Question:
I need a place to vent. Loving someone, liking someone.. and all that stuff is good when everything goes well.. However, when you start having problems.. it can be a pain in the a$$!. When they stop caring about you no matter how much you care about them, you start to tell yourself that you're a stupid person for caring so much. Finally, you stop loving them and you guys are going to break up. And then.. what?! Another problem to solve! Then, you decide not to break up and give your relationship another chance.. And then what? You can't communicate with them and you still have feelings for the other person, but at the same time.. you still love the person you're with. Argh.. Having problems in your relationship is already too much. Liking someone else while still in a relationship is even more tough. Your heart not being able to settle is tough tough! I don't know what I want!
I think all this good stuff is annoying. I'd be better off without all this stuff. At least I'd be able to focus on something else. Dude.. it bothers me when my relationship is unsteady. And it bothers me when I don't know what I want and when I'm indecisive.
I love my boyfriend. I can't communicate with him anymore. I don't think we'll be together later. I don't see it being possible. I don't want to like anyone.. at all... I think I'll be less miserable.
Who else think these stuff are annoying?
Edit: I was just venting because it would make me feel better than to keep my thoughts inside. Maybe I don't know how it feels to be in love. But I know it when I say I love someone. Loving someone is different from being in love with them. I love my brother. I'm not in love with him. I care about his health. I care about the things he does. I'm not in love with him. I love my boyfriend. I care for him a lot. Same concept. So, I know for sure that I do love him.
This also makes me re-realize something. Everybody who posts a topic here about their situations and problems normally doesn't get good feedbacks. It's not because people aren't willing to help. It's because people are not close enough to you to understand your situation or your problems.. unless you're one of those people who will type up your whole life or whole situation with every small detail.. making those long topics that people normally just scan through. I think people are too quick to judge. I hope I don't offend anyone.
For example, mstweebaclian implied that I should break up (at least that's what I think) because of the fact that I can't communicate with my boyfriend anymore. Relationships are much more complicated than that. There might be stories behind reasons. It's annoying, to me, when what I know I should want is not what I want. When my heart doesn't follow my head. I know I'd be better off without relationships (bf and gf kind), because I won't be sitting here late at night thinking about stuff when I could do something more productive like.. sleeping. Life is quite simple, it's us who complicates it. I somewhat agree with what you said here. That's why I rather uncomplicate it so life could be simple.. again.
I think love is more than just respect. Well, it obviously is. When you love somoene, you care for them a lot. That's one sign among many that tells you that you love someone.
..or maybe I'm just rambling because I should be sleeping.. and I'm not.
Answer:
What's good about having a boyfriend if you can't communicate with him? If you started to like someone else, then maybe you don't really like your boyfriend as much as you think you do. And I think you basically know what you should do.
It's not annoying if you got your priorities straight. Life is quite simple, it's us who complicates it.
Answer:
Let me ask you something. Do you know what love is? Do you know the difference between liking and loving? Extra stuff: Do you want to know why you should never say I love you to your gf or bf?
Liking someone, is where you like someone because of their appearance or personality. Loving someone is respecting someone. Love=Respect, that is what love is.
EXTRA
You never say you love your bf or gf, because even though you think they're nice and all, when you're not there, they would be at a party or having sex. A girl hides the real self from guys, so do the guys. They would probably be dating 4 other guys/girls, and you wouldnt know it. Would you respect someone for that? who knows.
IN YOUR CASE:
Having a gf or bf is just an obstacle to getting your goal.
Answer:
^love is not just respect. love does not equal respect. love INCLUDES respect.
