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before anything, I just wanted to let you guys know he's NOT my first, he's my 2nd.
Wells, this korean dude asked me out on friday. && basically, I already liked him anyway, so I told my friend to just tell him whatever she wants and obviously, she said, YES.
Welps, when we got to the point where we held hands etc. I was REALLY SUPER shy & nervous. I didn't know what to do or talk about. Esp. because ALL our friends kept coming up to us and squealing, or go, Aww how cute!! or blah blah etc. && So... I don't know what to talk about with him, X__X I'm DEAD clueless, && we're like silent most of the time together. Now, I regret going out with him, because I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO! ___;
I've been thinking... what will i do or talk about with him each & every day? EACH day is 9 HOURS of school, && 5 days a week!!! THAT'S A LOT. && I mean, errr... I even secretly laugh, like nervous laugh when I'm holding hands with him, and I tend to turn the other way. He goes, Soo... what do you wanna talk about? && I say, Uh, i don't know.. *starts to chuckle* then he starts to laugh a little too. =____=;; *sighs*, I feel exhausted.
I wasn't like this with my 1st boyfriend because... I don't know why 0_0 but, with this Korean dude it's a WHOLE different story! I feel so frustrated!! ARRGGG... I need help, please?
(Maybe it's because, my first was mexican, && my second is Asian. && We're basically SURROUNDED by Mexican people and it feels really weird O_O)
Well just a little about him, he's a skater... and he's funny. He likes to listen to like, Nirvana, Ramones, etc. (WHICH I DON'T LISTEN TO). =__=' I mostly listen to Asian music, -- KPOP, CPOP, Thai Pop & rock etc.
&& ---- obviosuly, he is Americanized X_X Sooo... it means I can't be talking about Se7en with him T_T cause he think Se7en's gay.. and ye. PLEASE HELP ME! THANK YOU.
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uhh get to kno him more so u can talk to him bout stuff
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Wow, seems like you two have nothing in common.
But that's not always a bad thing.
You two can hang out on occasion, other then school and get to know each other more. It seems like when you two are together, you don't have anything to say except laugh/giggle.
Hmmm... maybe you two should of start off as friends first then see how things progress, but it's too late now.
Just try to talk to him a little more, and ask him to spend more time with you, so the two of you can get to know eachother a little more.
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u guys dont have much to talk about...maybe its cause u guys dont kno each other so well yet? i dont kno, but it sure is a bad start to a relationship.
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We're only 13 though, & plus, my parents don't know . They're not suppose to =X
I mean, my friends leave me alone with him and say, Janny, you're on your own. *leaves me* && in my mind.. NOO!!!!! *DIES*
Wells yea, IT IS too late =___=; He lives in K-twon, & i live in Northridge City. && i dont think we can spend time outside.. 1. Who will pick me up & drop me off? 0_0 -- 2. We live like 30 minutes from eachother... X__X
*sighs* Still frustrated... =.=' I have a feeling our relationship won't last long because of this, but then again.. I don't want to dump him X__x I'd feel so bad if I did, and this isn't the only reason why I don't want to go out with him anymore, but it's also because.. I don't want to lose a great friend. He's a cool friend, and hilarious... so yea.
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If you don't want to dump him, then maybe a mutual breakup is the best for the both of you. Explain to him that you two can't really do anything together because of parents/trasnportation/lack of common interest. Tell him its best if you guys started off as friends first, maybe in a couple of years, when one of you can drive, then you guys can pick your relationship up from there.
Well, good luck.
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Well I think this would be a hard relationship because even though you like him, you guys dont seem to have much in common. You should go out with a person if you are sure you are ready to have a relationship with them. I think you guys should just stick to being friends. Unless things get better, the relationship will probably be awkward.
Man, this totally reminds me of how I felt when first got a boyfriend.
Either stick through it or just break up.
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Just keep it casual. So...what do you want to talk about? is like, the worst line for a young teenage couple to ask...ever. Dead question with a nonexistant answer. Even if the the one being asked DOES come up with a topic, it ends up being a 2 minute conversation due to the way it was brought up.
Anyways, with you guys not having all that much in common, and you liking him beforehand nonetheless, i'll assume you liked him for either his looks or his personality, which you said you liked and was hilarious. No need to go for a breakup here, as you're both nervous, ESPECIALLY with your friends and their constant taunting.
If you want to loosen things up a bit more, force yourself out of these forced one on one situations and hang out with him at school in your normal group of mutual friends. You'll have more people to act as conversation starters and you'll go about learning more about your boyfriend through simple interaction.
Though...this should have been stuff you did BEFORE deciding to make him your boyfriend. Dating someone due to mild interest and looks early in teen life only leads to awkward breakups if handled improperly..which is a good majority of the time.
Nonetheless, good luck 3
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^can't you just take the bus? o_o;;;. haha dun worry, me and my bf kinda started out like that ;; cuz i reeally do not talk at all usually. just talk about stuff you like - movies, fashion, etc.etc. or talk about any interesting stuff you did during the day... go out with him to do stuff... maybe his parents will drive? or if you have any older friends that will take you guys places? i'm sure that, if you really like him that much, you will find stuff to talk about eventually ^-^.
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you're 13
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lol.
you probably shoulda gotten to know him before.
i bet he came up to you and said 'will you go out with me?'
and you said 'yes'.
then you guys considered yourselves as bf & gf.
now your relationship is a product of that.
hahaha...
kidding.
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exciting journey to find out about one another
13.. and its ur 2nd bf.. hehehe wow.. they are getting younger everyday
dont go out for the sake of just having the title of a bf/gf
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well i know how it feels when you get all shy towards your bf.
you should get to know him more before you think about breaking up with him.
and i wouldn't say that you guys are completely different just because the difference in choices of music.
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just try and get to know him better... about his family.. or things about his life in the past.. or his future... etc. etc! don't just break up with him without even trying first.. always think before you do something.
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Thank you everyone 3
&& -- NO I am not going out with him JUST to have a title of a bf/gf =.=' Plus, I don't even CARE if I have one or not, being single is even better, but I really liked him.. so yea.
&& for everyone else, THANK YOU. If anyone else has MORE ideas or help, please do help me, thank you 33
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that's a toughie -- maybe you can do something to take out the nervousness of the relationship... maybe you could tease him about something and then you'll have an inside joke or something to bring up whenever you're feeling that awkward silence.
but if you two don't really connect, then maybe you shouldn't because alot of people put their crushes on a pedestal, and really like their idea of their crushes and not the actual crushes themselves without getting to know them. i don't know, it's hard to have an immediate, good connection with another.
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just like that and he's ur bf?? my god child (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) man i dont know what to say
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aw hell no! americanized asian!!! . i really dont know what you should do... you guys dun seem to have anything goin for ya really cept that you like eachother :/ maybe you guys should just make out and not talk lolol
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mutual breakup, from what i read there isnt anything really goin for u guys... to have a relationship u need to be able to talk, for a long long time
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this is what happens when u dont date and go straight into a relationship not knowing anything about the guy. in order to hold a convo u gotta find out their interests, what they do, what they like, what makes them laugh..etc. or thats an idea, start a question/answer game. that will always get u guys going and learn more about each other. just never stand there and go uh, umm..err what do u wana talk about cuz that's a turn off XD
