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well from your past posts and everything, you both seem really serious about this relationship. my feeling is, he just needs time to clear up his mind, and find his priorities. yeah, a month is long, but he did promise to get back together with you, and its your choice whether to believe it or not. my thought is, dont do anything with anyone else, cause if u guys DO get back together,
qft right there.
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Now there's a response I like.
But.. Wow. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mellow.gif)
For the first time I'm not negative like other Soompiers.
There could be alot of reasons why he wants a break. You've said you're on long distance right? Could it possibly be that he just wants to get over his insecurity of the relationship not working?
A break doesn't necessarily mean break up. Maybe to those a/sholes who go around playing girls, it is. But.. (sorry, you made a typo. You meant a year and about 2 months right?) if he's really been with you for that long, you gotta give him the benefit of a doubt.
Time plays alot in this.
And I'm guessing the repliers in this thread missed this little bit.
..With this, I don't see why the replies are so negative.
Don't stress, please. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif)
Maybe he's just feeling that you two are falling out and need time apart so the relationship can repair itself naturally. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif) (Hey! It does happen. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif) )
Wish for the best, Taesungiee. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) & I hope this post wasn't useless. 3
^ ^ thanks~
thanks wendy and everyone who replied
i was so shocked but i didn`t like bawl.
i planned to wait anyway
i have summer school and i applied for a job
and i could hang out with my friends~
so like i knew i could occupy myself.
anyway yea i`ll wait a month and whatever happens happens~
i guess the worst thing that came out of this is my mom hates him now
lmao~
thanks everyone i`m cheered up a bit.
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i never realli knew wut break meant..haha but now i guess i do
dun wry bout it..a month..go out, meet new ppl. if u guys miss each other then u can get back together..=) good luck
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well in my experience and seeing relationships around me... breaks usually mean either he doesn't really know how to tell u to end it, so he feels a break sounds better... . either that or.... he wants a month to play around.... and if he doesn't like it... he thinks he can just come back....
but thats just the guys where i live....
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it means he want s to get a whileto figurethings out bu tin my terms its liek lets let it cool fora month then lets just move on
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are u the chick that dint get to spend ur anni wit ur bf?
well if u are, i think this break means the end
u guys are taking a break caz of ur ld relationship, so what's the point of taking a break if he's gna continue living far away from u after the break ends
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u guys are taking a break caz of ur ld relationship, so what's the point of taking a break if he's gna continue living far away from u after the break ends
You're taking a WAY too negative approach to this.
LD relationships DO work. It's a two person effort, considering not too much bothers the both of them.
Just because she stated the relationship was becoming a mess, it doesn't mean it was because of the distance. It could be because they're falling out, or they're having troubles. There's too many possibilities.
Since this thread is only 2 pages long, I'm just going to say go back to the first page and read my previous reply. I've stated/quoted reasons why breaks do happen, and it's from personal experiences myself so you can't say I know nothing and I'm making it up.
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what pessimistic replies you've gotten =/
even though i agree in a way, but i have an optimistic thought to the 'taking a break'
one of my ex (we've dated for about 1.5 years) wanted a break from the relationship. i thought it was odd because it was sorta a long distance when he went to train for the marines (he was gone for half the relationship) and then wanted a break from me. it was based on that saying 'if you let something go and they come back, it's real' or something something.
but i refused to have a break because i kept thinking he didnt like me enough and break up. then i confronted him about it, and i guess that was his deciding point that he cant go on with the relationship because i was being super disagreeable and stubborn. and broke up with me =/
just wait, i know it's hard. if things all go well, then great! and congrats! and enjoy the 'new' life!
but if it doesnt work out, well....you learn and mature a lot from long relationships (i'm not sure if this was your longest or not, but speaking as if it wasnt~). it's all worth it when you find someone else better you know? i currently feel that right now ^^
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You're taking a WAY too negative approach to this.
LD relationships DO work. It's a two person effort, considering not too much bothers the both of them.
Just because she stated the relationship was becoming a mess, it doesn't mean it was because of the distance. It could be because they're falling out, or they're having troubles. There's too many possibilities.
Since this thread is only 2 pages long, I'm just going to say go back to the first page and read my previous reply. I've stated/quoted reasons why breaks do happen, and it's from personal experiences myself so you can't say I know nothing and I'm making it up.
lol.
well long distance mean about 2-3 hours away from each other
and i saw him about once every 2 weeks which isn`t so bad i guess.
maybe cuz i couldn`t see him so i called him a lot (do you guys remember that thread?)
i wanted to know what he was up to everyday
and he felt a little trapped.
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lol.
well long distance mean about 2-3 hours away from each other
and i saw him about once every 2 weeks which isn`t so bad i guess.
maybe cuz i couldn`t see him so i called him a lot (do you guys remember that thread?)
i wanted to know what he was up to everyday
and he felt a little trapped.
If it's something like that then you really don't have to worry.
I still stand by my assumptions that he just needs to get things together so that he's sure everything really is fine.
Unless he's a fussy ma-bober.
In which I don't think so because he's been with you for a year and 2 mths. I don't think he would stay with you that long if he couldn't handle this in the first place, right? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
I don't blame you for calling him so much, although you're quite lucky. Being 2 hours away from each other isn't as bad as being 3daydrive +/few hour plane ride like other LD relationships.
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Good things happen to good people. Don't worry. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) 3
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he said he promised that you guys would be back together. a break does usually mean that but it could also mean he's taking some time off to see figure out his feelings for you. and if he's loyal then i hope he doesn't/wouldn't use the word promise that loosely. but guys are guys and a promise is not taken as seriously as it once was...
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lol.
well long distance mean about 2-3 hours away from each other
and i saw him about once every 2 weeks which isn`t so bad i guess.
maybe cuz i couldn`t see him so i called him a lot (do you guys remember that thread?)
i wanted to know what he was up to everyday
and he felt a little trapped.
thats not that bad =_= be an d my ex were liek 10 mintues away from eachother but beucase of my mo i didn't get to see him or talkto him for a month =o we wsurvived but o_O that relationship was kidna bad =(
but yeah work it out he probably needs time to think things through
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In my opinion, when I say I need a break, I just need some time to myself and organize myself. I need some clearification and see if my feelings are try or whatnot.
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There could be MANY reasons why he wanted to take a short Break with the relationship. It might not even be your fault at all and it might be some pesonal problem or family thing that he might want to take care of.
Yeah~ its true that when people say that they want to take a break, it CAN meant that its another way of slowly or nicely breaking up, but it MAY not be.
If it bothers you or concerns you a lot, maybe you should tell him that since you two are in a relationship, communication is an important thing in maintaining a healthy one where you two can help each other out and be there to support each other emotionally and physically.
It depends to on the maturity of the person and if they are an honest person.
Let time takes it corse and ask him later if it bothers you still.
Good luck
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it's never a good sign when a guy wants to completely stop seeing thier girlfriend even if it's for a limited time
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I still love you, but I need some space kind of thing.
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i don't know any of the details of your relationship... but... i don't think this break is gonna turn out good.... a month??? that's a looong time. i get sad if i can't talk to my bf on the phone for one day. hopefully, he'll miss u a lot and just forget about the break (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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YOURS2ENVY,
altho it's good to encourage someone but i think all you're doing is implanting false hope in the original poster's mind. duno why ur so positive but get real, dude wants a month break...he said he was freaked out cause she calls him like 100x an hour...i don't see WHY he'd wanna not break up.
altho i dont wanna sound harsh, i just want to give you a clear reality answer unlike these fake cover up answers to just give you false hope. just look for other guys or enjoy being single till something else comes up. u'll recover all you need is time and lots of it so i suggest u get a month head start...and if it DOES for some strange reason turns out to be good news (altho i would suspect he just wants you noe what) then good for u.
all in all...best wishes to you
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first and foremost, i hope you feel better about your relationship.(:
secondly, i haven't had a bf in thee looongesst time. but my best friend has been with her bf for about 2-3 years? they've had MANY breaks but always ended up getting back together. the causes of the breaks were things such as 'i love you, but i need space.' & 'oh i heard he liked another girl blah blah.'
they always end up getting back together though. my best friend even went out with another guy on one of these breaks and she still missed her bf like crazy.
he did PROMISE that you two would get back together right? well if he's the guy who you think is right for you, he wouldn't make false promises. for over a year you guys have been a strong couple and overcoming obstacles(sp?) so you should overcome this one. trust him if you think he deserves that trust based on your relationship.
i don't know if i made any sense at all, but just have faith in your relationship and everything should be okay. hope for the best and if it doesn't happen, everything will be alright. don't cry because it's over, but smile because it happened.
good luck.(:
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he's checking with another girl but he doesn't know for sure what he's feeling
it might also mean he just want the time for himself and time for the relationship to heal but i dunno...
don't lose hope but just be prepared for the worst
hope it helps
