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I love my mom more than life itself but I hate myself for everything I've done in the past that has hurt her in any way. Everytime I lay in bed and think about what I've done I start tearing up. Then I get to thinking that she will be gone one day and it's just so painful to think about a future without her. I do everything I can to make her happy but without trying I end up disappointing her. I just want to be the perfect daughter and make up everything that I've done wrong to her. And I know it's not good to think about her being gone but I can't help it because it is inevitable. I don't want to get married or have children without her in my life. I'm so scared of what'll happen to me when the time comes. I don't have a dad so I'll be alone if she ever leaves me. I feel like our time together suddenly got so much shorter. What I'm feeling right now is so hard to explain..I'm sorry if I'm all over the place.
But, has anyone else thought of these things? How are we supposed to cope? What can I do to show her that I really love her?
Someone please invent an immortality drink!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
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haha I do too..I think about all the times I've disappointed my parents and I start to feel sad . cause there have been plenty of times when they were so disappointed in me that they didn' tknow what to do..they're always there to encourage me and stuff but in the end I hurt them with something stupid that I've done..I wouldn't know what I'd do without them.....for me I just try not to disappoint my parents anymore and get good grades. The thing that I need to learn and I am learning and growing is that they all they want from me is to be a good person that works hard..be responsible and get good grades and to try my very best in school ya know? and I am learning to be that kind of person..they see that and they're pretty damn proud of me LOL... but ya I hated the fact that my mom cries and my dad gets so worried all because of me..
stupid me (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) ..aish...well at least I'm alot better..leaving home was the best choice =D..lol..I mean I don't see them but through visiting them during holidays and my grades it shows that I'm growing more mature day by day..so they're quite proud of me =D LOL..although I still gotta work harder =) and I know I can
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But, has anyone else thought of these things? How are we supposed to cope? What can I do to show her that I really love her?
Someone please invent an immortality drink!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
since i can't... if you want to make up for you mistakes that you have really done wrong, listen to her. if she says stay home and study, then stay home and study. whatever she asks of you, do it. even if it means to suffer alone and not be out with your friends. if you listen to her, and when there is this big chance; your mom would 99% chance of letting you go. it all depends on how you act toward her. loving her is quite different. the way your mom shows love is different from how you are trying to show her love. she taking care of you, getting mad at you (must be a reason why she is mad at you) are some ways parent(s) show their love for their child(ren).
immortaliy is kind of pretty bad. sometimes its better to die than what ppl you love most, age and die without you.
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yeah sometimes i think about that too.
but don't worry--- you're still young, aren't you?
you still have time to make it up you know.
and to be honest, i don't think parents hold grudges against that. because they love their children way too much (;
somtimes i feel bad and i randomly wash the dishes or give her a massage or something (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
and it doesn't hurt to tell her you love her often XD
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im very close with my parents & i used to think about their death often.
i can't even imagine how i'm going to live without them here with me.
but i decided not to think about it because worrying doesn't change anything.
i just tell myself that i will see them in heaven, where everythings perfect (:
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yeah.. i think of the same thing at times. that's why you try to learn from your mistakes and do better. i felt this way recently.. disappointed my mom and got lectured and yelled at. i feel ashamed, so the best i can do is help her out around the house.. stuff like that.
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sometimes i cry before i fall asleep because i think about how it will be like when my parents die..
i always try my best to be a good daughter
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It's alright, your aunt or uncle might take you.
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Just tell her you love her. A simple I love you should be enough. Whenever you're on the phone with her and you/she is leaving, just say I love you. Bye! or when you're hugging her, just say it. Simple things like a hug, kiss on the cheek, or an I love you mean the world. I can understand feeling like you're letting her down but if you feel like that, you should just talk to her. She is, after all, your mother, the person you go to when you have problems. I think telling her these things and your feelings/thoughts are so important and it'll strengthen your relationship with her. As for me, I don't have a close relationship with my parents. They barely know anything I do in my life... the things I enjoy, the people I hang out with, my favorite type of music, my aspirations, how I think, etc. I'm not a bad girl who parties, does drugs, drinks, smokes, and sleeps around. They know that, I suppose. My parents have never (rarely) been there for me when I need them. It's not like they know NOTHING about me. Only little things like some of the stuff I eat, but when I get tired of eating the food that they buy since I basically eat the same thing over and over then get tired of them, I don't have the heart to tell them because they know how much I like it so they buy it for me. It also doesn't help that they're fluent in Mandarin and I only know English with a bit of Mandarin but not enough to carry a full length conversaton. My dad can speak English also but to be honest, I like my mom better. My dad is just... expecting too much of me. I'm always disappointing him with my grades and my laziness. I used to care a lot but now, it's like just freakin stop already. I'm old enough to know what I'm doing. I still care a bit but not as much. I'm actually kind of jealous of your relationship with your mother. I wish I could talk to my parents but I just can't. I should just learn Mandarin or something.
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I do too, all the time almost. Especially when my mom gets sick, it's like... oh man, I wish I treated her better, maybe she wouldn'tve gotten sick. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)
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same here i usually put all mah anger on mah mom and she's like the best mom on earth
i get mad at her wayyy too easily and it's hard to change
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AWWW.
Me too. I love my mom, she's everything to me. She's understanding, and funny & just...She is a blessing to me. My mom and I get along just fine, and that's a good=]
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My mom is my closest family. I talk to her everyday, tell each others my problems.. we're like bestfriends. I am too scared to lose her. hah, I think that's why I try to be really close to her, and make her happy. Live our lives, ya know? Anyway, it's okay. It's a part of life. Just live it with no regrets, hmm?
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I know what you mean. I love my mom more than anything in this world. She's so cute, funny, caring, understanding, and so much more. Sometime I lay in bed and cry just thinking what she had gone through and all the sacrifices she made for me. I can't picture my future without her. I misses her so much when we're apart (she went on vacation w/out me). So every day I would eat dinner with her no matter how busy I am. We have a mother and daughter day every Sunday. I tell her I love her and hug her whenever I have a chance to. So just spend time with your mom and she'll know that you appreciate her.
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don't think about the future. the future is too vague to know what will happen. if you love her and miss her. treat her better, take her out to more places, and show her that you care and lover her. that way when she passes away, she will know that she was loved by her kids! that's what i do to my mom, i feel bad when i treat her badly. so i wake up and talk to her more, care for her more, and do what shes needs. don't worry if some days yo fight! that's how you get closer!
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Yeahhhhh, I think about it too.
There are SO many things I can't do without her.
She nagged, yelled, hit[ted] me for like 9/10 of my life but dang, the things I wouldn't/couldn't do without her.
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it scares me to think about when my mom gets old and pass away, like how can i live without her? shes pratically my life and world. even though there are times she yells, nags, etc at me, i will always love her wholehearted. We shouldn't think about it and just treasure and love our moms with all we have! AJA AJA! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif)
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i was thinking about it last night and i started to cry~ lol~
i wanna be good to my mom cuz my mom is the best person ever ~ and when i think bak on how i throw temper at her and make her do this and that for me~ i feel really~ bad~
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i was thinking about it last night and i started to cry~ lol~
i wanna be good to my mom cuz my mom is the best person ever ~ and when i think bak on how i throw temper at her and make her do this and that for me~ i feel really~ bad~
i agree~ but sometimes my mom hurts me (she's in her pre-menopause stage rite now and she can BE REALLLLLLLLLY friggin' crazy)..but i mean after i calm down...i realize all the things she's done to me. and i have those moments 2. sry about the pre- menopause part- random. haha.
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Yeah, I feel like no one is going to love me, I'm going to be single for the rest of my life, so they're pretty much all the love I get, if they die, I would be alone. Sometimes that scares me, but death is inevitable, so ...
