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I'll keep this short and simple. I've known this guy for about....3-4 months and there's been a hell of a lot of flirting going on. If this is considered too long for you, then I don't care, go do something else before I take too much of your time away. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
We'll call him...Mr. Big (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
Signs that say he might like me
++ He's on my varsity sports team, but we never really spoke beforehand because I always thought he was a real ladies man. But he's complimented me on my serves, calling them beautiful and coming to high five me whenever he scored a goal.
++ I remember I was walking through the halls once and I felt someone was looking at me. Lo and behold, he was staring straight at me but we didn't say hi because we didn't know each other then.
++ He approached me once in the hallway when I was waiting for a friend, and he introduced himself and we started talking like crazy. Before class began, he would call me outside to talk to me everyday for about a week.
++ It was my birthday the next day, and I told him. I asked him for a hug, and he gave me one. Then after class, he waited for me outside to give me two JOlly Rancher candies, telling me that was all he could find in the meantime. I thought it was really sweet.
++ I would pass by him, and out of the corner of my eye I could see him staring straight at me until I was out of his sight.
++ I asked him to prom, and I told him that I was going to ask another guy but that I wanted to go with Mr. Big because I thought he would make a better date. He said he couldn't make it because on weekdays he has obligations towards his volleyball practices and that he doesn't even chill with his friends because of it. He held onto my wrists for like two seconds and was like I really gotta go, but I'll talk to you tomorrow, okay?
++ The next day, he was waiting outside for me by my lecture hall and apologized for not going to prom with me. Then he told me that he wanted to make it up to me, and that he would take me out to dinner and he asked me for my number.
++ I told him my Korean name over the phone and he said that it was pretty, that he liked it better than my American name.
++ I called him around midnight because I was feeling really down that day, and he was joking about how he was the last one on my mind to call (since I had tried calling my other friends before him). He made me laugh a lot, and he called me his psycho. He laughed when I told him that I dance like Lee Hyori.
++ I asked him if he would ever come out at midnight if I called him out for dinner, and he said of course because he's a friend of mine.
++ He comes over to sit next to me in gym (not everyday of course) and comes over to my team to play sometimes.
++ Once, he didn't speak to me for a week, so I approached him and talked to him about it. I couldn't believe him when he said that I didn't do anything wrong, and he was like What do I have to do to make you believe me?
++ We were talking, and I was slowly straying away from him because I really had to go to class, and then he pushed me back to make me stay twice.
++ I was sitting in front of him on the bus, and all of a sudden, the person next to him got off. He goes, Come sit next to me. and pats the seat next to him. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
++ I was sitting cross-legged in volleyball practice alone, and he comes right over and sits next to me and goes Yo, girl, you need to smile more. Come on.
++ He has the same Korean name as my uncle and my other friend, so he goes Oh yeah? Well I'm the special one.
++ Prom sucked, and when I told him it did, he said he felt really really bad because he didn't go with me. Then he asked me what happened to the other guy I was going to ask, and did I ask him and whatnot. (Truth was, there was no other guy. I wanted to take him out of alll the guys around me)
++ Someone called me while I was on the phone with him, and after I put him on hold, Mr. Big's like Who's calling you this late? your boyfriend? And I go sarcastically, yes, it's my boyfriend. And he goes Alright, bye, have fun with your BOYFRIEND.
Signs that show he might not like me
++ He has the wierdest tendency of speaking to me one day, and then not speaking to me the next day, then he'll start speaking to me again. I asked his friends about that, and they all say that that's how he is, and that he doesn't mean anything by it. Even so, it feels wierd, and it's like he's ignoring me. What....the.....hell
++ I asked him what he's doing for the summer, and he said that he's going to study for the SATs. I thought he would say something like...Chill with you?
++ The dinner date he promised me? It's been over a month and he still hasn't taken me out. He claims he's really busy, and that this June he'll do or die by making time for me. He tells me that chilling with his friends twice a month is a lot for him. (I guess it's true? His friends always complain about how he never has time to chill)
Should I just confess to him that I like hiM? I mean, there's a 90% chance that I'm not going to see him again after this summer since I'm going off to college...but still.
Does he like me? Does he not? Just as a friend? Tell me some inputs, and keep it real. No pervertedness, stupidness, or anything. This is pretty serious to me.
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To me it sounds like he likes you as a friend. He sounds like an outgoing guy. So I think if he wanted to be your boyfriend he wouldn't be subtle or ambiguous about it.
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maybe he just wants to make babies
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that was a long read. hmmm.... 50-50 chance? lol i guess i'm not helping much. i think he may be just ultra friendly.
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just flirting... i don't think he knows for sure if he likes you or not, all those things that you said, alotta guys do that.. especially prom, they just can't say no and not do anything, they have to make it up somehow for not going with you.
for other things, friends do that to each other, waiting at lecture halls and stuff, i think you're over thinking right now, the signs that you should be looking for should be more obvious...
such as:
Him mentioning about you when he chills with his friends
He calls you randomly to have a conversation...
He'll basically make the first moves to most of the things, such as chilling, or driving you home, or volunteering to help you out when you need it.. etc...
OR.. when he kisses your or randomly hugs you... something more obvious...
cuz if a guy likes you he would definitly make it obvious.. but right now i think he's still thinkin and keeping it at a friend level.
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its 50-50 chance (IMG:style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif) its better 2 confess n noe 4sure if he likes u or not dan jus thinkin bout it
it might be 2 late if u wait 2 long so jus confess it 2 him, the worst dat can happen is rejection buh u noe life moves on n u'll find sum1 else (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
TT_TT
GoOd LuCk
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I really don't think there's anything there... I think he only likes you as a friend. Those signs aren't really much =T He just seems kind of flirtyish. And he never once said, or even joked that he has a crush on you, did he?
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he loves the game.
he doesn't want the catch.
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i think, YOU like him, so you try to make every little thing seem like something, when it's really not. he's just trying to be friendly, and he just seems out going.
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2 of your signs that he might not like me make no sense in that they are signs that he DOES like you. I would think more than 70% of people who have a crush on a girl have a hard time talking to them unless they think of them as friends. If this guy is so confident I think he would've told you already. What I'm saying is that a lot of guys seem like they don't like you but do in their heads. I think you should just ask him because it appears he is a down-to-earth guy. Also the SAT question isn't really valid in my opinion because he was probably telling the right answer to your qeustion.
Here is something psychological you should try: nexttime YOU approach him and just be right next to him, whether it be in the halls or somewhere else. If he starts to move away he probably does not have a crush on you because people have a psychological personal space. Of course he might still be friendly and still move away a bit. If he is comfortable with it and is smiling and stuff he definitely likes you. This works for pretty much anyone.
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maybe he just wants to make babies
^puahahahaha
man i haven't been on soompi for awhile, but it's good to see that nothing has changed with all these puppy loves going around...anyways here's my input
1. i think you both are at an age where most things are confusing
2. i think the most important thing is whether or not you like him
3. he could be scared to make a move cause of fear of rejection
4. for all you know he could be posting his situation with you somewhere too asking the exact same things
5. shouldn't you be studying for your SAT's too???
the best way to find anything out is to talk to the people involved, which would leave you and him and i highly doubt you would wanna sit alone talking to yourself about this issue ^^
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I think he does like you, he probably is really busy...so respect that and don't go and assume he's a jerk. I say go ahead and confess =)
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no , he doesn't like you
i'm sorry dear but after reading all that i am 99.99% not convinced that he likes you at all .
some guys are just a flirt . they make friends with girls and flirt with them just because you're a girl and he's a guy .
and since you stay away from him in the beginning , he just thought you were different and kind of mysterious so he approached you cause he wanted to be your friend .
if he hesitates talking to you and some days he completely stays quiet it could be he knows you like him and he's trying to avoid you - but rejection in a nice way .
trust me , i know what kind of guy you're talking about . i was like you and i met a guy like that once . he approached me and a lot of flirting . hell yes . but then he's the same to other girls .
some guys just like to flirt and be easy going . that's when flirting doesnt mean anything more than just flirting .
i reckon you should just give up . since he's so busy anyways you wont be too happy with him cause he doesn't have time for you .
but if you want to take the chance - i definitely think you should tell him . you guys may never see each other again soon . do it so you won't regret . who knows maybe you're the lucky one . i just had a bad experience
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maybe he just wants to make babies
yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh lol
but seriously
i think he's just overly friendly and ur trying to pick out every ltitel thing
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Hmmmmmm
Despite all the evidence, the chance that he likes you in my eyes is still 50-50. A lot of times guys that age (and still older) don't realize the effect their words have on girls. You remember what he said, but I doubt he remembers most of what he said.
On the other hand, maybe he DOES know what he's doing, and is carefully planning this out...mixing hard-to-get mentality with directness. It is a terrible tactic but unfortunately many of us guys do it a lot. On a side note, I think most girls in my experience do a better job of signaling.
Anyway, it's still 50-50 to me. So I guess what it comes down to is what you value more. He obviously likes you as a friend I think, so would you rather have that and pretend nothing more ever could have happened? Or do you feel you might regret it forever?
If it were me (I'm a guy, though), I'd probably kick myself for never taking that step. I would rather solve the mystery and be sad for a little while than not do anything and regret it forever. I would ask him out, or let him know your feelings or whatever. If he likes you, then yay. If he doesn't like you, he can either be immature and think it's too awkward to see you again as a friend, or he can be mature about it and let it pass and move on as your friend.
From all this evidence, it doesn't look like you guys were BEST friends or anything...so I'd say you risk losing a crush but not necessarily a close friend. Crushes are easier to get over. Forgive me if I presume too much but all the evidence I have is up there, so....
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You might as well take the chance if you'll never see him again. You never know, things like these are always up in the air.
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I think he does like you but hes very busy. Probably too bust for a girlfriend. Go ahead confess you like him but dont expect much. Hes made it clear what priorities are more important than you. Go on a couple nice dates and then go your seperate ways. At least you wont have to live with what if.
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by the things you posted on the signs that he might like yu;
he sounds like a really outgoing guy who flirts with a lot of girls.
but it seems like he may be into you.
but it doesnt look like hes looking for a relationship .
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well if you're going to college and your not going to see him again then
why wont you jsut telll him.
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Well you mentioned you may not ever see him again since you're both moving to different colleges so might as well take the chance and ask him. I feel like a broken record saying this in almost every post in this section, lol, but don't live with regrets and go for it. The worst that can happen is you find out he's not into you and you move on and find someone more deserving of you (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif)
