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Tonight was our school's band concert =_=;; and afterwards my friend J gave me a ride home because I asked him if he could. He was cool about it and somehow we ended up taking a detour and going to a place to grab a bite and had long talks about all kinds of things. We talked about past relationships, school, parents, EVERYTHING... and then he asked me out and I accepted. So now we're a boyfriend/girlfriend status. But what am I supposed to do now? He's pretty much the first real boyfriend I've ever had [yes I have no experience].
The thing is, he and I have so much in common. He's pretty tall and heavy and I'm short and really fat so we kind of go well together I suppose. The thing is, he had had a HUGE crush on my friend that was so funny and I was just watching the two of them and kind of just neutral about it and now he wants to go out with me. It kind of makes me feel like I'm not as good as my friend and that he's sort of like well if I can't have her then I'll have you kind of thing?... Plus I know this is horrible of me to think but he's not exactly the handsomest guy in school and my friends and family might be like you're better than him or something [omg I can't believe I'm being so mean =_=;;] even though I'm ugly as hell too?... So I'm just real confused but I'm glad to have at least gotten it out of my chest.
Any advice would be helpful thank you_
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yeah I understand what you're trying to say. Just give it a shot and if you still feel sore about it then u can always tell him that maybe it is not working out. Who knows, u may even surprise yourself by actually liking him once u get to know him....
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that's weird.. it sounds like a fanfic (no offense)
just chill & hang out together.. see where it goes.. don't stress out too much about what other ppl think cuz it doesn't really matter.. it only matters if u like him and if he likes you..
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Ahh, that is kind of complicated. Does he still like your friend though? You might want to consider that though... because, as harsh as it sounds, he might be just using you. But he seems like a nice guy~
Like everyone else said, try the relationship first. If it's not ok.. you can back out any time. ^ ^ Good luck
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Well, I think kissing in a tree is the beginning. Then first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage. Thought everyone knew this.
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give it a go and dont be afraid to back out if it's not right.
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he seems like a nice guy, but who knows. if you really like him, give it a go. you can always back out, if it doesn´t work out ^^... and yeah, sometime later you might want to talk about him and his feelings about your friend.
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sighhh -_________- stupid.
u seem so uncomfortable abt the relationship.. why did u accept then???? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) esp when u care so much abt wuh other ppl think abt u guys....and u sound like.. his just a friend to u.. a friend who u can get along very well with
if you do, however, like him... then think abt it.. he wont ask u out if he doesnt like u...n plus. if u like him.. shoodnt he look attractive to u anyway?
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If u really like dis guy then give it a try, dont care abt wat ppl say
n later u can talk 2 him abt his feelings 4 ur fren
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_..Does your friend like him?...Anyways, Maybe you just think to much. He might like you for reals. Don't be to scare.....but if he does try to get to you because of your friend......you should be careful...take things slowly.
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Just go with the flow over the next few days. See how things go; how you feel. If you're still uncomfortable then maybe you should break it off? Did you really like this guy in the first place, or did you just want a boyfriend? Think about things like that.
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You mean you never thought about this stuff? Do what I do with life: improvise and hope things work out (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)
I mean what's the worse that can happen? If he doesn't like you cause you're inexperienced, then he's not worth the time cause he has no patience.
And if he threatens to break-up in an attempt to use you, forget him.
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Since you agreed to be his girlfriend, there's no turning back. [lol, ok maybe there is].
Just give it a try. Maybe you two are meant to be together.
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The thing is, he and I have so much in common. He's pretty tall and heavy and I'm short and really fat so we kind of go well together I suppose. The thing is, he had had a HUGE crush on my friend that was so funny and I was just watching the two of them and kind of just neutral about it and now he wants to go out with me. It kind of makes me feel like I'm not as good as my friend and that he's sort of like well if I can't have her then I'll have you kind of thing?... Plus I know this is horrible of me to think but he's not exactly the handsomest guy in school and my friends and family might be like you're better than him or something [omg I can't believe I'm being so mean =_=;;] even though I'm ugly as hell too?... Don't worry so much. He asked you out because he wants you. He didn't have to ask you out when he got rejected by your friend. And his looks...? It sounds like you might have a problem with them, not your family. It shouldn't be a concern for you whether other people will like his looks or believe you two fit well together. You're dating him.
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give it a go and dont be afraid to back out if it's not right.
