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I adore children but I don't want to have my own....lots of reasons but mainly because I am scared to death of child birth. Let's say you love your bf or gf and you two decided to marry. Would you still marry her if she said that she doesn't want to have children of her own but might consider adoption? Is having your biological children important to you?
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I want my OWN children, not one whose adopted.
I want a child who belongs to me and my husband, one who we have created, and is truely ours.
I think that either we have our own children or none at all, so I guess i would still marry.
People's perspective can change.
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Everyone is scared of child birth. there are many factors that can be scary. espacailly the what ifs but still i woud like to have my own child. adoption wouldnt be bad. many people still adopt. i wouldnt mind adopting but i would still want my own child
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nah, i agree with you...
there's so many unwanted children around the world, why be so selfish to insist on having your own, when there is one somewhere wishing everyday that they had a caring family..
adopt!
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why be so selfish to insist on having your own
I don't think a woman or a couple that wants to have babies is 'selfish' .....
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I'm a girl, and I completely understand the fear of childbirth. But at the same time, with technology and all that good stuff...you know..
I don't know if I want to get married, but I definately want children. Having my biological children would be better, although adoption also seems like a good idea.
I think it would be alright to say that your boyfriend would be a bit disappointed if you were to tell him you didn't want to have children of your own.
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Yes. My bf and I have discussed that if we do get married and for some reasons we can't have children of our own or decide not to, we would definitely adopt. There are so many children needing good, loving homes.
But I'd marry my man for more reasons than just wanting children. Being parents isn't just a choice, it's a gift.
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nah, i agree with you...
there's so many unwanted children around the world, why be so selfish to insist on having your own, when there is one somewhere wishing everyday that they had a caring family..
adopt!
how is insisting of having your own child being selfish??? It's human nature to want to give birth to a child and passing on their genes to the next generation. You don't make sense.
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i wouldn't adopt ever. just cause everything that comes along with it, sometimes its not worth it, especially if the child is like me. so no, i wouldn't still marry. cause i want children of my own, so they dont ask me any questions besides where do babys come from?
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Uh, I plan on adopting and maybe having biological children too.
If my future bf does not want that then we would have a long talk.
If I truly loved him then there would be some compromise, this issue isn't worth breaking up over.
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Who knows what'll happen if I ever have offsprings to pass on the legacy (IMG:style_emoticons/default/phew.gif)
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i would love to adopt children... in fact, i think i would adopt before i even have my own children.... not that i'm scared of childbirth... when i am scared of child birth, i jus think of people around me who went thru it and think... if they did it, i'm sure i'll be fine. hahaha...
but still, yea i'd like to adopt
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yes, because I really dont want children anyways
lots of people marry and dont plan on having children
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I had a baby and yes childbirth sucks major ass. I think there are men who dont want kids and would be ok with that option or adoption. You just need to make it known before marraige comes up therefore the guy knows what he getting.
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i'm in a situation where my girl wants both...
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children is a really important aspect of marriage, so it would be wise to agree on what you guys really want first.
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nah, i agree with you...
there's so many unwanted children around the world, why be so selfish to insist on having your own, when there is one somewhere wishing everyday that they had a caring family..
adopt!
How is it selfish to have your own children?
I prefer to have my own blood running through my children.
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lots of women are scared of childbirth, but it's something that we all are gonna have to go through someday. I personally want to have kids and adopt.
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Well if I had a bf I hope he would want to stay with me, because I don't want any kids!
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i wouldnt want to marry a man who would want me to have his kid, but i would have his kids if i was inlove with him and him with me... besides childbirth hurts for a couple of hours... not ur whole life, now u dont want kids.. but then when your older you'll reconsider
