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I met this girl a few months ago and we really started off as good friends, even though I liked her, we just remained still good friends until one day I think I was trying to rush things too much and it pushed her away so she kinda started giving me like the ignoring shoulder type and acted more silent around me. We talked about this and we figured out our problems and everything.. and we really decided that we just wanna go back to the start and be the good friends we were before.
I truly want this too but... why is she still not talking to me then? On MSN talks, it just short answers..
she dosen't treat me the same way as other friends...
I dont wanna be one of those guys who hate a girl just because they dont like them back but I'm really started to feel frustrated that I'm at least giving up my feelings to just have a good friendship but she's still treating me like she dosen't want to talk to me.
I'm just... a person who's on her MSN list or something..
*And we've talked about this too... about how she ignores me and about how we don't talk like we did before, and she just says its because she feels akward from before about when I liked her... she says she cares about me alot as a friend and wants us to stay together
Okay... but she's still acting the same way...
I dont know what to do but confronting her again with this is too tiring, niether of us wants to have the talk again.. but I really hate thinking about why this is still going on..
How long does it take exactly for things to go back to normal
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maybe you should take the initiative to talk to her first?
i think she just feels awkward from previous incidents.. but with time and more communication i think it will get better.
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Once you step on the landmine, you lose a leg. You can't really get that leg back.
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Unless you tell her you stopped liking her or she likes you back, I'm afraid your problem isn't going to go away soon.
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just dont force it now? give her some time i guess..
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Forget about friendship. You took the chance of ruining your friendship by making a move on her...and lost. Now no matter how much you reassure her that you want to be just friends, it's too late. She'll never feel comfortable around you again because you're just another guy who sees her as a target...but you're even worse than those other guys because it probably seems to her like you tried to use friendship as a cover. She'll be polite to you but remain closed off..she's just waiting for someone else to catch your interest so that you'll forget about her and leave her alone. Yeah, you can pretty much forget about friendship with her.
You can't make her love you at this point but you can do something to make her hate you. Then at least she won't be feeling neutral about you or feeling pity for you like she probably does now. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) I'm only half serious (about doing something to make her hate you.....by the way that doesn't mean stalking or harassing because those things are just annoying).
Next time you shouldn't sacrifice friendship for something so much more volatile. Or if you really like a girl from the get-go then don't wait until you become good friends to tell her so.
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she's not worth your time, and you guys are just not meant to be.
but anyways, this situation sounds similar. it happened to me.
i think she feels awkward because she knows that you like her and she doesnt want you to like her (No offense). i think you should tell her that you dont like her anymore. but keep in mind that even if you do tell her, there might still be a small chance that she'll still ignore you. even though i told my crush i got over him, he still ignored me.
good luck.
btw, stop talking to her. dont be the one that talks first. let her MSN you.
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i could totally relate to you...
pain is love
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^ (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)
Yes I feel you too. Its hard but hey, you just gotta accept it.
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well i could say alotta things but i dont wanna complain anymore..
i'll just live my life and not try to force or rush things anymore
i can only hope things will get better with time ; but it felt good when we hugged and when she laid her head on my shoulder.
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh lol, anyway moving on! stay strong ^^
