just fooling around in his room.
Just making out, that's it.
Until he started to pull my shorts down, and eventually his&my whole bottom half was off.
He started fingering me and we almost went all the way.
He told me it was my choice and it wouldn't matter what i chose.
I asked him if we could just wait.
So, instead of having sex, it was just touching and him fingering me.
I'm only 15, we've only been together for a little less than 2 weeks.
We were both so caught up in the moment, neither of us had the sense to stop.
I don't want our relationship to continue ONLY cus of this reason,
and i don't want our relationship to END cus of this reason.
Honestly, i don't want to go this far anymore, it only makes me feel dirty, but it's something i don't think i'd be able to control next time either.
Did i lose my virginity because of what i did today?
Has anyone else had this experience at an early age /
Is what i did today wrong?
asdf; I just need some advice on how to feel better or what i should do ):
some people say it's not wrong, but honestly, you feel yourself that it's just not right, and you dont want to do it again, at least not until you're fully ready. in addition, you've only met this guy for 2 weeks, and he's already trying to get in your pants. part of me thinks his priority is somewhere else. he gave you a choice, take up his offer, and dont let this free will soften you up to give it up to him later. do what you feel is right, and not what you're pressured to do.
personally, if i were your brother or father, i'd kick the living daylights out of your boyfriend. and you'd be in just as much trouble. love is complicated enough for adults, but for teens it's an even more confusing and enigmatic concept that's for the most part driven by emotion. isnt there enough to figure out at school, at home, among friends, etc? this is not to say not to date, but leave the intimate parts of the relationship until later, when you can get a better idea of what it means to love, and what it means to be in a loving relationship.
and if anything, for your sake.... to keep guys from taking sexual advantage of you.
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You should ask him to help you stay in control.
But I'm starting to not understand why touching and fooling around early is wrong: everyone does it.
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You should ask him to help you stay in control.
But I'm starting to not understand why touching and fooling around early is wrong: everyone does it.
Asking is worth a shot, but with guys nowadays, it's likely that they'll say they will, and turn around go do just the opposite. Again, worth a shot.
And I agree that there's nothing to feel guilty about as long as you're responsible, mature, and can deal with any possible consequences of whatever you might do.
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Did i lose my virginity because of what i did today?
In my honest opinion...even though I hate to say this..you did not lose your virginity because I believe a penis has to be inserted into a vagina for that to happen. ALTHOUGH I 100 percent believe you are not pure.
Has anyone else had this experience at an early age /
Hell no and never. I would never put myself in a situation where I'd be in the mood badly enough to want to go that far. That's way too far and I'd only want to do those things with my husband. It's one thing to think, talk or whatever about sex but doing it is another thing. My parents taught me better than that. I'm not saying your parents didin't, but I'm not you and I would never experience something like that.
Is what i did today wrong?
I can answer that for myself but you have to understand that we're two different people. We were raised very differently and what I feel does NOT have to be right for you. I think what you did today was really wrong and you should be ashamed. It was only two weeks. I don't care if it was head over heels like wow you're already going to this guys house. In a couple of days you'd have sex with him no doubt if you already went this far. That is my honest opinion but guess what? I am talking to you as if I were talking to myself. I am thinking...if I did what you did what would I think of myself? That's exactly what I just said to you. But please don't think I am right in saying this because the only person I have the right to say such things to is me or someone I really care about. I don't even know you so maybe it wasn't wrong for you but it was completely wrong to me.
asdf; I just need some advice on how to feel better or what i should do ):
Easy. If you like and care about this guy DO NOT end your relationship with him. Just don't put yourself in a situation where you'd feel like doing what you did again. If you don't care about doing it again and you're so horny you want to have sex and do those things then go ahead o_o. I'm giving advice for you if you would like to not do this again but if you would just ignore everything I say and have fun~
Everyone does it? Not everyone so please don't think it's okay cause like OMG every does it. It might be okay for you but not everyone do it.
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Did i lose my virginity because of what i did today?
No you didn't
Has anyone else had this experience at an early age
Not really, me & my serious bf right now...we moved pretty slow
Is what i did today wrong?
No, it's normal to have desires
asdf; I just need some advice on how to feel better or what i should do ):
I suggest that you slow down. Have fun, make out, finger or whatever, but DON'T give in your virginity. Some guys are just after that, and you don't want to regret it right?
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Well it would be shameful if you realize it's shameful and keep doing it. If you think it's wrong, and you correct your mistakes, then it's over and done w/.
I personally don't like guys who do sexual things to girls w/o asking her. He pulled your shorts down w/o asking you is disrespectful.
