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i fell in like with my best friend :/
but he likes this other girl, and of course being best friends
he tells me his problems and so hes been talkin to me about her
and it just hurts me and im not going to try to do something to get him to like hate her or anything
so i actually HELP him with her :/ and he MIGHT move
and im plannin on telling him i like him if he moves if not i guess ill keep quiet to myself
what do yll think and what would yll do if yll were in my situation?
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yes in a way i know this girl cause ive met her before
im just confused and allowing time to pass by to see what
the situation will be
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EDITT AGAIN
so yeah they are going out. cried. but i guess i gotta get over it now?
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help him and not tell him i like him
lol, but i'm an idiot
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do you wanna be friends or be more then friends?
is this like.. hes your Prince Charming , but she's his Cinderella?
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why don't you just come out with it.. worth a shot. the first time is so hard but after that it's nothing.
Just a suggestion, be honest and say,
I'm starting to envy this girl you like..
why?
cos I like you too.. so its actually difficult for me to hear about her sometimes, but I want whats best for you etc..
if he flips out and says whoah whoah.. i think we can't be friends..
then what kind of a best friend is that??
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i'm sort of in that position too... and it does hurt a lot.... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
he's still a good friend and i like him a lot... but i think he likes another girl... and it hurts to watch that... it's happened between us before too... this is the second time... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
he was giving me mixed signals so i asked him what was up, he said he feels the same way but doesn't think it's a good idea to be together. i respect that because he hasn't moved on yet... but it's hard to look at him sometimes...
i guess it depends on what you choose, if you think he's a really good friend and u want to keep him as a friend, then you shouldn't tell him... or u could... but don't pressure him or anything...just let him know but let him know that u support his relationship.... it's hard loosing ur best friend...
but if it hurts too much watching him love someone else, maybe u should try to move on... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) that's what i'm waiting for actually, when he makes a move, i'm going to leave him alone.
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do you wanna be friends or be more then friends?
is this like.. hes your Prince Charming , but she's his Cinderella?
its sounding like what Golden Zeta Gundam is saying.
but
Chiyori's appaorch is good. good luck
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Tell HIM. who knows in the end you two will end up together! goodluck!
(it hurts i know and it's really complicated being in that situation. been there. done that.hehe. after you told him of what u feel you'll then know what to do NEXT!)
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I've been in this situation before. It hurts like hell, but yet I actually sat there and listened to him ramble on for hours about her. Yeah, it really hurts, and sometimes I felt like talking bad about the girl he likes so he wouldn't like her anymore. But I never did. He ended up not like the girl anymore.
I never told him I liked him either. And a part of me til today still likes him but I know being friends with him is better than being nothing at all.
But in your situation, if you want to tell him before he moves, you might not want to do that. Since what if he likes you back? Then wouldn't you regret not telling him about you feelings earlier? lol, I don't know what to say. .
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have you met this girl etc?
think he could be talkin about you indirectly?
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I've been in a situation like yours in my high school career.
I love this guy, but he didn't know. He would come to me and ask for advice. I would always try to help him, but I always felt bad for myself because I knew he didn't like me.
It's a sad feeling.
I think you should just give him some time before telling him that you like him.
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I'm also in that situation the person is my best friend and I know he loves someone else because he talks about her alot and what to do to be with her. It does hurt, a part of you wishes they'd be saying that stuff about you and another part wishes that stuff wasn't true.
I'd say if you really like him then to tell him because you never know what could become of it if you never tell him.
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I say tell him you can't help him anymore then confess you like him too. I know how that feels because I've experienced this situation before and it hurt so bad when I kept helping him and the girl because they're my friends when inside I was always in pain and wanted to cry but couldn't so I acted happy for them and now they're still together 2 years on but I still feel a bit of fool. Although I don't like the guy anymore the pain I went through trying to help them was too much and I regret never telling him how I felt. I say it's best you at least let him know even if nothing prgresses from the friendship level. It's best he knew and you don't end up regretting never saying anything. Good luck!
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u should tell him no matter what. keeping it inside u is... not good.
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u should tell him no matter what. keeping it inside u is... not good.
but if she tells him and he doesn't feel the same way.. then nothing's gonna be the same again.. he wouldn't feel comfortable talking to her about stuff like this... (i'm not saying he doesn't like you in that way.. lol^^)
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^if he's truly her bestfriend, then he would try to understand where she's comming from. There would be some awkwardness at first, but it will pass.
you should tell him you like him, regardless if he likes you same way or not, doing that will stop him from talking to you about the other girl. which could be quite painful.
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that sux.. what a sucky position to be in!
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OOOOH BOY...
well i've been in this situation before
and im not going to tell you what to do..
but im just saying..
its better to stay friends..
if he doesnt like you back.. it can get awkward.. and you might not even be friends anymore
do you wanna lose that?
and maybe hes really happy with that girl..
but im just saying from experience x]
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haha it's sora =O
anyways. mm... ive been in your situation before.. except i always liked my 'best friend'... and he liked me too, but then stopped, i guess, and then decided we should be best friends haha.
he always told me about his girl problems, and i always helped him with them.. even though i felt badly about it. i guess that's what you do if you truly care about him, right?
i'm pretty sure word got out that i liked him.. but we kinda just.. didn't acknowledge it. he went to college.. and i slowly forgot about him. i never told him outright that i liked him, and i had planned to before he left... but i just never did. maybe i'll tell him one day? i'm pretty sure he already knows though.
that probably didn't help you at all.. lol.. but i guess i sympathize with your situation. if you feel like there's aNY chance of him likin you in return.. then you should tell him. if not.. then just keep it to yourself until he moves or whatever.
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tat a terrible thing...help him and if he get rejected tell him u like him when he feel a lil better hahaha
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Don't regret not telling him, for better or for worse. You should tell him.
