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Hi there there...
just wondering...especially for the guys...whether you would actually call a girl every night..like you actually talk for hours and chat to her every night...meet her everyday in school or uni...if you don't like the girl?
if so..what sort of reasons make you do those things if you don't like the girl?
and for the girl....what would you feel when there is a guy that do those kind of things to you and found out that he is just gonna be friends with you?
just to make it clearer...
say there is this guy who got really close to a girl..and they always well...chat every night for hours and hours..and end up talking on the phone for hours...meet at uni...and yeah..so on and so on...
would u say that the guy like the girl? i mean they like each other? or ...what other reason could there be..??
and just another question (may be for the guys)..what would u do when a girl confronts you about what is exactly going on between you two..? would u back off? would u keep going? would you tell the truth? would you lie and avoid the girl? or ....any other reason?
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All I can really say is one thing: guys don't do stuff for girls for nothing. Learned that from experience, go figure.
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All I can really say is one thing: guys don't do stuff for girls for nothing. Learned that from experience, go figure.
WORD. no guy is gonna do all that for nothing, haha if i did that then i would of liked the girl or something ... you cant jus do all that and be 'friends'
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lol, oh dearr...sounds ALOT like what I just went through a little while ago.
I'd say, for the guys' part, if he says that he just wants to be friends with a girl despite doing all that, maybe he does like the girl --but he wants to stay single, to be free to like other girls at the same time --so he may or may not admit to actually liking her when asked. --Which may sound mean, but is rather reasonable at the same time. lol...both guys and girls do that sometimes. They may like that person alot, but perhaps they like being single even more. *shrug*
For the girl, speaking from experience, I was a bit sad when I went through something alot like this, but it didn't last that long, and I'm still good friends with that guy --though not as close as before obviously. Naturally, it will still hurt a little to be around a person that you thought liked you, but turned out otherwise --but this fades fairly quickly with each day. You kind of grow and learn from it, and then move on --at least that's what I did. =)
As for how the guy might react when confronted --it really depends on the personality of the person imo. Also, such a confrontation will have a large effect on the friendship betwee the two. Think it through first. Are you happy with the feeling of closeness you have with this person now --even if it's not certain or out in the open? Or would you risk ending up with a somewhat awkward relationship with this person (thereafter, or at least for a period of time afterwards) and lose the closeness you have now? Then again, maybe you need some kind of certainty...because the uncertainty of the situation is driving you crazy, and you don't really mind either way?
Whatever decision you choose to make, you should try to be aware of all the possible consequences.
Best of luck though! I hope this advice was at least a little helpful, lol.
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*shrugs*
The girl could just have fun with her... may not be like.
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I would never ring anyone every single day, cause i find that you will run out of things to say to each other.
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hmm, reminds me of the movie when harry met sally. Can a guy and girl remain best friends type of thing.
In my opinion, it can happen. As in the guy can call the girl every night and talk for hours and its not because they like each other or anyone having feelings for the other.
I do have a guy friend who used to call me up every night and talk for hours. It just feels good to talk to him and I think he felt the same way. We became really close friends. I've known him for two years now and sometimes I do question myself if I like him or not. However, I don't see myself actually having those types of feelings for him. I find that he has that sometimes too.
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it's either he likes your or....he likes your friend
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I have a friend that I talk online with every night for hours
and we meet up at school to talk some and get to class
he doesn't like me though.. So
well he likes me, but just as a friend
maybe a pet fishy
so yeah.
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All I can really say is one thing: guys don't do stuff for girls for nothing. Learned that from experience, go figure.
TRU DAT.
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That sounds a lot like what I'm going through now.
We talk for hours online and on the phone.. but he likes me and another girl he's never met in real life. :\ He says he wants to be friends with me but then again he doesn't. He doesn't want to hurt her so he just let me go instead... When I found out he liked her too, I was really sad.. I still am, but it's not the end of the world. Day after day.. I guess you just slowly get over it? That's what I'm trying to do. Even if it hurts knowing that he chose her instead. The weird thing is -- he told me that what we have is special- that the girl he chose and him don't talk like me and him do. I got really confused, and I guess I just got even more sad (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) . I've been talking to him every single day since almost half a year ago, but he says he's let me go and chose her.
Anyways o_o Sorry for the rant. It really depends on how the guy is. But most guys won't do stuff like that for girls just for nothing. They probably have some sort of reason.
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why do i want girls? it doesnt give me fame or fortune, i might as well be gay.
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watch when harry met sally and ask yourself one last time(:
greymoose
watch when harry met sally and ask yourself one last time(:
greymoose
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i think theres a good chance hes interested in the girl
this is juss based on my experience with all the guy friends
ive ever had long talks on the phone .. always something behind it =p
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All I can really say is one thing: guys don't do stuff for girls for nothing. Learned that from experience, go figure.
yeah this is what i really thought as well at first..which is why i was quite sure that he has this thing on me...(may be i was a bit up myself) but yeah..i dun kno..i feel like the signals are there and i just dont get this friend of mine... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) he said we only just friends...i dunno...i dun think i can understand...
lol, oh dearr...sounds ALOT like what I just went through a little while ago.
I'd say, for the guys' part, if he says that he just wants to be friends with a girl despite doing all that, maybe he does like the girl --but he wants to stay single, to be free to like other girls at the same time --so he may or may not admit to actually liking her when asked. --Which may sound mean, but is rather reasonable at the same time. lol...both guys and girls do that sometimes. They may like that person alot, but perhaps they like being single even more. *shrug*
For the girl, speaking from experience, I was a bit sad when I went through something alot like this, but it didn't last that long, and I'm still good friends with that guy --though not as close as before obviously. Naturally, it will still hurt a little to be around a person that you thought liked you, but turned out otherwise --but this fades fairly quickly with each day. You kind of grow and learn from it, and then move on --at least that's what I did. =)
As for how the guy might react when confronted --it really depends on the personality of the person imo. Also, such a confrontation will have a large effect on the friendship betwee the two. Think it through first. Are you happy with the feeling of closeness you have with this person now --even if it's not certain or out in the open? Or would you risk ending up with a somewhat awkward relationship with this person (thereafter, or at least for a period of time afterwards) and lose the closeness you have now? Then again, maybe you need some kind of certainty...because the uncertainty of the situation is driving you crazy, and you don't really mind either way?
Whatever decision you choose to make, you should try to be aware of all the possible consequences.
Best of luck though! I hope this advice was at least a little helpful, lol.
thanks sakura...what u said is really true..i mean i did confront this friend of mine..and as the result he just avoid me..and yeah...its really awkward i dunno how to get him close again..i mean its really hard to be in such awkwardness and im not trying to deny it but as a matter of fact, i dun really want our friendship to be gone just like that just because of a sentence..and i dun want that closeness to be gone...is it hard? i mean...does it mean that me and that friend of mine would never be as close as before? as in ...NEVER???
thats killing..
That sounds a lot like what I'm going through now.
We talk for hours online and on the phone.. but he likes me and another girl he's never met in real life. :\ He says he wants to be friends with me but then again he doesn't. He doesn't want to hurt her so he just let me go instead... When I found out he liked her too, I was really sad.. I still am, but it's not the end of the world. Day after day.. I guess you just slowly get over it? That's what I'm trying to do. Even if it hurts knowing that he chose her instead. The weird thing is -- he told me that what we have is special- that the girl he chose and him don't talk like me and him do. I got really confused, and I guess I just got even more sad (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) . I've been talking to him every single day since almost half a year ago, but he says he's let me go and chose her.
Anyways o_o Sorry for the rant. It really depends on how the guy is. But most guys won't do stuff like that for girls just for nothing. They probably have some sort of reason.
yea i dunno...i mean..this is the first time for me as well...so im so stuck..that i really dunno what to do ?!?!...
im so glad sum1 in the same boat as me...thanks...
thankz guys...appreciate all your advices and opinions..ive been so stuck and its nearly christmas as welll... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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thanks sakura...what u said is really true..i mean i did confront this friend of mine..and as the result he just avoid me..and yeah...its really awkward i dunno how to get him close again..i mean its really hard to be in such awkwardness and im not trying to deny it but as a matter of fact, i dun really want our friendship to be gone just like that just because of a sentence..and i dun want that closeness to be gone...is it hard? i mean...does it mean that me and that friend of mine would never be as close as before? as in ...NEVER???
thats killing..
I think that 'never' may be a little too strong a word. Nobody knows what will happen in the future. Maybe, have a talk with him, and tell him that you don't want this to ruin your friendship. Apologise if you can, for making him feel awkward --after all, he probably feels just as bad about this as you do. Maybe the two of you can just agree on pretending that it never happened --of course, agreeing doesnt actually make things all better. Best case scenario is that you two will remain friends, care about each other, but it'll take a fair while for the awkwardness to fade away. Meanwhile, even though it hurts --and you'll find that you feel like kicking yourself every now and then, talk to some close friends about it, have a little cry if you feel like you need to.
You're definitely not alone in this kind of thing. I went through, pretty much the exact same thing --and I'm still sort of going through it. But it'll work out one way or another. Seriously, sit down and chat with some of your close girl friends --it'll make you feel alot better. Talk to him about it. Then, just kind of let time heal everything. Even though it hurts now, we all know in a couple of yrs time, we'll look back and probably laugh it off. Most likely, one day you'll look back and be proud of how you handled the situation. ^___^
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LOLS so agree w the people above. guys wouldnt do things for nothing
and if i find out that we are just friends, i think im gunna be all like why the fck did you do all those things if we are just friends
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I guess so. He could be extremely flirty, likes you, or just friends.
Most of the time its between flirty and likes you, for if its just friends you can tell yourself(you wouldn't even be asking us this).
Now I guess his reputation comes in...Is this guy a natural flirt/player...
I agree guys wouldn't do things for nothing but he could be there for a fling with no strings attached.
Check it out with his friends? Or just talk it out with him.
Talking will be the best thing, except whether you've the guts to do it face to face, or on the phone, or even through email/AOL/MSN etc.
Or you could test him (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
Best of luck.
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Most cases. Guys dont do that kinda stuff just because.
But then, there's always those guys who are naturally like that.
I mean, my guy friend of mine.
We talked for hours every night
He'd help me out whenever i needed.
He's always nice to me no matter what
Even when im the biggest b1tch to him.
He'll go out of his way for me.
He also buys me stuff if he thinks id like it.
But...that's just his personality.
Guys like that are genuininely nice.
You just have to accept it as that.
BUT...maybe im totally wrong about it.
Cause my guyfriend liked me at one point.
BUT THEN AGAIN...he has a girlfriend
It's just what you make it to seem.
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i'd be annoyed coz I think he's clingy
