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How do you cope with your boyfriend/girlfriend when they're having problems with their life that doesn't have to do with you, but they're like saying stuff like i want to die and i hate my life.
I don't really know what to say.
I just go I'm sorry. That sucks.
How am I supposed to handle it?
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is it really bad? does he do it a lot of the time?
cause if he's obviously miserable, sometimes you want to help but you just can't. sometimes people have to work out their own problems on their own. you can provide support but it sounds like he's trying to depend on you and find the answers from you.
if he's really unhappy, he needs to find a way to solve the problems himself. not depend on you for them. or the relationship is not gonna work.
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Ask him why he feels that way and help him self improve. Unless he is not willing then there is nothing you can do.
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It's a phase. He'll grow out of it.
For the mean while, just support him and show him the positive side of life. If there are consistencies with his suicidal thoughts then recommend seeing a therapists or a professional for guidance. Also tell him to open up his thoughts to you and listen, be there for him obviously.
There isn't much you can do if he keeps resisting, but just keep being the intiative and provide him with lax. Eventually, he'll notice how selfish he has been with these suicidal thoughts and not trying to cope with them or improve for the sake of both your lives.
Enjoi.
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I just go, then die.
I can't stand when people say that stuff, cause they're just looking for attention.
But if they're a close friend of mine, I'll go like, But why?? I make everyone's life awesome!!!! or I just change the subject...
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my older sister is like that
and she calls her bf every night and complains and cusses at him
but he still likes her
they claim they love each other
i feel so sorry for him (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
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ask them if theres anything you can do to make it better.
if not then...err.......
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I dont date people like that.
If it was a serious then I would try to console them and make them think of better things.
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I just go, then die.
I can't stand when people say that stuff, cause they're just looking for attention.
But if they're a close friend of mine, I'll go like, But why?? I make everyone's life awesome!!!! or I just change the subject...
Wow, that`s exactly how I do it too, lol.
I think you should ask him why and tell him how much he is gratefull for.
I swear people don`t realize the beauty that surrounds them ;
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Probably ask what's wrong with it.
But I'd only care if the person meant anything to me. Anyone else and it would just be ya sure the world doesn't need you anyways.
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uh my bf doesn`t do that
but i guess you could ease the tension
and say you`ll go get the knife?
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well of course tell him/her the good stuff to life
help him/her all the way, always be there for them
but if u've done so much that nothing else can be done
then it's up to him/her
afterall, it's their life!
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alot of times they just want someone to listen, not so much give advice or respond...but im kinda mean i would just tell them to whine to anyone else i cant handle that kind of depression
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I just go, then die.
I can't stand when people say that stuff, cause they're just looking for attention.
But if they're a close friend of mine, I'll go like, But why?? I make everyone's life awesome!!!! or I just change the subject...
That's the wrong thing to do. Doing that is going to make things worse for them, and you're just going to make them feel more worthless than they already are.
It's easier said than done for them to get over the things that they went through. Just because you're living an optimistic life (I'm assuming), doesn't mean that others are having the time of theirs. Some just aren't lucky and went through so much that they can't handle it anymore and just want to escape. People don't want to die just because of one negative thing that happened. It could be constant negative issues that they face, that hurts them emotionally and mentally.
You have to be empathetic for them, because you aren't in their shoes so you shouldn't really judge. I'm pretty sure the reason why they want attention is because they seek help.
Like rinimeatballs mentioned, just listen to what he has to say. Let him let it all out. No advice. No preaching or negative comments. Just listen to him what he has to get off his chest, and be there for him and support him.
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Ask what's wrong and if they don't tell you then let him know that your here for him and to listen to him if he decides he wants to talk and when he does just listen and if he wants your feedback or advice give some of it to him.
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dont say im sorry and that sucks
omg..! that would just make them feel even worse
u should talk to them about it!!
thatz what a bf/gf is there forr...
to solve problems together...
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I just go, then die.
I can't stand when people say that stuff, cause they're just looking for attention.
But if they're a close friend of mine, I'll go like, But why?? I make everyone's life awesome!!!! or I just change the subject...
I do the exact same thing.
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there can be a few reasons he's saying it:
1. he wants attention
2. it's a phase, maybe lasts for like a few weeks or something
3. he really might be having a hard time in life and needs someone to talk to. If he is constantly (over excessively) saying he wants to die, just talk it out with him. Don't tell him that sucks cause it doesn't help his situation any. If it's a serious case you need to see things through their p.o.v.. Although everything might be fine and dandy for you, it may not be for him. Just listen to his problems and maybe offer advice. Or if it's really out of your hands tell him to go seek therapy.
In any case, I would try to ask what's wrong and help in anyway possible. Also, he shouldn't really hate life completely cause he has you.
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just tell them bluntly, people that commit suicide is a good thing. one less idiot in the gene pool.
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sometimes there's not exactly something for you to do... but i hate it when i hear somebody i care for say they want to die, because the last thing you want is for him/her to be gone. you should ask what's wrong, help him set the story straight ya' know?
