Question:
I have this relationship problem with this guy, and it's been going on for 6 months already. well, it's not really a problem between us, rather a problem with myself since this is a one-sided thing... I have a serious crush on this guy who works in my neighbourhood mall. I've liked him ever since the first time I saw him 6 months ago. But till, now, i haven't got the courage to get to know him. I think he pretty well, knows I exist, and probably knows my name, because i bought lots of stuff from him, and even resorted to intentionally dropping my membership card there so I could create some opportunities with him. I tried hanging around where he lives just so i could 'accidentally' bump into him when he knocks off. I know I really sound like a stalker, but other than that, i dunno what else I can do... My friends says he looks like he's interested in me too, because he talks to me more than them whenever we're in the shop.
But other than, creating stupid opportunies to talk to him, I dunno how to take the relationship further. I'm so afraid that this will go on forever... I dunno whether if anything is going to happen eventually... I know it's okay for Girls to take the first step in the 21st century... but i still find it hard...
although i know that if i dun take the first step, then probably nothing's going to happen between us at all.. but just felt like sharing my problem here...
Thanks for listening...
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you need contact info
cause if you don't have contact info your only chance will be by chance encounters
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Those are some stalkerish habits.. If the guy has your attention that much? Just catch him at work, ask him out, get his number, and go from there.
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all you need is a contact number. Ask him his number by saying that you needed his number because you might send someone to that mall to buy something for you and that you just want to make sure that that someone you sent got the right stuff....there are lots of ways or alibis to get his number. I'd say try that and take it from there. When you have his number (it is easier if it's a mobile) you could just text him some random quotes and see if it'll open a conversation.
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Make a freaking move. Just ask him for his number or something.
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aww, it's okay. a lot of people have this problem too.
try to be bold (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) . ask casually for his number or to hang out one day.
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just ask him for his number or something, honestly i highly doubt if he will talk to you (and single), that he wouldn't be more then glad to give you his number. if your too nervous, for that second pretend your talking to a wall or rehersing or something, just don't think about it, force yourself too and worry after (for about 1 second until he writes it down and is happy you asked). good luck, it's not worth it too spend so much time and energy into secretive ways to somehow get his attention, better spent acctually with him legitimately.
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Hey peeps, thanks so much for all your advice... shall go master up some courage to get his number...
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It's not like the phrase it's ok for girls to approach guys = you must approach the guy.
It just means you have a choice whether you want to take initiative or not =/
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People say to ask him for his # but I don't think it's a piece of cake to go up front a stranger and ask his #. I mean, if you were in his shoes, would you tell your # off the bat? I wouldn't. Even though we had little chats and met a few times, doesn't mean he's automatically your friend or whatnot. & plus, it would be so embarrassing if he said no to you.
ANd what IF you get his #? If it took you lots of time and guts to get his #, how are you going to handle calling him? POINTLESS.
I say you try something else other than getting his #.
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if you're brave enough to create bumping into him opportunities shouldn't you be brave enough to just say. look i was just wondering if you were single. no? tha'ts fine i'm probably never going to show my face in this mall again but it's good to know so i can get over you. yes? great! date? when? etc...
hope you consider it
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Yeah, make the first move, that'll really get his attention. Umm ask him if he wants to go do something sometime once you get his number and then work from there. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
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woah
that's stalking real bad..
that's stalking girl.. you dont know it..
ask him for a cofffee. no harm in that.. just as a friend...if he was intersted in you, shouldnt he have asked you like 6 months ago? or maybe he's scared too
goodluck
=)
