Question:
mm interesting replies.
first of all, i'm a really bad liar. my mom can ALWAYS tell i'm lying, which is why i almost never lie to her (she WILL find out, she's that amazing). so no, I'm not gonna go without telling her. maybe it's a stupid move, but i don't think she'll like it when she finds out later on that i went without her knowing.
and yes i'm an adult but I respect my parents and I know that usually they look out for my best interest, whether i know/like it or not.
as to whether my bf's parents want me to go, they have repeatedly told me in person throughout the year that they want me to visit. It's not like it was one-time, trying-to-be-polite thing. they seemed sincere about it.
and to those who suggested the parentals talking, i'm just afraid that my mom will think i'm pressuring her to say yes because of my bf's parents. i understand that usually grown-ups have their way of communicating and whatnot, and plus, this could help her get to know my bf more...
i suck at making decisions.
Answer:
Do you HAVE to go? Its not like youre never going to see him again. You'll probably see him in the near future, wont you? if you go your mom will probably start hating your boyfriend. She will say that because of him, you've lost your mind etc.
And I dont know exactly how old you are, but even around your early 20s you can still be super immature. I really don't think that once you hit 18 you're an adult blah blah. At that age people are still making the transition from teenager to adulthood.
Answer:
There's nothing wrong with respecting your parents and I'm pretty sure most parents have their children's best interests at heart. That doesn't make them right all the time or mean you should always do what they say. Also there should be MUTUAL respect in a child/parent relationship. Especially when the child is grown. Meaning they might not agree with some of the choices you make but respect you enough to at least let you make them on your own. In this case your mom doesn't even seem to have any good reasons for you not to go. Just a bunch of what ifs that she's basing on her wild imagination.
