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I have an increidbly good friend for which whom I have known for 4 years now. Personally I think she's incredibly shallow. She says she dosen't want a bf. but at the same time boys seems to be the only topic she talks about. presonally i think she's slightly desperate. If a guy just simply looks in her direction, she will start to say how hot she is,and honestly she falls for any guy thats hot pretty fast. Recently I attempted to hook her up with one of my boyfriends incredibly good friends. i love the guy. funniest guy i've ever met. they were intro'd about a year earlier, but my boyfriend and I decided to do something about it since they have such a good connection. By the way the guy who i will call BOB isn't the best looking guy. He's pretty decent. He has his own attributes to offer physically and mentally. So he started to like her on his own, and she apparently didn't come around to that yet. Somehow along the way, she started to fall for my boyfriends cousin who I think is pretty good looking. But she's only known him for a couple of weeks. I know for a fact she only likes him for his looks and it gets pretty annoying when u know this girl comes to u for every problem she has. I am pretty sure this thing with my bf's cousin won't last. So i'm pretty pissed of the fact that she's gonnna come running back to me even though she didn't listen to me. I told her she should take it slow, and keep her options open. and she fully agreed. but to my suprise I found out from my boyfriend's cousin whom I am incredibly good terms with, tells me she told him a bunch of things about her wanting to be with him. so i was pretty angry when i found out she lied to me. we only made the deal the day earlier. Another reason I KNOW that this for sure isn't going to work is because my bf's cousin dosen't have any interest in her. you see, my bf's cousin and BOB are good friends. So why would he want to do that to BOB? While my friend sneaks around BOB's back with my bf's cousin, BOB is sittting there there gonna have something. She leads him on. and it makes me angry because she knows he likes her, so she takes advantage of it. I personally don't think she deserves his company because his company is truly great. By DO YOU GUYS think i should reathe way, since i've known her for 4 years. i know her inside out, and she's always screwed herself over by just going for looks and not looking any deeper than that. I hate it when she comes around to me and starts complaining about the guys in her life. she does it to herself. When i told her she was shallow, she was incredibly offended. I was like wth? U SHOULD KNOW THIS ALREADY. its only obvious you treat guys who aren't up to ur standerds pretty bad. She got angry with me. and we had an argument because she apprently can't take the truth. SO MY POINT IS..[font=System]
Do you guys think i should put up with her crap?
Even when she didn't listen to me and asked for
my dang help? I'm 100% postive things are going
to turn out like this.
so wat do u guys think?
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EDIT*: by the way guys I do tell her that she should just back off and I do tell her that he dosent like her but she's apparently in denial and always tries to start an argument with me and always telling me that i'm wrong. thanks for the replys guys
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The reason why she asks for advice is cause she likes talking about how guys like her.
I wouldn't put up with that crap, your words aren't getting through to her.
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^ exactly what i was about to say.
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The reason why she asks for advice is cause she likes talking about how guys like her.
I wouldn't put up with that crap, your words aren't getting through to her.
i agree. if you say it 100x it prolly still wont get through her head. tell her straight up. tell her to leave him alone.and you cant take the crap shes making you put up with. and that he dont like her. maybe then she'll back of your bfs cousin ;/
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I think you're finished with putting up with her crap. Obviously, she shows no sign of attentions towards to your words. It's like words coming into her ears and out through the other ear. Let her learn what she's suppose to learn. If she screws up, tell her learnt your lesson yet?.
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Well for me i think the guy should just tell her that he doesn't like her and stop bloody flirting with her if she's getting these messages. Is he a man or what?
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that girl needs better things to brag about ==
I say get the crap away from her.
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holy shnit (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ohmy.gif) this girl is exactly like my cousin.
well she's so conceited and calls me just to tell me about guys she likes.
and how hot she is. not.
and she uses guys/ people too. oh the joy
i've known her for about as long as you have.
but yea this past year or maybe i was too blind +_+
i'm so sick of her. its like these kinda people just drop them cause they'll bring you down with them somehow.
and they honestly just make a bunch of drama out of nada.
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This is exactly what I went through this year with my 'best friend'. It will never end up right, honestly people like her will not take second opinions, they say they get you but they don't. And they like everything average looking and above. I cut off the ties I had with her and now we're just whatever, not good friends just simply friends. She's a burden to today's society. Stay out of it
Maybe it will be different for you, what does it matter what I say anyway
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if you dislike her so much ..well rather know what's going to happen.. why do you go to such great lengths to help her find a guy and trust her?
give up...
one day she'll learn...
=)
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yeah when my friend does that i just figure out she wants me to listen to her problem but she's actually enjoying it and she doesnt want a solution from me so i just let her speak and brush it off .. say ok to whatever she's saying and nod as though you agree with her . that's being nice
but if you really dont wanna take th BS then tell her straight up to listen up , it's not your your problem and you're not interested in listening to her bull-crap cause it doesnt matter to you , so stop telling you every single problem you have if she's not going to take your advice anyways ....what's the point right??
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Well, you could give her another chance. But I think it'll take effort to get to her. If you tell her the problem and what she really should change and she doesn't listen, her loss.
Or you can ditch her.
