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My question is would you choose to continue or start a relationship with your bf/gf even though you know it won't last?
My best friend started her current relationship expecting it to last less than six months. They've been dating for about a year and a half now and they seem really in love, monopolizing each other's lives. I found out recently that she's tired of it and knows that their relationship won't last, mainly because she'll be breaking up with him at the end of highschool (next year). Meanwhile, though tired of it, she'll continue their happy and intimate relationship as if it'll last forever.
I'm just wondering how can you continue a relationship if you expect it to end?? It's a waste of time and energy and feelings. What do you guys think?
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i agree its a total waste of time, not only is it wrong but its very misleading to the other person, leading them on to think you still hold those same feelings when you really dont.
i have done this before, and i deeply regret misleading that person to think i still wanted a loving relationship when i only wanted sex..
IM SORRY W.S if you see this.
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If I knew the relationship wouldn't last, I wouldn't start or continue it. I agree, it'd be a waste of time. It's better to end it early/never start at all if nothing's there. It's also unfair to the other person because they're the ones who are going to get hurt most.
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uhm yes i did.
well actually it was a fling almost...
he asked me out and i said no
he asked why
and i gave some crap answer that he was younger and blah blah
but truth was i knew it was only temporary
and it was 2 months later
maybe i was lonely...
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I was in a situation like that.
My ex asked me out and I accepted cause for one, he was 2 grades ahead of me, and he was nice?
But I never really crushed on him or anything, so I expected it to last like 2 months.
But guess what? I fell in love with him for about a year.
Then the feelings started to fade...to almost nothing.
And I was gonna let the relationship stay until he graduated so it'd be a mutual break.
But it was really unfair...cause when I got mad at him and ignored him, I saw how upset he got...it really hurt to see ME lead someone on like that.
So I broke up with him and it's for the better. He's practically over me and I'm much happier.
And to answer your original question, yes I would. Unless the reason why it won't last is cause he's moving away or something. That's a def no.
You never know what might happen. I didn't know I'd love him.
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i've been wondering about this for a long time..but nevertheless there have been countless relationships that started just a few months before we all graduated from high school.... o__O ?
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If i knew it would end..i would still give it a try. try to at least feel the feeling of being in love and SAVOR THE MOMENT..even just for once.
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It could be out of convenience for one another, or just ufor that person. I wouldn't start anything at all if I didn't like the person enough. Call me jaded or a little bias but I don't see much 'life' in highschool relationships. It's highschool. I know that you will, always have that 'one' person inhighschool, your sweetheart.
As Peter said, it is wrong and misleading it's a waste of effort and hollow emotion and it's also lying to yourself. It could be perceived as, when your s\o says they love you and you say you love them too without meaning it. That's wrong and real hollow.
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I can't really answer that because I feel like my ex can answer it better than me lol. I was in a situation or should I say my ex. I wanted to break up with him in the end of the junior year. He knew about it and we talked about it. But he still sweet to me and act like a bf until the last day of school when we called off.
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If there is too much risk, I wouldn't get involved in the first place. Because once you're involved, it is harder to get out. But if the person was extraordinary, I would date him. But I would do my very best not to let the relationship end, even if it seems it could.
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Trying is better than wondering what if.
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Nope...I will never start/continue a relationship that won't last. It's a waste of time and during the time wasted, I could've found someone else.
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If it was somebody I really, really, really liked, I would. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mellow.gif)
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If I knew it wouldn`t last, because I felt that
I was losing interest, I`d definitely end it. First of all, I wouldn`t want
myself to be miserable, or him for misleading. As you grow out of love,
he might be doing the complete opposite. So, to save both from hurt, end it.
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i guess it all depends on the situation.
you really can't judge a person who continues the relationship even though they know it's going to end because there may be so many reasons why.
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My question is would you choose to continue or start a relationship with your bf/gf even though you know it won't last?
My best friend started her current relationship expecting it to last less than six months. They've been dating for about a year and a half now and they seem really in love, monopolizing each other's lives. I found out recently that she's tired of it and knows that their relationship won't last, mainly because she'll be breaking up with him at the end of highschool (next year). Meanwhile, though tired of it, she'll continue their happy and intimate relationship as if it'll last forever.
I'm just wondering how can you continue a relationship if you expect it to end?? It's a waste of time and energy and feelings. What do you guys think?
does the guy know this as well?
if he doesn't, then you're friend is being really selfish.
she's just using him for her own pleasure...and tossing him later cuz she thinks it wont work out.
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I don't see much 'life' in highschool relationships. It's highschool.Agreed. They're pointless.
I wouldn't because I don't believe in starting a fruitless endeavor. I expect results after investing all that time and energy.
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thats pointless, i wouldnt even enter a relationship in the first place if i knew it wouldnt last, wat do u think of an open relationship?
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Umm... I did... but I didn't think it was going to end because one of us was moving away or something. I just thought that my feelings were gonna fade pretty fast (past experience with other guys), or he was gonna dump me. But then... I think fell in love... or at least waaay more in love than with any other guy...
You never know... give it a try =]
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UH, yeah, it is a waste of time. Good luck to her and her next relationships. Why would you go on with a relatioship in the first place if you have no hope of it lasting. Teenagers these days...
