Question:
hi everyone. i just need some help on how to deal with everything that's going horribly wrong with my life.
problem #1: I had known my best friends since 3rd grade. Let's call her Bell. Ever since we started high school, she's been very distant from me. We don't talk that much anymore. We hang in like a big group, she hangs one half, and I hang w/ the other half. Everytime I tried to talk to her its always 'hi' and 'byes'. Once, she even asked where I was during lunch. And I was RIGHT in front of her face. (She was talking to one of my friend, and I was sitting next to her.) So yeah, I thought she was fake and stuff. Then someone told her that I thought she was fake. Then she went around asking if people hate me and stuff. Starting mini cooper about me also. I cried so much about this problem we had. So I decided to talk to her and now we're okay. Even though we are like complete strangers to each other. Today when we walked home, she just ignored me and talked to a friend. So yeah...
problem #2: Since I was a little girl in elementary school. I was always a tomboy. But when I was in my freshman year. I started to feel a bit more comfortable with myself. I cut my hair and people said I looked nice, cute, and other stuff. And my friend, Crystal, told her friends that I was copying her clother and stuff. And I don't even have new clothes. -.- So yeah, Crytal's friends ganged up on me saying that I was a poser and stealing Crystal's BF. I WAS NOT! Everytime Crystal and her BF(Kyle) had a problem, I was always there helping Kyle to get back with Crystal. She blames me for being the problem. Cuz Kyle used to like me, so yeah...But after the ganging up, I told them I wanted to talk to Crystal. And its not their problem, but it was between us. So Crystal and I are cool again. Except her friends still have the same opinion about me.
I got no clue what to do with my life. My freshman's year had been so bad, I want to get it over soon. My friends all told me to not care about what they say. Just be who you are, but I can't. I just feel guilty that I'm changing for the bad not good. I hope you guys get what I mean. Thanks. PLEASE HELP!
Answer:
problem#: You two have grown apart. It happens. You can either force the issue and look like a loser thats way too attached to her or just let her be since shes proved to not be a real friend. You did the same by calling her fake behind her back. Both of you shouldnt be friends with each other.
problem#2: that chick was pissed her boyfriend use to like you so she saw an opportunity to bash you and took it. Crystals friends cant mind thier own business but they're just being friends. Of course they're on her side.Stay out of Kyle and Crystals relationship. Let him and her handle thier own problems.
Your problem seems to be you cant accept you and your friends are growing up which means growing apart. You will gain and lose many more friends through high school and you just have to let them go. Also, stop trying to be cool with people that stab you in the back. If you think everything is okay with them you're probably wrong. I'm willing to bet they still dont like you. Stop caring so much what others think of you.
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^ totally agreed with the Lana
i noe how it feels to have someone whos close to u as blood suddenly becomes some stranger in ur life. oddly enough as we grow older things like this happens more and more often and u need to learn to accept things and move on. i suggest u find some other friends other than trying to stay friends with bell
as for Crystal she's just jealous. i mean wouldnt u be jealous if ur bf's crush keep on interfering with their relationship. i say stay out of it. if they are in a fight u are in no possition to help kyle back onto his feet that'll just enrage the gf even more.
stay strong buddy. hs is the best four years of a persons life if u noe how to work it. HWAITING!
Answer:
i hope you're not too bummed. i've experienced your problem #1 too.
what Lana and angelxglo said is good advice.
problem #1:
even though you guys were once really good friends, time always pulls the relationship apart when interests, surroundings, and other common activities change. it's hard to always maintain a close friendship if only one side wants to make it work and puts in the effort. i guess you just have to accept that the relationship has changed.
problem #2:
i agree with Lana that you should try to stay out of crystal and her bf's relationship. it's good of you to help them patch up everytime, but it's bad since you get accused and hated by others for nothing. don't mind what crystal's friends think! they just don't know anything (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue2.gif)
cheer up! with your nice personality, you can have many more better frds!
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well maybe if you didnt tlk to kyle and mind ur own business about their relationship she would leave you alone. cuz being friends with kyle make crystal hate you,
